I am a Bridezilla and my confession is....

double_mummy

i am a bridezilla as i have just spent 5 hours online shopping with my MOH and we still cant find anything we agree upon within (what i think anyways) generous budget and large range of what she can have but with a slightly restricted heel height (4 inches)

ARRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH

i was good and held my tongue but have now just screamed @ OH for asking what was wrong

poor OH puts up with crazy old me

sk00bie1

Is it too much to ask that everyone just gets along?!!!! :mad:

OH has fallen out with his mother and knowing how stubborn they both are I wouldn't be surprised if they still aren't talking when we get married :eek:

His family have also decided that his neice is going to be my bridesmaid... not going to happen but ARGHHHHHH!!!!

... and breathe :rotfl:

stir_crazy

Hi Bumblebee! I would probably include his sister as a BM but have a chief BM/ Maid of honour to do the organising of everything if you think your OH's sister wont be comfortable doing it.

But as for the best woman thing? There's no way I would let my OH have a best woman, because I wouldn't be comfortable with it either. I wouldn't start a fight over it, but I would definitely say something, esp since he has refused to have your brother as a groomsman or usher.

johannalf88

I know there are a couple of people on here whose other half has a 'best woman'. I don't know how I would cope, ESP if he used to have feelings for her... Actually I do. I would say over my dead body! :rotfl:

N about his sister, I would say his sister can be a bridesmaid if ur brother can be an usher.

Mojisola

BumblebeeUK wrote: »

I know that none of this really matters, what matters is at the end of the day we’ve signed the register and are Mr and Mrs, but I’m getting annoyed! Any thoughts on how to proceed? Just ignore it and focus on what matters? Or say something?

So he knows his sister won't enjoy being a BM and that you don't know her very well but still wants you to ask her?

He knows you're not happy about his choice of Best Woman but is still going ahead?

He won't have your brother as an usher because he doesn't know him very well? So why are you supposed to include his sister?

Is he usually like this?

I would give his sister the option of being a BM or an usher or some other role in the wedding. If you ask her to be a BM, she might feel forced into saying yes when she doesn't really want to do it.

If you're involving his sister, your brother has a role - no discussion.

A Best Woman who was a life-long platonic friend I could live with. His unrequited love? No chance!

LisaJane

How about asking his sister to do a reading to include her in the wedding??

cathy_j87

I'm one of the aforementioned brides with a "best-woman". I very much sympathise and can only share my experience so far.
OH doesn't have loads of friends and she happens to be one of the longest standing friends so fair enough. I always had in the back of my head that something must have happened between them and couldn't understand why it wouldn't have but I've come round to thinking "I got the ring" so I'm ok with that. My problems came regarding clothing and lack of effort. Trying to get an outfit for her was more stressful than getting my own dress - that's just not right! There were "discussions" from the start about what she would wear because I was adament she wouldn't look like a bridesmaid and he didn't seem keen on her wearing a suit. In the end I "won" that battle and she got a lovely ladies suit from next - which cost over £30 more than the mens suits, AND OH is buying her £50 shoes, despite me wearing £10 ones and MOH wearing shoes she already had. Now if she was being a hands on best woman and helping organise etc I would be fine with that. As things stand however she's done sweet FA, isn't organising a stag do (OH is so laid back he says he's ok with that) and I'm told she won't be doing a speech because in his own words "she's shy and doesn't have to". Erm......yeah, she kinda does. Best man has two jobs.....speech and stag do.....and she's doing neither and getting a lovely suit and amazing shoes out of it!
(so sorry this has turned into my own rant!)
If you thought your OHs best woman would be useful and do the jobs she's supposed to then you shouldn't have any of my problems!

With the siblings, could they do readings at the service? We each have a brother who will be ushers, and I've asked his sister to do a reading so she's included but she didn't seem too keen on the idea! But at least she's been asked. If he insists on his sis being a bridesmaid then it would be double standards not to allow your bro to be usher! Could he have a couple of best men? I've seen this at a few weddings recently where the groom had brothers/close friends. That way they can split the jobs and it takes the pressure off them, maybe sell it that way?

Good luck, deep breaths! And remember, your bridesmaid/maid of honour is there to hear your rants when OH etc wind you up!

RainbowDrops

Hey Bumble,

It seems that both you and your OH have different opinions (which is fine) and I think you can both make your own decisions about who joins you as bridesmaids / groomsmen.


I didn't tell OH who I thought he should have and my OH did likewise.


However, if the decisions upset either of you then maybe you need to have a better chat about it.

clearing_out_my_pockets

I'm sticking my head round into this thread again...

I'm not a bride having got married last May, but I'm currently feeling more and more upset as the weeks pass. My brother is getting married this month and this is what they have done to awaken the bridezilla in me....

1 - They are getting married two days before our first wedding anniversary. This wouldn't be so bad if not for all the other items on the list
2 - They have chosen the same venue
3 - They have chosen the same colour scheme
4 - They chose the same vistaprint wedding invitations
5 - She's having the same car
6 - They've chosen the same method of transport for the evening guests
7 - My nephew is wearing the exact same outfit he did for our wedding
8 - My SIL (to be) will be wearing my tiara and veil.
9 - The same table decorations woman is doing their decorations

Is it just me? Or would any of you be upset by this...?

johannalf88

Just think, they liked your wedding so much they are trying to re-create it!