Its a wonderful life... Want to try.....?? A Single parents View.. !!xx!

lil_me

So parents who receive tax credits don't get back something off the state when one parent stays at home ? Parents who get child benefit still get something aswell. If they are saying these benefits take tax payers money then so do any parents who claim any sort of benefit. Only the singles/couples without a family and don't want to have one can complain really.

If my son didn't have Autism (can't cope with other people in the house) and I was fit to work I would be a childminder straight away! Just because of the prices I was quoted and the lack of childminders in my area.

Sarahsaver

Oh dear the daggers are out? Put them away! I have a solution. If anyone thinks single parents have an easy time (what about the absent fathers eh???) then HAVE A GO! Simple. THe End.

starlite_2

Broken_hearted wrote:

The issue isn't women staying at home it is other people working to pay for them to stay at home.

And what, when those women go onto to have succesful careers once their children are in school, some of them earning big salaries, and then those who moan suddenly find themselves in the same postition with a newborn and unable to afford childcare costs, or maybe stricken with illness and on incapacity benefit.
It's all a big circle.
We should be grateful for our state benefit system, fair enough it is exploited and abused, but it is up to us to push the governement to make it tighter. The majority of people you assume you are 'robbing' you are just decent honest people , grateful for the help in hard times, and who will be tax payers like all of us for most of their lives anyway.

viktory

black-saturn wrote:

Just what I was thinking. She found it hard to make anything better when she was on her own.

No, I did it all on my own. The relationship I was in was/is lovely but actually getting off my butt was down to me. I relied on no one but myself.

viktory

black-saturn wrote:

If thats the case why work?

For pride. To teach your children the work ethic. To be able to say "I can stand on my own two feet and don't rely on the tax payer"

starlite_2

Would you prefer to live in a country where single parents, or those who cannot physically work end up on the streets?
I seriously doubt it.
Having spent a little time in my OH's home country in Eastern Europe I was glad to be home even glad to be paying tax , it's neccesary for a civilised country, and we shouldn't maon about how when and why it's spent!
Has anyone mentioned perhaps the weapons budget, or how much a lone mother could do with just a shred of the money tony blair spends 'entertaining' guests to our country such as George Bush!? (streets blocked off, constant police guard, helicopters, mass paranoia = ££££'s of our money)

wigginsmum

starlite wrote:

It's all a big circle.

Exactly, but some of us are breaking that circle by choosing not to have children. It irks me that my tax money goes into paying other people's child benefit when those who are capable of working choose not to because it's far easier to stay at home and have workers support them and their offspring. It's quite simply scrounging; if you're capable of working, you should. But I can't really change that. All I was able to do was resolve not to make the situation worse by dropping sprogs of my own.

viktory

Scarlett1 wrote:

such a b!tchy comment from someone who recons she was once in a single parents shoes, makes you're comment of living on £60 per week laughable :rotfl:

Not !!!!!y at all. I was merely curious as to why none of the single parents have responded to a very valid post. All the single parents state that they cannot manage on the money they get, then why not tell us how much that income is? The posters on here are only responding to the posts that they want to reply to, ignorning the pertinent.

Broken_hearted

My gran was a single parent to my mother and her sister they didn't get benefits. She worked. It was harder back then but she had too.

starlite_2

wigginsmum wrote:

Exactly, but some of us are breaking that circle by choosing not to have children. It irks me that my tax money goes into paying other people's child benefit when those who are capable of working choose not to because it's far easier to stay at home and have workers support them and their offspring. It's quite simply scrounging; if you're capable of working, you should. But I can't really change that. All I was able to do was resolve not to make the situation worse by dropping sprogs of my own.

You missed my main point, What if you became chronically ill? your employer will only pay you for a short time. Will you then be cursing thoose who take state benefits!? I very much doubt so.