I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

MrsC....tobe

Loving reading through this thread and wondering why I didn't pop in earlier!

My bridezilla moments so far:
I don't want any children other than the 9 we have during the day (nieces, nephews and OHs kids) but I know it's going to cause probs with other friends and family
I don't want an official photographer but sis reckons I have to have one as they will be my lasting memories of the day - like I don't have a memory myself and others won't give me loads of pics on the discs that I give out!
I want to have a friend as bridesmaid but have said Im not having any as I have too many sisters and another good friend who OH doesnt get on with and I want the day to be peaceful as possible so don't want to cause any problems with anyone else! OH made comment about her last night and I blew up - although he wasn't here to see it!!!

Cara79

My bridezilla moment is.........

I am part of a largeish group of girls and there is one particular girl who I was very very close with and I haven't seen her for over a year. I got one text wishing me congrats on my engagement last year and haven't had a birthday card off her for at least 2 years. Now, this is the girl I used to see at least twice a week until she got a man.

But, I felt I had to invite her to the wedding as she is part of our group of girls and I thought it is her last chance with me to be honest. Now i'm regretting inviting her for the whole day. She's had the invite 2 months and the deadline for RSVP's is looming - 2 weeks away.

I sent a really polite email at the beginning of August to those outstanding on their RSVP's - her included - and have received nothing. NOw I know she's got 2 weeks. But I just think she's either going to ignore it or send it after the deadline to see what I do..!!! I just wish she'd reply. Another friend has tried texting her, again she's ignored it so far. I commented on her facebook - again nothing.

Now i wish i'd not invited her. Ragh! Chances are she wont come anyway.

PLEASE EVERYONE WILL YOU JUST RSVP!!! I need 8 more definites to ensure I meet my minimum numbers - that's out of 15 people left invited for the day!!!

Ok, bridezilla rant over

x

[Deleted User]

If they don't RSVP in writing or email/phone then they aren't catered for and can go whistle (IMNSHO!)

Jemster

Not so much Bridezilla as Sibling-zilla!

According to my sister I'm being a bridezilla because I want to see her in her bridesmaid dress this wkd! She was measured for it 8 weeks ago and we're going up home this wkd to take it up there so she can have it altered if needs be (meaning she doesn't have to pay train fare twice to come for fittings) and apparently I don't need to see her in it as it will be altered as she's adament she's lost weight. When I pointed out the dress looked smalll so I think she should try it on she blew her top saying she'd lost weight so it would definitley need altering. Is it really too much to ask to see the bridesmaid in her dress 9 weeks before the wedding!?! (when she lives so far away and i'll only see her on my hen night between now and the wedding!)

My brother backed out of giving me away as he has moved in with dad and dad is not happy that he's not giving me away (hardly spoke in the last 12 years!) so Mum is doing it, which is great and what i originally wanted. Now though my brother is saying to people that I'm treating dad like he's dead because thats the only reason girls don't have their dad's give them away. (no i just don't like him and don't trust him not to make a scene!) For god's sake, he's only been living with him 5 minutes and is already sounding like him!!

So apparently becuase I've chosen mum to give me away and because I want to see my sister in her bridesmaid dress I am now a Bridezilla!! Give me strength!!!!

Sorry, had to rant!!

nessie216

Jemster wrote: »

Not so much Bridezilla as Sibling-zilla!

According to my sister I'm being a bridezilla because I want to see her in her bridesmaid dress this wkd! She was measured for it 8 weeks ago and we're going up home this wkd to take it up there so she can have it altered if needs be (meaning she doesn't have to pay train fare twice to come for fittings) and apparently I don't need to see her in it as it will be altered as she's adament she's lost weight. When I pointed out the dress looked smalll so I think she should try it on she blew her top saying she'd lost weight so it would definitley need altering. Is it really too much to ask to see the bridesmaid in her dress 9 weeks before the wedding!?! (when she lives so far away and i'll only see her on my hen night between now and the wedding!)

My brother backed out of giving me away as he has moved in with dad and dad is not happy that he's not giving me away (hardly spoke in the last 12 years!) so Mum is doing it, which is great and what i originally wanted. Now though my brother is saying to people that I'm treating dad like he's dead because thats the only reason girls don't have their dad's give them away. (no i just don't like him and don't trust him not to make a scene!) For god's sake, he's only been living with him 5 minutes and is already sounding like him!!

So apparently becuase I've chosen mum to give me away and because I want to see my sister in her bridesmaid dress I am now a Bridezilla!! Give me strength!!!!

Sorry, had to rant!!

Don't worry about ranting - i had a similar situtation with who was giving me away - my biological dad isn't invited - i wanted my Grandad to give me away as he is the only constant male role model in my life - but then i would have upset my step dad - so then thought of my brother - but grandad and step dad would feel left out - so in the end i choose my mum - she has always been there for me!

And your sister needs to grow up - she may have lost weight - but she may not have lost the inches! Which is were it matters! I have lost 2.5st since buying my dress and only lost 6-8 inches!

Breathe and count to ten!

burnadebt_2

My confession is i want to get my head BM to 'intervene' with the grooms speech!
I can't do it myself so maybe she could offer a 'guiding hand' and stop it being extremely embarrasing and cringeworthy and totally unfunny!
I love him dearly but he should have come complete with tumbleweed bless him!
I want him to make a brief speech, making all the relevant points and leave the wise craks to someone else. He really is the only one who finds himself funny and in any other situation that's fine- but in a room full of people... Oh i cringe to think of it! And they are obliged to 'laugh' (groan!) which only makes it more painfull for everyone!

Puzzledbubbles

well, we havent even thought of a date yet - but im already feeling annoyed with everyone rolling their eyes at me becuase they dont like what im saying about possible ideas

Oh and everyone who keeps telling me we HAVE to do something.

Excuse me - OUR wedding not YOURS butt out!

Sorry, i will calm down now honest lol :-)

missknixon

I'm being Bridezilla according to my monster in law (she who came to visit knowing I was away and raided my wardrobe! Now knows I'm wearing red - I told her I'm wearing green) apparently we not having a wedding! We have never seen the best man (he's coming over on Sunday), we not having bridesmaids(it's her step daughter!) we doing a carvery not a buffet, we doing bacon/ sausage butties not a buffet! Stupid woman!

Aargh
She is coming to my wedding dressed in black! Very weddingy!

My confession is I would be happy if she followed through with her threats and didn't come!

[Deleted User]

I've become so damn disheartened at the sheer cost & difficulty of things that I've become the antizilla and said I not going to get married for the forseeable future :-( stuff it, we're 40 and have no kids so what's the point....

What I wanted was simple + elegant-ish but it just seems insurmountable without spending £1,000's!!!!!

missknixon

joolzred wrote: »

What I wanted was simple + elegant-ish but it just seems insurmountable without spending £1,000's!!!!!

Don't give up! It can be done! There are lots of ways money can be saved and the thing can be done reasonably - maybe ask for money as gifts before the wedding if that would help. My friend did this as it was all family. They doubled their budget £2000 instead of £1000! We are spending a max of £4k but have done a lot ourselves - well pretty much everything. We have had to make compromises though but the wedding to us is about sealing our relationship not having a huge party. You make it what you want!