I'm having a DFW baby!!

njc12

Hi Snaggles - I have been reading your thread with a mixture of happiness and sadness. I just wanted to say how sorry I am about your grandma.

I do agree with Spud about entering and leaving this world - my grandma died 2 months after I was born and my grandad died two months before my sister was born.

Natasha will give everyone in the family something to focus on and so much happiness too when she is born.

Take care,

njc12 xxx

spud30

I forgot to mention, I love your baby's name Snaggles. Very pretty and girly.

x

Kelinik

Sorry to hear your sad news Snaggles. x

System

Sorry to hear your news Snaggles. Good luck for the future.

Lenny

bobble_hat

Hi Snaggles,

Just wanted to send hugs your way. Really sorry for your loss.

Bobbly x

Snaggles

Thank you all for your messages, they really help xxx

I had a bit of a rough night, just couldn't stop crying. DS said to me 'Mummy, it's the saddest day of my life', and although I've been alive an awful lot longer than he has, it's the saddest of my life too.

He has gone to school okay today, but his teacher knows that he has been upset, and she is keeping an eye on him for me. I'm not working until Thursday, so I'm staying by the phone in case they ring.

I had a few twinges under my bump during the night, which worried me a bit, but I'm fairly sure that they were just because I've been sitting in awkward positions and on uncomfortable chairs, because all seems well with the baby, she's as lively as ever.

On the subject of money saving.....well, it hasn't been a good week really, in fact we are going to have to take on some additional debt - during all the recent bad weather, we have realised that our front and back doors are in very bad condition, as the wind is whistling round them, and the rain is coming through the wood (there are cracks in it!). So we are having new doors, which will cost £900....eeek! We are trying to look at it as an investment though, as we may well sell the house within the next 3-4 years, so having decent doors instead of ill fitting, ugly doors will make it easier to sell (the rest of the house is already double glazed). We have a flexible, offset mortgage, so the money will be borrowed from there, and paid off from a sharesave due in August, so it's not too bad I suppose, although it feels wrong to be borrowing money when we are trying our hardest to get out of debt completely!

immoral_angeluk

njc12 wrote:

Hi Snaggles - I have been reading your thread with a mixture of happiness and sadness. I just wanted to say how sorry I am about your grandma.

I do agree with Spud about entering and leaving this world - my grandma died 2 months after I was born and my grandad died two months before my sister was born.

Natasha will give everyone in the family something to focus on and so much happiness too when she is born.

Take care,

njc12 xxx

I tend to agree as well. 6 months after our first born was born my mum died of lung cancer, and then a few months ago Dh's nan died.

Snaggles

I'm really sorry to hear that Immoral, it must have been very difficult to cope with xxx

Snaggles

Feeling a bit sorry for myself

I've been okay all day, managed not to cry at all - but I feel like I'm at breaking point tonight.

Hubby is upset about my Gran and I think it has also brought back a lot of grief connected to his Dad dying (also of cancer). He is dealing with this by taking it out on me, being distant, moody and generally stroppy. I feel like shouting 'SHE WAS MY GRANDMA, IT SHOULD BE YOU SUPPORTING ME', but I know that wouldn't be fair, and his grief is no less relevant or real than mine.

I did lose it a bit earlier and shouted at him, which unfortunately DS heard, so now he hates me too and I hate myself for shouting in front of him.

Plus DS has been playing up at school and his teacher had to pull me aside for a 'chat' about his behaviour, which just topped off a fabulous week.

Feel like I'm a bad parent, a bad wife, generally a horrible person.......and a moaning minnie to boot.

bobble_hat

Snaggles, this is a difficult time for you all, You aren't a bad parent or a bad wife. You are hormonal and tired and grieving. Don't use words, give your husband and son a big hug then walk away. That will say so much more than any words which may be misinterpreted by a grieving mind.

And while you're at it give yourself a hug too, and here's one from me. :grouphug: You don't have to be strong every minute of every day.