help!! dont want children there on the big day

talulahbeige_2

frannyann wrote: »

How about going for something gentle??

'Any children attending will be sold as slaves'

Franny!!! You could have suggested that earlier, my invites are printed!

missjennipenni

talulahbeige wrote: »

So you thik it's ok for them to make negative assumptions about my wedding when they have no idea about who my guests are and where they are coming from?

I would totally agree with you if they had my guest list and knew the people who had children and where they are coming from but she doesn't!

Edit - this wasnt meant to come across as negative, I'm just interested in why Jenni has that opinion

I saw no negativity in the 1st or 2nd post by them, and my post actually says much the same as they did. She presumes you didnt have guests travelling hundreds of miles to your wedding & leaving children at home. Whats wrong with assuming that? You said your guests were happy to come without kids. Not many parents would travel hundreds of miles and leave a young baby or child behind for 2 days. So to me also, I presume you didnt have guests travelling hundreds of miles.

There is nothing negative in that not sure how you came to that assumption, perhaps you could also explain?

talulahbeige_2

missjennipenni wrote: »

I saw no negativity in the 1st or 2nd post by them, and my post actually says much the same as they did. She presumes you didnt have guests travelling hundreds of miles to your wedding & leaving children at home. Whats wrong with assuming that? You said your guests were happy to come without kids. Not many parents would travel hundreds of miles and leave a young baby or child behind for 2 days. So to me also, I presume you didnt have guests travelling hundreds of miles.

There is nothing negative in that not sure how you came to that assumption, perhaps you could also explain?

Its the way she says it and the word she uses, I certainly didnt pick up the same vibe from your comment. She just comes across as spoling for a fight.

On another note, they are all either leavign them with grandparents near home or they happen to have family in the area where we are getting married. Not one of my guests actually lives near where we are getting married

dizziblonde

She is a poster who never comes into this forum - apart from when there's a kids at weddings thread when she jumps straight in in a very hostile manner toward any bride daring to consider not wanting kids at weddings. I'll admit - I'm quite outspoken about how I hate seeing people railroaded and browbeaten into giving into things at weddings (unless they're a bridezilla kicking off about how the entire guest list won't wear purple polka dots or something) - so I've obviously crossed swords with that poster a heck of a lot in the past.

blissfull-bride

thanks for all your help guys, i think im just going to bite the bullet and do it, i not against children in the evening its just we are having a 4 course sit down meal and i personally what with working with children dont think its fair to make young children sit still for that length of time. also i have to agree with taluha i did find some iamana post slightly offensive, when i wrote "my" and "i" this was not intential it was just because i was talking as myself and founf it quite upsetting the way you jumped on me for this.
Thank you again for all your help guys it is very much appreciated!

iamana1ias

talulahbeige wrote: »

Its the way she says it and the word she uses, I certainly didnt pick up the same vibe from your comment. She just comes across as spoling for a fight.

On another note, they are all either leavign them with grandparents near home or they happen to have family in the area where we are getting married. Not one of my guests actually lives near where we are getting married

Or perhaps it's the way you read it

I'm glad it's working out for you - it doesn't for a lot of people (as demonstrated by numerous posts on here.

I'm childfree by choice, but with my closest family 250 miles away and parents 3,500 miles away I wouldn't have the easy solutions that your guests obviously have.

iamana1ias

talulahbeige wrote: »

Its the way she says it and the word she uses, I certainly didnt pick up the same vibe from your comment. She just comes across as spoling for a fight.

On another note, they are all either leavign them with grandparents near home or they happen to have family in the area where we are getting married. Not one of my guests actually lives near where we are getting married

Or perhaps it's the way you read it - I certainly meant no malice.

I'm glad it's working out for you - it doesn't for a lot of people (as demonstrated by numerous posts on here.

I'm childfree by choice, but with my closest family 250 miles away and parents 3,500 miles away I wouldn't have the easy solutions that your guests obviously have.

talulahbeige_2

Iamanignorantlias - What ever your saying i can't see it as your on my ignore list

floss2

talulahbeige wrote: »

Iamanignorantlias - What ever your saying i can't see it as your on my ignore list

Talulah - it's lovely isn't it, we know she's posting but we don't have to worry about what she's saying! :rotfl:

beks

The main thing is to be honest and tell them sooner rather than later. Personally, I would not like the thought of a child free wedding (because I have children) but before I had children, I may have thought differently.
If we were invited to a wedding with no children, we would not be able to go. Simply because we have no family to help with childcare and no friends who my child feels happy enough to stay with (I would not enjoy myself as I would be worrying).
Of course, it is individual choice and fair enough if you don't want children there but I would inform guests sooner rather than later.