Its a wonderful life... Want to try.....?? A Single parents View.. !!xx!

krisskross

Originally Posted by Dave_liverpool
A mortgage can be paid off with an inheritance, not just earnt money. To go from an abusive relationship to a hostel into rented to a full paid house in 5 years, theres got to be either
a) a death
b) fraud
c) a pack of lies


He was just offering a few options. He didn't say any of them specifically applied to you.

viktory

krisskross wrote:

Originally Posted by Dave_liverpool
A mortgage can be paid off with an inheritance, not just earnt money. To go from an abusive relationship to a hostel into rented to a full paid house in 5 years, theres got to be either
a) a death
b) fraud
c) a pack of lies


He was just offering a few options. He didn't say any of them specifically applied to you.

Snap :rotfl: :rotfl:

black-saturn

krisskross wrote:

Originally Posted by Dave_liverpool
A mortgage can be paid off with an inheritance, not just earnt money. To go from an abusive relationship to a hostel into rented to a full paid house in 5 years, theres got to be either
a) a death
b) fraud
c) a pack of lies


He was just offering a few options. He didn't say any of them specifically applied to you.

No he wasn't, he's described my circumstances and replied to me saying I had paid my mortgage off.

Kimberley

If i can do it anyone can? It's tough if you have under 5's, but otherwise get that part time job and see how your life changes. I have no child care problems, i work school term time. So why not put your name down for a school job or similar?

Hopefully when/if i meet someone in the future, i will be able to come of benefits altogether, that is my next aim.


There is nothing better then earning your own money and my kids can see the difference in me too:D

I enjoy getting up in the mornings getting ready for work etc.

Mentally working is better.

I do feel that us single mums don't get a chance with critics, they seem to blame us, but it takes two to make a baby, and without that baby we wouldn't be on benefit.

The mums who become single mums due to their partners leaving them do not have a choice but to live on benefits, they have to for their kids sakes.

Penny-Pincher!!

TBH folks...I dont give a toss what you claim or how you claim it, whether your committing fraud, have a million A Levels blah blah blah....can we just get back on track of the OP and see whether there are any other options for them take!

Does anyone on this thread have any knowledge of what other help the OP may be entitled too...or is this it for her? Its such a terrible let down that someone here has a great business brain/ideas, but can not get the funding to get it off the ground-or find anyone interested!

I am in a situation where I am unable to work ATM but cant wait to get back. I miss working so much! Personally, I dont understand why people choose not to work if they can-especially if they are so well educated and live on the bread line...makes no sense to me when they could be earning a very good wage!

My dd is 11 and she is counted as "disabled" as she is partially sighted (legally blind in one eye) but we have always worked even though we could have claimed years ago. She knows that she will be like this forever but she also knows that she has to work to live. Yes, she could claim benefits in her own right when she is older, but I want better than that for her. She has alot of potential and we have never let her disability stop her doing anything. I think as good parents we need to teach our children that it is healthy for them to work.

Ive probably offended someone and apologise if I have, but all this bickering is getting silly and we need to keep some focus to this thread!

Good Luck OP. PM me as if you would like a chat or vent!

Hugs

PP
xx

seven-day-weekend

krisskross wrote:

If you have a degree could you not just do the year long course to enable you to teach? This would solve your financial and child care problems.

Not everyone is suitable for teaching, even if they are intelligent, not everyone wants to do it - and what happens to your children when they are off sick? You can't book leave, you can only have the school holidays. Not the 'easy choice' you make it out to be.

looby75

Kimberley wrote:

If i can do it anyone can? It's tough if you have under 5's, but otherwise get that part time job and see how your life changes. I have no child care problems, i work school term time. So why not put your name down for a school job or similar?

I'm glad that you have found a job that suits you and your kids, but I think you will find that you have been very lucky to get work that is in school term time only. They are few and far between and usually in very high demand. My sons school has a waiting list for the dinner lady's jobs, I actually put my name on the list when my dd was in the infant school, she is now in year 9 in high school and I am still only about half way up the list, the dinner ladies who were there when dd was in school are still there now. My mum is a dinner lady at my old infant school, she put her name down for a job when my youngest bother started at the school, he's now 18 and my mum has only had her dinner ladies job for 3 years :eek:

I do feel that us single mums don't get a chance with critics, they seem to blame us, but it takes two to make a baby, and without that baby we wouldn't be on benefit.

The mums who become single mums due to their partners leaving them do not have a choice but to live on benefits, they have to for their kids sakes.

:T :T but it's always been easier to pick on the single MUMS. It's not unusual for men to walk away from their responsibilities, so no one really comments on it, but the venom has to go somewhere so it gets aimed at the Mums :mad

rainbowrisin

Hi, OP...i don't know if you've spoken to Business Link about your business idea? They usually have some fairly sensible advice, and depending on what area you're in, there may well be small amounts of money available as a business loan for start up costs (I believe they're written off if the business fails, but are subject to production of a business plan etc, which the Business Link advisor could help you with).

I work mainly from home, but have child care two mornings a week for meetings etc (mine are pre-schoolers). This works pretty well for me, as i'm as near to being a SAHM as I can be whilst still earning a living. I do most of my work in the evenings when the littlies are in bed. The sleep deprivation is a killer, but hopefully things will get easier as littlies get older and start school.

I am a single parent, and having read this whole thread find it very sad that there's so much back biting and nastiness in it. Regardless of being on benefits or working or a combination, bringing up children on your own is really, really hard work, and I say well done to all the single mums out there doing a great job.

Anthillmob

Anthillmob wrote:

im not having a pop at people on benefits. unfortunately SOME bad apples receivce stuff they shouldnt. ive been on benefits before.

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that makes it sound like i was on the fiddle :rotfl: i wasnt.

looby75

one other bad thing about being a single parent....your kids bring you prezzies of sweets and you have to eat them all by yourself.....I'm fat enough as it is.

My ds has just found the half a bag of midget gems he gave me at the weekend and is very upset that I haven't eaten them yet lol I can't palm them off to his dad so I'm sat here eating them now

Its a tough job :A

(just trying to lighten the mood btw )