MSE Pregnancy Club 18

pigpen

Well as I already knew my bloods came back saying I am anaemic.. ooh.. shocker!! apparently the quack is under instruction to poison me with iron tablets and folic acid.. no ta!!!

Baby is on a trampoline in there i think.. I think I may be developing the children chucky bug.. and I refuse to partake in such gros behaviour! and I need my bed!

hazzie123

Huge labour vibes for you Cafc and anybody else in need.Some men can be pillocks,I don't think they even realise they are.No wonder women have the babies.

kitkat5566

*loads and LOADS of labour vibes to hazzie and cafc*

y are men so !!!!!! atm, mine isn't much better but I really feel for you ladies who are close to due dates and ladies with other kids *hugs* my bloke has not long got up, asked me to make him a cupa then he went straight on his computer. I've been up hours, done 1 load of baby washing, 2 loads of his, and it's all hung outside drying. I've put away his clothes, socks, undies as I know if I leave it to him it'll stay on the floor for weeks. Just feel annoyed, I work full time, am suffering terrible with my back atm and he just can't help me. I keep telling myself he will change when the baby comes but will he really? He has told me I have to work until the end of July so I can pay all the bills but who is guna do it when I'm on leave? He still hasn't signed on and I can't be !!!!!d to even mention it again, he hasn't applied for any jobs. Rant over!

Sorry to go on, talking about it helps

pigpen

kitkat. apply online in his name for jobseekers, give them his phone number to contact.. the benefits office will ring him and tell him to come in for an appointment.

Mine is very lovely.. if unmotivated and needing a kick up the behind on occasion.

I am going to end up in tears at some point today too.. we can all be hormonal nutjobs together.. mine is likely to be because the keyboard is skipping letters.

pigpen

DON79 wrote: »

hugs to all needing them re "men!" - my OH is ok but is a right pain sometimes too. I absolutely hate that when I get annoyed with him over something not done - its all my fault and cos I am pregnant I turn into a super-whingeing woman according to him! grrrr....

aside from the fact I am getting stressed out over breastfeeding. I haven't been able to successfully breastfeed at all with either ds1 or ds2 and I really really don't want to try it again at all this time but OH keeps insisting I should give baby feeds for first few days - its ok for him, its not him who will get the bleeding cracked nipples despite applying all the creams in the world, or him who will get the blocked ducts and mastitis again.

It just gets me so depressed when I fail at breastfeeding yet again and I am so sure it affects my bonding with baby too I would rather just bottlefeed and be able to spend time enjoying baby for the first few days rather than stressing about not getting baby latched on and then watching baby not thriving - I never seem to produce enough colustrum to keep baby satisfied and my milk never comes in either... pumping/expressing doesn't work either so I always end up bottlefeeding...

another thing is that will have his mum and dad staying with us just after baby comes too and I feel so uncomfortable feeding in front of them its embarassing having his dad especially sitting there and I am trying to be all relaxed etc for feeding the baby

So tell him to do it if it means so much to him... Honestly, you have given your body over to growing the baby so long as it is fed and loved nothing else matters.. tell him to bog off and you will do as you please.

OR.. you could always give baby bottles in hospital and just tell him you have tried when he isn't there and the baby cannot latch on if you think he will behave like a twerp otherwise.

You do what you are comfortable and happy with and don't take any notice of him.. he only wants you to feed to he doesn't feel the obligation to do a night feed.

smartie12

Boo hiss at OH's... I'll do a real life boo hiss at mine;)

Great scan pic Fuzz:D

All these babies ready to escaping... and who have escaped:) are making me jealous I've still got a few months to go!!

I've got plenty to do before bean is here (like finishing the painting in the bathroom which I was supposed to be doing NOW:o:rotfl:) but I'm still getting impatient!

DON79

pigpen wrote: »

So tell him to do it if it means so much to him... Honestly, you have given your body over to growing the baby so long as it is fed and loved nothing else matters.. tell him to bog off and you will do as you please.

OR.. you could always give baby bottles in hospital and just tell him you have tried when he isn't there and the baby cannot latch on if you think he will behave like a twerp otherwise.

You do what you are comfortable and happy with and don't take any notice of him.. he only wants you to feed to he doesn't feel the obligation to do a night feed.

I just don't think he gets it just how much it makes me sad.... but we have talked about it two or three times already this pregnancy and I always get the same replies as before about it being good for baby to have colustrum etc blah blah blah! knocking my head on a brick wall I think!

thanks for the advice

pigpen

It is good for the baby to have colostrum.. we all KNOW that but it is more important for the baby to have a happy, comfortable mummy who feels up to looking after him and loving him and doing other fun things. I isn't the be-all it is made out to be.

Tell him, the online breastfeeding counsellor said so!!

sammy_kaye18

CAFCGirl wrote: »

keeps asking me what i wanna do for the day as well, erm give birth and get this god damn heffer out of me?!
so i tell him to think of something, and what does he do? yes turns the laptop back on and watches his STUPID fire service carp!

Are you sure you haven't got my boyfriend???

I keep telling him I want babe out of me because Im in agony and on verge of tears all the time - besides all the usual carp - he's on about building a bloody motor cross bike in the living room - and no doubt when he collects his DS1 later he'll get dumped on me so he can watch bloody videos on you tube or look at bike part shopping lists or his ebay - none of which ill see a penny from because he wants a motorcross bike because his friends all have one! Your 31 not 5!!!!!

My boyfriend usually asks what's wrong with me if Im in a huff and I say Im bored, so he tells me to think of something to do and we'll do it - so if i suggest a walk down the beach which is a sandy beach about 10 - 15 minutes from our house - I get the response of 'well off you go then' because he cant be ar*ed, his eldest son at 9 is basically a recluse thanks to his mothers laziness and so I would have my 6 year old for company. Just what's needed if my waters should break............

MERFE

DON I've had one baby that was so incredibly painful to try to breastfeed and if I'd had two I would not be trying to breastfeed this one. DS was not in the least painful I gave up too soon but if this baby sucks like my daughter I will give up straight away. The pain does not make a happy mum and pigpen is right, you are so important to the baby and you being happy will make a much more contented baby. Believe me I understand the guilt and the crying cos you couldn't do it etc, your OH doesn't because he has not done it.