I'm having a DFW baby!!

Kelinik

Oh snaggles no hun! Your boy is old enough for you to have a chat with him and tell him you're sorry that you shouted and explain that you and his Dad are just really upset over Gran. Whilst you're there you can ask him why he's misbehaving at school as if its a recent thing it might be because he's upset too or something to do with that scrumptious little bub you're growing. Kids go through funny phases and that most definately DOES NOT mean you're a bad parent or failing him or anything else daft like that that you might be thinking.

And I hope that hubby will come to his senses and realise that you are just as upset as him so you two can talk. x {hugs}

Snaggles

Thank you so much, I'm sat here in floods of tears but strangely not feeling quite so overwhelmed now I've let it out a bit. Don't know what I'd do without this website sometimes xxx

Kelinik

Snaggles

Just had a little chat with DS (who is still awake as usual.....bedtime 7.30pm....sleeptime 9.30pm ), gave him a big hug and told him how sorry I was, and explained I was upset because I was missing Grandma so much. He said 'I forgive you Mummy, I'll cuddle you better when you're sad', which made me cry even more!

slowlyfading

Snaggles, he sounds so sweet -hug-

Kelinik

Snaggles wrote:

He said 'I forgive you Mummy, I'll cuddle you better when you're sad', which made me cry even more!

There you are then, he sounds like a little boy with fab parents if ever there was one!

lil_me

Snaggles your little boy is such a credit to you, what a wonderful thing for him to say. Thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time, thinking of you all.

Snaggles

Thanks again for your kind words and thoughts tonight.

Me & hubby have had a long, tearful talk, I explained I was feeling lonely and rejected at the time in my life when I need him the most. He told me that he knows he is being distant, and feels awful because he feels he is letting me down, but was afraid of breaking down in front of me and letting his feelings out, because he didn't want to upset me more. We gave each other a huge cuddle and I feel like we are a lot closer again.

Thank you for the advice, and your lovely comments about my son have brought (even more) tears to my eyes - I feel so proud of him.

Love to you all xxx

kathfisch

Snaggles, I'm really sorry that you were feeling so overwhelmed and emotional yesterday, big hug from me too! Your son really does sound like a lovely little boy and I hope your chat with him and hubby helped you to feel better. It seems perfectly normal and understandable to me to be emotional with everything you have going on... not like a bad wife or parent at all!

And as for feeling like you're moaning on... what would we all do without this place hey? That's what we're all here for, to listen and give hugs and generally be a place to let stuff out!!

Hope you're feeling a bit happier today

Kath xxx

Sarahsaver

CHildren understand a lot.
I'm sure it's because I lost my father as a child the birth of my 3 kids made me have very morbid thoughts. I also lost my Nanna who I was very close to, so I had achieved these 3 lovely kids but two of the people I most wanted to see them will never get to see them. When my first, my daughter, was born I lay on the bed looking at her in floods of tears because she was so perfect yet life can be so flippin sad too.
They have all this to come, your son is indeed a credit to you.
I had an emotional day yesterday as I had my coil taken out.:eek: Feels like I'm on the edge of a scary precipice I want to walk upon but nevertheless a leap into the unknown. DD gave me a hug and said Im the best mum in the world. Part of growing up is dealing with emotions, and grief is one of these. We have to let them deal with it and you have clearly done a good job as a mother.
Tell your son how proud of him you are and how important his hugs are. I am going to go now before I short circuit my keyboard;)