help!! dont want children there on the big day

iamana1ias

talulahbeige wrote: »

Suggest you keep your assumptions to yourself and go play your "let's troll" games on another board.

Everyone else - this person has a reputation across all the boards on MSE for playing troll games, have a look at her previous posts.

Oh dear. Don't like being proved wrong?

There's nothing "troll-like" about my posts on this thread, so perhaps you should give it a rest. You're making yourself look rather silly.

nearlyrich

I didn't go to my brother's wedding as his bride wanted a child free wedding, my daughter was less than a month old and I was feeding her, my son was under 2 and my only babysitters were my mum and my sisters who were bridesmaids. The wedding was 60 miles away so not practical to pop back to feed etc even if I had a babysitter and I didn't have a car at the time. My Brother and SIL were in the same position except their daughter was 6 weeks old at the time.

talulahbeige_2

iamana1ias wrote: »

Oh dear. Don't like being proved wrong?

There's nothing "troll-like" about my posts on this thread, so perhaps you should give it a rest. You're making yourself look rather silly.

I would suggest that you are a troll and you're proving it.

I would also suggest that you don't have a clue about where my guests are coming from and don't have the right to comment in a negative manor when you don't know the facts.

It also suggests alot about your freinds and the quality of your relationships if they get upset at the bride and grooms requests for their day!

Enough said.

Mrs_Moore_To_Be

blissfull-bride wrote: »

hi guys, gosh this forum is a lifesaver!! im getting married 2nd sept 2011 venue is all booked so this is my major worry out the way. i having some issues with telling guests that there is a no children policy at our wedding haha! i work with children all day and absolutely love it, but i want my day to be child free.
problem is one of my bridesmaids has just given birth and the other is due in June, both were asked to be bridesmaids before i knew they were pregnant haha! im just stuck with how to tell them we are not having children at the wedding with out offending the, we cant have one rule for one and one for another, we have told my other half's side of the family who are travelling down from up north that its adults only.

need some advice guys? has anyone else had this problem?

thanks

Hi there - I would say just be up front, your friends and family will understand. Good Luck xx

iamana1ias

talulahbeige wrote: »

It also suggests alot about your freinds and the quality of your relationships if they get upset at the bride and grooms requests for their day!

Eh??!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

talulahbeige wrote: »

Enough said.

Couldn't agree more. :shhh:

frannyann

The best thing for everyone to do is ignore iamana1ias, by her own admission she is 'anti' marriage, happily proclaiming to have turned down the only person to have asked her. she claims to search for 'new' posts and just happens to comment in a negative manner on the wedding board, however this negativity is not confined to this board but can be seen in most of her posts. She obviously feels that she has a point to prove no matter how many times she is told her posts are often offensive and possibly hurtful.

iamana1ias

frannyann wrote: »

She obviously feels that she has a point to prove no matter how many times she is told her posts are often offensive and possibly hurtful.

What have I said on here that's offensive?!

mrsW2b

We're not havig kids at our wedding and we have told most people now (wedding is this Nov) - everyone was fine except for 1 couple but at the time, their kid was only 2 months old so I don't think that they could picture leaving him 'ever' but I'm sure they'll be fine nearer the time as the baby will almost be a year old but if they're not then so be it!
Will also put a note in the invites too just to avoid any misunderstandings.

The only exception we will make is if anyone has new-borns around the time we get married and is still breast-feeding, then of course the baby has to come.

missjennipenni

Im not keen on child-free weddings, and would not be able to travel to attend a child-free wedding. I have turned down a few wedding invitataions because there has been a child ban. Not everyone has access to babysitters or feels comfortable about leaving small children. If you are happy for soem guests to decline for these reasons, then its fine to have a child-free wedding, as long as you warn everyone well in advance.

iamana1ias

frannyann wrote: »

by her own admission she is 'anti' marriage, happily proclaiming to have turned down the only person to have asked her.

Actually, you couldn't be more wrong. For the avoidance of doubt (and I know it's off topic but you brought it up) I turned down my ex because I couldn't hand on heart say that that I wanted to be with him forever. Having avoided the cost of a wedding and subsequent divorce, it was probably the most sensible and moneysaving thing I've ever done.