MSE Pregnancy Club 18

conventgirl

Kitkat....it sounds like you need a break to take time out and enjoy ur lo. Will keep my fingers crossed that he gets a job soon.

My OH is the opposite as he works very long hours. I keep telling him he needs to slow down and not put so many hours in as we will need him once junior puts in an appearance but it goes on deaf ears. He was at work at 8 this morning even though he doesnt start till 9 and i have no idea what time he will finish

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conventgirl

Xmas...i think the part time idea for kitkat is a great idea

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redmel1621

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Kitkat if your not happy to go back to work full time then him being a sahd will never work you will just resent him for it. If you can manage on one wage can you both get a part time job working around each other that way you both get to spend time with the new arrival. Just a thought :-)

This is what me and dh are going to be doing....with 4 kids and both studying part-time uni, we have agreed to both work part-time too.

We will be getting an almost full-time wage coming into the house, will both get time to spend with the kids, and means no childcare costs. But it also means we both get the time/energy to continue studying. This way neither partner will feel any jealousy/animosity towards the other as everything is being shared fairly.

However, I am waiting for dh to find work first as he is going to find it the hardest and I have a feeling if I get work first it will stay that way:cool: Not entirely his fault as he does suffer with ocd, anxiety, and depression and has suffered a nervous breakdown in the past, so I am trying not to be on his case, too much;)

This will be the best option for us at the moment, as we both want to try and get our degrees and a career that we love:) Hopefully things will all fall into place and we can get through the next few years happily and without too much stress, in time to start our careers by the time the younger ones are starting pre-school/school:D

Mel x

delain

Well I just found a pair of magic jeans in new look :rotfl: our store is small and doesn't do maternity but this one had been returned I think and they were only £5, and make me look at least a size smaller :eek: and they had other stuff reduced too. So I got magic jeans, and 6 pairs of funky socks for £9

:money:

kitkat5566

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Kitkat if your not happy to go back to work full time then him being a sahd will never work you will just resent him for it. If you can manage on one wage can you both get a part time job working around each other that way you both get to spend time with the new arrival. Just a thought :-)

I really like the idea of this, before he lost his job I was considering going back to work part-time so I could spend time with the baby and carry on working. And if he worked part time too we would both be able to spend time with the baby Hopefully he can find some form of work, I just feel if he becomes a sahd nothing will get done like at the moment. I got home last night and he had done the washing up- but all he had washed was the glasses and left all the rest (theres lots of dirty pots and pans, roasting trays, etc) and he keeps using the damn george foreman and leaving that covered in grease which really annoys me! :mad: theres always wrappers everywhere, empty bottles, etc. So when I get in from work I seem to be clearing away after him, then washing up, then cooking tea and then I am totally nackered.

Thanks Convent wish my OH was like that! He used to be but since he was made redundant 2 years ago I think he has never recovered from how depressed he got himself. He has worked since, but it always seems to be a fixed term contract and I think he just gets sick of knowing that it will end soon and then back to searching.

I really hate moaning about him like this, I know he is down and its hard to get motivation but it just annoys me! He used to do everything for his mum when he lived at home as she was a lazy cow! Why cant he help me?

conventgirl

Kitkat...i can understand how he feels if he has been out of work for 2years. I must be very disheartening. But maybe working part time will give him his motivation back and the job wont necessarily finish after a set period?? Could be worth a go.

I however dont have any sympathy for him leaving you to do the pots etc when you get in from work...thats just not fair. Whilst i have not been working i have been making sure that all the jobs round the house are on top of unless i physically cant do them

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xmaslolly76

kitkat5566 wrote: »

I really hate moaning about him like this, I know he is down and its hard to get motivation but it just annoys me! He used to do everything for his mum when he lived at home as she was a lazy cow! Why cant he help me?

I hate to say this but its probably because you let him get away with it. Sounds like you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him about it all as your going to run yourself into the ground. If he is truely depressed then he needs to get some help if he is just slobbing around then you need to give him a short sharp kick in the jacksy to wake him up a bit. Its not fair that your doing everything whilst your pregnant the least he can do is clean up after himself. My OH was getting complacent about helping out here but after my complete meltdown the weekend he seems to have got his backside into gear. We are not superwomen as much as we like to convince ourselves that we are sometimes we need backup!

rach

kitkat - i don't know about your relationship but I think you need to have a full and frank discussion with him. It's really not fair that you're being expected to do all of this and work. I think sometimes you just need to be really straight about these things. You can't do it all but men (and I include mine in this!) will let us.

delain

I agree with everyone else, I think he needs a kick up the butt!

Hopefully after that, things will get easier for you

Kataratarina

Morning girlies... hope everyone is doing great and vibes to anyone thats needs them...

Was just ondering if any current mothers (or new) has used this http://www.elc.co.uk/toy/blossom-farm-sit-me-up-cosy/

My friend had this for his LO and he just looked so comfortable in it- the pic shows how it can be used when the baba can sit up but before that you can set the baby on like a flower cushion and it just looks so snuggly.

Its nearly £40 but she said her wee one loved it and she used this instead of a bouncer...

Anyone got any views on it?

xx