MSE Pregnancy Club 18

kitkat5566

Don79: I know nothing about this as it's my 1st time but as far as im concerned you do what is best for you and your baby. I know people who haven't had any luck breastfeeding and they still bonded with their babies fine and the babies were still healthy! Do what pigpen says, tell your OH you tried and just bottle feed instead. I'm planning on BFin but can see I will struggle so have got bottles ready incase. MIL moaned saying why would I need bottles as my boobs are for feeding, I just said I am carrying this baby I will feed how I want. I also happen to know she never BF any of her children so can't lecture me!

Thanks pigpen. I was going to do that I just need his NI number, as he is always here I can't search for it but I will try if he pops out!

DON79

thank you Pigpen and Merfe and Kitkat- I will have a chat with the midwife about it and hope that she backs me up also - because I am sitting here crying and its not good, I had a period of depression which came on a little while after I had ds2 - related to denying I had pnd after ds2 and stress at work - you would think he would not want me to get like that again! He has seen me twice really get upset and struggle over breastfeeding so you would think he wouldn't want that again...

thanks for all the support. Its one of those teary days for me lol! probably not helped by being awake during the night as ds1 was sick so I was up for a couple of hours with him...

I will leave the OH to entertain the boys this afternoon when he gets home from work and get some sleep

salesshopper

Hello again back from dancing (DD not me) attempting to get OH to mow lawn and take stuff to the tip - wish me luck will have a fit if he spends so long p***ing about it starts to rain first- this is defo his plan.

Also feeling very unloved OH has completely withdrawn from me lately no hugs kisses etc. I certainly won't be in a hurry to resume relations after the birth:mad:

sammy_kaye18

DON79 - I had all the intentions in the world of BF my little boy when he was born - I was 19, had literally moved to a new area months before, had no support and was stressed to the hilt.

I found it really hard to get Ben to latch on and he was a big first baby ( 9lb 7ozs) so was feeding literally every hour if not more and my body couldn't take it. I spoke with my boyfriend and decided to do a mix of both - part breast/part bottle and from the time my son got home 4 days after birth he was on a 6 oz bottle so you can imagine how hard it was.

I managed two weeks before I got mastitis in both breasts and it was agony. My son is now a perfectly healthy 6 year old and Im hoping to BF this baby IF I can but according to midwife and everyone else with an opinion she is going to be a heffer too so only time will tell - if i can then i will, if i cant then oh well. Baby milks nowadays have what baby needs. x


I'd print out leaflets about PND and leave them scattered around the house for OH to read as i know when I had it mildly after Ben I didn't want to look at Ben let alone breast feed him which meant Owen had to do all the hard work for a while!

delain

Hello :hello:

Hugs to all the ladies with man issues

OH has done our front and back gardens today and is finally going to sort the garage out tomorrow so my living room can stop looking like a mechanic surplus shop Only been asking for months!

Re: Breastfeeding, My ex was a nightmare when it came to this. He absolutely insisted DD1 be breastfed , and after 3 weeks of her just not getting anything from me the health visitor basically told me I had to bottlefeed or she would have to call social services I was so worried about what ex was going to say I made her ring his mobile and explain it to him because I knew he would hit the roof. By the time the twins came along I knew that (for me anyway) trying to breastfeed newborn twins and look after a 21 month old and keep house to his ridiculous standards would have been impossible so I told everyone I was going to bottlefeed, had full support from everyone except KH (I love this acronym pigpen ) and his mum, the midwives threw him out of the unit for hassling me.

This time as OH is being supportive, and has 2 weeks paternity leave plus I think is taking some holiday and he asked me nicely (not told me) if I woulod consider giving it a go this time. I have explained to him that my milk has always just gone away without any reason and that I will give it a go but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it and that if I feel it isn't working I will switch to bottles (which we have at home ready) whenever i see fit and that's the agreement we've reached.

What I will say, DON79 is don't get stressed out over it, do what you can, and if you're in pain, stop. It's not like you haven't told him what's up.

sammy_kaye18

delain wrote: »

OH has done our front and back gardens today and is finally going to sort the garage out tomorrow so my living room can stop looking like a mechanic surplus shop Only been asking for months!

had full support from everyone except KH (I love this acronym pigpen ) and his mum, the midwives threw him out of the unit for hassling me.

Again - are you sure your not in my house??? Although I have to say he did completely spring clean our bedroom and our spare room the other day - so he should though its all his bike/car/mountain bike junk but it looks much better and I have travel system up and ready to go in the spare room now.

What does KH mean??? I think I have an idea

sweaty_betty

yummymummyoftwo wrote: »

Regarding the mamas and papas outlet at hudderfield I was told it was great and had everything really cheap so I went which is about a 40 minute drive for me and it looked huge, went in and the shop size of my living room
I was so dissapointed
The one thing i wantd was a carseat and it was the same price as the normal shop:eek: £135
So I dont get it, yeah some stuff was reduced but not by much really

Yeah I think it's like a lot of outlets - sometimes there's loads of stuff in there, sometimes there's nothing. There seemed to be quite a bit a couple of weeks ago (maternity clothes reduced to £1 and £3 etc - and I saw a high chair reduced from £150 to £30). Worth popping in if you're near, or just having a shopping trip I guess.

Sorry to everyone who's having problems with men - sometimes I think it would be good to give them a taste of what it's like to be pregnant for a few days, might make them a bit more considerate...

delain

sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

Again - are you sure your not in my house??? Although I have to say he did completely spring clean our bedroom and our spare room the other day - so he should though its all his bike/car/mountain bike junk but it looks much better and I have travel system up and ready to go in the spare room now.

What does KH mean??? I think I have an idea

I'm pretty sure I'm in my house although you're welcome to lay claim to my washing mountain :rotfl: I've had a few rainy days (I refuse to use tumble dryer in june ) and I've got loads of stuff to get washed and dry now!

KH is for Kn0b head :T:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Yeah all our baby stuff is hiding in the caravan atm.

pigpen

sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

What does KH mean??? I think I have an idea

LOL.. exactly what you think it means!! Kn0bhead.. aka former husbands/partners that behave inappropriately.

Delain.. I have a weeks worth of washing for the same reason... sicky towel in at the moment though.. then I need to do a clean cycle.. then I may be able to face putting washing in.. down to 1 machine for the day!

kitkat5566

salesshopper wrote: »

Hello again back from dancing (DD not me) attempting to get OH to mow lawn and take stuff to the tip - wish me luck will have a fit if he spends so long p***ing about it starts to rain first- this is defo his plan.

Also feeling very unloved OH has completely withdrawn from me lately no hugs kisses etc. I certainly won't be in a hurry to resume relations after the birth:mad:

Thanks awful with your OH. Mine is useless but he always hugs and kisses me, which i think is so important if your feeling low. He keeps wanting more though and I just don't have the energy and just feel like a big fat lump!