help!! dont want children there on the big day

rinroo

I think if I could have gotten away with not inviting children then I think I would have, but having 14 niece and nephews all under the age of 12, just on my side alone would have excluded my brothers and sisters from coming.

We have put a restriction on the evening guests bring children though.

Agree with others, it's your day so you have to decide, but i would definatly say no children, means no children and dont allow any exceptions or thats when the trouble will start.

POPPYOSCAR

I agree with Rinroo it is your big day and it should be just as you want it to be, but be careful about making exceptions.I know a groom who ended up with none of his sisters in his photos because although they accepted no children when they got to the wedding and saw that the bride had her friends children there they were very unhappy and went home straight after the ceremony to 'check on the children'!!!!!!

Good luck with your day Im sure it will be great.

blissfull-bride

hi guys,thank you for all your advice, i sat down with my bridesmaids and told them,i think they were ok with it lol, one of my bridesmaids is going to ask her husband to stay home with baby and then bring her in the evening, we dont really know hubby so its not to bad, im not to sure what the other one is going to do yet, but they have said as they have so long to sort something it should all be ok, im just relieved that ive have spoke to them about it now, phewww! now i can stress about more wedding stuff haha! thanks again

chelle2k9

anyone having a child free wedding how did you or how are you going to word this on your invites? x

BeckyArch

We're having a child free wedding. I just wrote something along the lines of...'We kindly request that guests do not bring babies or young children and hope that other arrangements can be made. We appolgoise for any inconvinience that this may cause'.

No one has taken offense, and all have made other arrangements!

deano23285

we've pretty much told everyone who has kids that they will haveto leave the brats at home or not come, i don't some kid wrecking our day

chelle2k9

o god deano i feel exactly the same way! some of our friends have really well behaved kids and we would have them there no problem but the others are awful and most of them are family so would definitely have to be invited if we were having any kids there! they would just run riot the whole day and we have agreed that we're not going to be in a position where we just have to smile and endure it.

mrsW2b

Well we told everyone (7x sets of parents) in Feb (wedding in Nov) and thought great, everyone knows now and has enough notice to make other arrangements and we can relax........... Wrong!

One set of parents seem to have forgotten the conversation and so the hub was re-told via a phone call about 6 weeks ago.

So we thought great, everyone knows for sure now.......... Wrong!

We've heard now that the wife is still unsure of the situation and is waiting to see whats written on the invite! - GRRRRR!!!!

SO - we shall now be writing it on the invite that we are thanking parents in advance to respect our wish to have a child-free wedding.

(The only exception we will make is for any new-borns)

baxterdo

I suppose this is going to be the unpopular answer. To me weddings are all about family. It wouldn't be the same for me if the children weren't there. I don't mean that every single child possible should come but I do think that family children and those of bestman/bridesmaids should be able to come. Of course if they don't want to bring their children that's a different matter. The expense can spiral but I think a lot of people ( not necessarily you girls or guys) try to out do each other to have the best wedding ever. If people stopped trying to out do each other than maybe they could afford to have children at their wedding as well. I perhaps don't understand the pressure involved as yes that's right I'm not married but I do feel that when/if my big day comes it will be a real family orientated day.

chelle2k9

its not an unpopular answer in fact its probably more "normal" to have kids at a wedding but we know that the whole day would be more relaxed without the kids there so thats how we're doing it. we dont want to offend anyone in the process but we know that when we tell family members that the kids aren't invited some of them are going to be offended. wish they would just understand that this is our choice for one day and go along with it without assuming we hate their kids!