MSE Pregnancy Club 18

BudgetBlonde

pigpen wrote: »

Dream.. just tell them you want to stay in at least one night and try bf.. they can't really throw you out if you are asking for help! I am leaving the second I can get myself dressed and walk.. if they want me to stay they will have to tie me to the furniture!

Me too! OH is insisting I stay the night I have said I'll do this if he baby is born at, say, 3am. Then I want him there at 8am ready to take me home.
Hate the places! I would have had a home birth but that I don't want the cats about and it turns out I need an IV drip when my waters go.

kitkat5566

Dream: my local birth centre is a standard 6 hour discharge, i am being referred to the next hosp and that is a standard 4 day stay. I am hoping I don't have to stay in that long but am also nervous about taking a newborn home. I think I will feel more at ease being in my own home but I think 6 hour discharge is a bit rushed!

pukkamum

Dream please don't panic every first time mum feels like this, i know i did and i had been a nanny for many years beforehand!!!!
But believe me you will know what to do, to be honest all you need to worry about is changing them when wet/dirty, feeding them when hungry and giving lots of kisses and cuddles there really is nothing more to it than that!!!!
I had an emergency c-section with my first and after a night of listening to others peoples babies crying midwives coming and going etc i was begging to go home the next day!!!!!

As far as the bfing goes they do generally like to keep mums in til they feel confident with it but this could difffer.
And also i promise i am NOT a bfing militant but don't give up at the first hurdle there will be days when it's fab days when it's not so fab and days when it's awful but remember that once you give up you can't go back.

Another bit of bfing advicetry not to interfere with baby too much when they are doing it. I read so much about bfing, latching on what meant good feeding etc that i was constantly messing with him taking him on and off the nipple, pushing nipple into mouth, changing positions, it's no wonder he found it so hard. With DD i just left her to it, babies on the whole know how to feed they have to otherwise they would die, and i had none of the problems i had with DS. I could be wrong but after talking to friends they found the same too.

dreambirdie

cheers for the words of advice everyone, i guess i just have to stay calm until D-Day lol, anyways i suppose i wont know how im going to feel until bubs is actually here. just cross your fingers for me that im a natural lol:D:D

smartie12

Imagine the scene.......


Baby smartbubbles pops out all nice and clean in a vest and sleepsuit. I shall pop his/her cute little hat while the carseat magically appears and we say cheerybye to the hospital and off we go home!:rotfl:

Can you tell I don't want to stay in hospital??:D

In my day (when I had DS) we had to pass certain tests before they let you go home with bubs. The "poo test" - you had to of done one;), the "yes I can keep baby clean" test and the "yes baby is feeding" test - we had a chart to fill in.

xmaslolly76

Good god smartie even i never had to do that with my first i found if i just sat in the corner quietly and got on with it they left me alone thank god i hated being in there but had to stay for a week due to low blood count i had 3 pints of blood pumped into me the useless idiots still let me go home even though i told them my bleeding was horrendous and wasnt right i was rushed back in 4 weeks later bleeding to death due to them leaving a massive chunk of placenta inside me if they had listened to me in the delivery room i could have been in and out in 24hrs grrrrrrrrrr!!!!!

Thankfully that poor excuse for a maternity hospital has been closed down and the new one is fab

pigpen

Who else has lied when the MW became so obsessed with whether or not you had opened your bowels???????????

bexta

Xmas, I had thought about pinching one of small cousins baby dolls to practice on! Although I've got loads of little cousins, and have fed, changed and looked after them, newborns still freak me out. I'm glad OH has done this before, his ex had a c-section, so he looked after their son a lot when he was first born.

It used to be a 10 day stay in hospital didn't it? I know when mum had me and my sister she had to stay 10 days, although that was in Australia. When she had my brother, she left at the first possible opportunity (they gave her cold lamb and gravy for lunch - she didn't want to see what they were giving for tea!)

pigpen

lamb?! In hospital?!?!?!

I was given something resembling a shrunken head and a slice of bathmat... I had to ask what it was.. apparently it had previously been a baked potato and an omelette!!

bexta

Pigpen, it was 1984, and New Years Day. She's still traumatised by it!