Am I being cruel?

Toothsmith

Of course you're being cruel!

In this day and age she has to learn that if she got a Purple Loan, not only could she afford the remote control car, she could have every other damn thing in the shop as well.

Life would then be unbridled joy and happiness, and even turn into colour when it used to be black and white.

How can you bring up a child in such an old fashioned way!!!!???


(P.S. - Well done!!)

Scully's_Girl

I am so inspired by what you did. One day I'll have children and I'm constantly researching ways to ensure they are knowledgable about money and what it means. My parents didn't do anything special, like alot of you here, we just didnt have any, and I have no regrets about that. When my friends at school had 50 cabbage patch dolls, I just had the one, and I loved her just as much. I remember having a huge fight with my mother as a teenager because she wouldnt buy me a laptop. That was idiotic, but most of the time I understood our situation. However, my sister & I grew as exact opposites, even though we were reared the same. Im very careful with money & therefore am quite comfortable. My sister will always struggle. I see my neice who has absolutely no concept of money (I gave her 20 dollars because she made the honor roll at her school) and when I asked her what she planned to do with it, the answer was "spend it". When I tried to sit her down to discuss that, she looked off into space, got bored, and walked off. I was at a bbq of some friends a few weeks ago. A couple there had a really beautiful daughter, 5 years old, incredibly pretty. At one point she started wingeing to her father because she had gotten wet in the paddling pool. His reaction was amazing. He was so unimpressed, just said "well, you're in the paddling pool, of course you'll get wet". And she got more & more upset and the mother came over, so she ran over but her mother wouldnt even hug her. She just said she wouldnt reward that behavior with a cuddle. The complaint didnt warrant such an overreaction. And she immediately calmed down. It was wonderful, I had to tell them how impressed I was.

calleyw

Let_Robinson_Sing wrote:

i liked the scrabble scene off Little Britain 'Cupboardy' . it was great bankrupting my elder brother sometimes on monopoly. *nostalgia*

That is one of my fav scenes ever from Little Britain.

:rotfl:


Yours


Calley

QueenB.

Cruel............no, but then considering what type of forum this is i am sure you will get the type of support on this issue you may not get elsewhere;)

We never had much money when my eldest was younger and she still had plenty of toys and nice clothes and didn't even know they where from a market or second hand.

However later on my OH and i got out of that very good habit and the children got a bit spoilt.

Now we are going back to buying only what we can afford and it is explained to the children in terms which they understand and which don't make them think we are paupers (which tec we are:rolleyes: ).

Our children love hunting for a bargain at a carboot or second hand shop, poundshops are a treasure cave and they don't mind hand me downs.

The eldest is even aware that alot of her birthday gifts will be second hand, why pay full price for a PS2 when i can get it for £15-£20

They are used to getting handmade gifts from me as i stitch etc and they make all gifts for their grandparents. My youngest even made a birthday card for his friend the other week.

I hope they will grow up not to get into the state their father and i are, i hope they will have an understanding not only for money but for their enviroment, i hope they will be money savvy and bag bargains and i also think that it teaches creativity. My daughter often buys cheap/secondhand clothes and customises them.

Cruel no, being a thoughtful and caring parent yes:D

milliejon

Thank you so much to everyone who took the time to reply. You've all been really kind and I'm glad we were able to help a few of you too. We've got over this and will continue to treat my little one this way. We have a 7 month boy too, so in a year or two, too many expensive treats would end up being horrible! Food or toys?!?