MSE Parents Club Part 12

My_Fathers_Daughter

Caz - that sounds fab!! You must be really pleased!

SusanC_2

Becles wrote: »

I'd forgotten about there! Charlotte would love a visit as she likes plants and stuff.

I used to work in a science lab at Durham uni, and I often used to go and eat my lunch in the Botanical Gardens. It was lovely and peaceful and a nice place to chill out as the lab was hot and busy.

You walked up Cardiac Hill? (Or were you at the top of the hill already?) We were meant to be going today to meet up with a friend and her little girl but we went to their house instead because of the rain. If you fancy meeting up at the Botanical Gardens, let me know - Alice loves it and she would love to see Charlotte again.

Somnium wrote: »

Aaarrgghhh!!! I really wanna vote today I feel now T is here it's my duty to do something for her future but I really don't have a clue! Haven't had a chance to see any of the manifestos and am off out in a mo for the day so am not gonna get a chance either! I feel bad if I don't vote but without the info I can't

You can always spoil your paper. Last time I waited for the candidates to campaign but they didn't so I didn't know who they were till I went to vote. I spoiled my paper by writing why I wasn't voting for any of them.

elle_gee wrote: »

I think we've decided OH will take the shift job.. roughly the same money but for working less days (currently works 12 on 2 off days only, but on shifts will work two days, two nights, four off, repeat that three times then get a ten day break so actually only does 12 shifts a month). The time off (to spend with Rhys) is just too attractive to turn down.

I used to work at a chemical works where most people were on shifts and all the ones with children said they loved it because of the time they could spend with their children.

Evansangel wrote: »

Have the post natal check up today, think i have to have the rubella injection so i have to do a pregnancy test first.

Am i allowed to refuse it? Because i dont really like things being injected into me. And i doubt im ever going to catch rubella.

You are always allowed to refuse medical treatment. There was even a legal precedent set when a woman was forced (by court order I think but not sure) to have a caesarian section and it was later ruled to have been unlawful.

You may find the following (from half way down page here) useful. (This particular website is not against vaccines per se or even against the rubella vaccine - just certain versions of it.)

We have become aware that there is a treatment available to non-immune women unfortunate enough to come in contact with rubella during pregnancy. A handicapped baby or abortion are not the only options. This is called Rubegam IM and is available from Natal Bioproducts Institute. The manufacturers state "rubella immunoglobulin may afford some protection against congenital rubella when used in pregnant patients who in the first few in the first few months of pregnancy will not consider termination of pregnancy." It is appalling that this seems to be offered as a last line of defense only after a woman has considered abortion and is not initially offered to all women at risk. Obviously the possibility that handicap could be avoided would effect the mothers decision on whether to have an abortion. On the dozens of internet pages devoted to rubella this treatment seems to be either unheard of or ignored. Only two sites apart from the SAEPI site mention it. The Merck manual states " Women exposed to rubella early in pregnancy should be informed about the potential risks to the fetus, and termination of pregnancy should be considered. Some authorities recommend administration of immune globulin (0.55ml/Kg) for exposure early in pregnancy.? Another site Anti viral therapy states ?Passive immunisation with anti-rubella immunoglobulin is used in rare instances when therapeutic abortion is unacceptable and fetal monitoring is possible." Many sites consider congenital rubella syndrome to be the inevitable consequence of not receiving a vaccine. Although the effectiveness of rubella immunoglobulin is doubted by some authorities it must be worth trying. Also only 20-25 % of babies whose mothers contract rubella are effected in any way and some cases are very mild and treatable. It seems that abortion is recommended when mothers contract rubella even if four out of five babies are totally healthy. Rubella immunoglobulin does not appear to be available in the UK.

Becles wrote: »

It's not really £140 for 5 hours work though.

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Sorry for going on but it really bugs me when people just look at the fee paid for the actual party and assume it's easy money

That's what it's like for OH - the hourly rate he charges his customers looks really high but what he actually earns per hour worked once you take off expenses is around 40% of that.

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Those of you with older kids, how did you go about teaching colours/numbers etc? We aren't there yet of couse, just an idle wondering about how I'm going to do it really. Other than just constantly talking about colours until she cottons on, I've got no clue!

We found Alice cottoned on to "counting" sooner than colours possibly because there are so many adjectives you can use for a given item that it took longer for her to work out what we were talking about with colours. I often used to do comparisons with colours e.g. "Mummy's skirt is purple and Alice's dress is red." Or point out lots of things of the same colour.

Counting, you can count steps when you go up/down them and count objects (e.g. stacking cups, blocks or any other toy you have a few of). There are quite a few stages with counting which I can't remember in detail but the first is being able to recite the numbers in sequence. Later on they start to learn that the numbers are a measure of quantity. They then have to get a one to one correspondence between the numbers and the objects to be able to count them and know not to count the same one more than once. Currently Alice will coordinate her saying of the numbers with her pointing but the pointing doesn't correspond with the objects. But her answer is always two anyway (unless you ask how old she is).

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

I am trying to get hubby to do the same amount of talking / going through stuff as I do because he drives me mad just doing something to Benjamin without telling him what he is doing (for example blowing his nose or changing his nappy) then he moans when Benjamin kicks off *rolleyes* Whereas I say 'let's change your nappy and he will try and pull his change mat out from under the sofa and then lie on it when I put it in position

My OH used to be a bit like that but he has improved a lot over time.

cazscoob

I couldnt believe that such a simple thing could work! The OCT phoned today and talked me through it all and where we go for here which made me feel better! i cant wait to see for myself the difference it makes!

kindofagilr

Evansangel wrote: »

You should become a DJ.
£140 for 5 hours work. :eek:

Argh, stressful day. The seller on ebay has emailed me to say my bridesmaid dresses might not be here in time for the wedding!!!! :mad:
Even though i emailed him before i bought them to ask if they would be here and he said yes!!

How long do you have to get a claimback on paypal? Is it 45 days or 60?


Have the post natal check up today, think i have to have the rubella injection so i have to do a pregnancy test first.

Am i allowed to refuse it? Because i dont really like things being injected into me. And i doubt im ever going to catch rubella.
I refused the swine flu one to, and i was fine

Why wont your dresses be here? its a month till your wedding?? they have time to send them surely?

Thanks Tia I kinda am, its the time of month for me so i think this week its prob getting to me a bit more than usual, we have E at the Dr tomorrow and she wants to talk to me cos I burst into tears on the phone, but I dont want to go on any tablets or anything, I am fine, I just need to learn to admit when I am struggling and ask for help, like E went to MILs today for 6 hours or so to give me a rest, I need to learn that thats ok and she can take him when I want (same as my mam but she works 3 days a week)

Pigpen - they didnt have any bigger ones and I'd ordered already ... oops lol ah well, it was £5 I could attempt to resell it on ebay as well I guess lol

Hammyhunter - thanks for the hugs

Glam - have some ((hugs)) too

Caz - sorry I seemed to have missed this, what is the vest? and what does it do (other than get him to play longer lol)

I still need to claim tax credits, I rang the number the other day and it just said they were busy and to ring back later then the phone went dead!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how far back do they backdate??

jillie1974

caz- fab news. its amazing waht the simplest of things can achieve

ladybirdintheuk

Ta all... I already jabber at her all day about what we are doing, so I will have to make more of a conscious effort to mention colours and numbers more (I already do a bit, but only when it comes up iyswim!).

Caz, that sounds like good news. I also missed out the details of what the vest was, but it seems to be working, whatever it is

Krystaltips

Ladybird, you'll probably find she will be able to point to the colour/number you ask her before she can say which one it is... They seem to go through a phase where they will call everything green or deliberately say the wrong colour...

I think tax credits go back 3 months like child benefit but don't quote me on that...

I won a holiday today.... A week in Pontins :rotfl: But I don't think we can go... Would have been nice to go, but I think I'm going to offer it to my step sister if she can fit it around my nephew's chemo...

Krystaltips

Aimee just farted on her own hand and was quite astounded that it was smelly after...

jillie1974

http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/taxcredits/start/who-qualifies/children/children-taxcredits.htm

tax credits are backdated for 3 months

3onitsway

Krystaltips wrote: »

Aimee just farted on her own hand and was quite astounded that it was smelly after...

Lovely Aimee - she's such a young lady! :rotfl: