MSE Pregnancy Club 18

bonty44

moneysaver12 wrote: »

Hi everyone, you have been busy talking will catch up again lol. When i went to the hospital yesterday i found out that i can have a natural birth, i thought that as i have had two c - sections that i would have to have another c -section, but apparntley it has now changed and they are letting women choose. I have at the moment said i would like to have a c-section, i didn't have time to really think about it, felt put on the spot by the question.

Now i am thinking about having a natural birth but to be honest am a bit scared about it, as i had a tramatic time when i did have a natural birth and i was induced. I think the inducing made it worse.

Has anyone had a c section then gone on to have natural birth. Also if i do have the natural birth, i would really like to try and avoid having a epidural. How affective are ten machines. Do water births help. Has anyone got any tips please for a natural birth as iam going towards this.

Hi, I thought I would post about my last two labours as I had an emergency caesarean for DS1 in 2002.

In 2004, I had DS2 VBAC, and I was a woman on a mission to get him in the best possible position for labour as I am fairly certain this is why my 1st labour didn't progress and I had to be induced, etc. I spent all my spare time looking up 'optimal foetal positioning'. I argued with every doctor and consultant that it didn't matter that I was overdue (DS2 was 10 days late in the end) and that they weren't going to book me in for a caesarean.

I didn't know at the time that they can't induce you if you are trying VBAC after a caesarean. I went into labour after a sweep and had to stay fairly monitored, they put a canula in my hand in case they needed to whisk me away, and strapped monitors to my tummy to monitor myself (because of scar) and to monitor baby's heartbeat. This is why you can't have a water birth after caesarean. I did have several visits from doctors throughout, just to check that things were going alright, and labour took quite some time as, for my body, this was my first 'normal' delivery.

Having said all that, though, I was able to stay upright and mobile and the leads from the monitor were fairly long, so I could move around and didn't have to stay strapped to the bed.

DS3 was born yesterday after I woke up at 607 with my first contraction. I had 4 hours of erratic contractions where I had a massive urge to clean the house from top to bottom (typically I'd had a day off housework the day before so the house was a tip); my waters broke at 1120, I was in hospital by 1220 and DS3 was born at 1430! Not bad going!

I have to say that yesterday's labour was the most empowering experience I have ever had. When I phoned the hospital to say I was coming in, they double checked that I had already had a VBAC and said that I didn't need to come in early for them to monitor my scar as they were not anticipating any difficulties, having read up on my second birth.

I got to the hospital and the amazing midwife said that she wouldn't put a canula in but she would just monitor me and baby's heartbeat and see how we got on from there. So I was free to move around as much as possible; no intervention from doctors, the only hairy bit was when baby got stuck because he'd wrapped the cord in front of his head and this is why,even though I was pushing for England, he took three midwifes holding my legs apart to get him out!!

I was home within four hours! What a difference from DS1 where I was in hospital for nearly a week.

So you can have a 'normal' delivery after VBAC. The only stumbling blocks I have found were ...

- as my BMI is slightly higher than average, I kept getting asked if I wanted a caesarean this time - I stood my ground
- DS1 and DS2 were both 10/12 days overdue so I was expecting DS3 to be late; in fact, on Thursday I had a huge row with a consultant who was pushing for me to book a caesarean as they get very twitchy if you go overdue when going for VBAC (I was only 5 days late this time)
- DS2 was fairly big at 9lb 2 for my size, so they started getting twitchy about how big DS3 was going to be

However, I talked through absolutely every concern with my midwife beforehand and she said she would back me all the way and didn't think I had any worries.

I felt really focused yesterday; my NCT yoga had helped but also I had been practising my breathing in different birthing positions for a number of weeks, so I knew where I felt most comfortable, and all I needed in the end was gas and air (however, I pushed so hard on the mask that I have got a really sore nose, mouth and forehead today)

I hope this helps you make up your mind. You've got nothing to lose in going for a VBAC (this will make looking after your other 2 children a lot easier, I should imagine) but one of the first things I did say upon arrival yesterday was that if there was any doubt then they should just whisk me away and get baby out as obviously a 'birth plan' is only that.

HOpe that helps!

xmaslolly76

Right ive come up with a solution to my denim problem im not going to hem them im going to cut them a little longer and turn them up with the tape and a couple of little stiches either side they will hold rather well i think :-)

Smartie Just get your solicitor to make sure we are all on the jury you would walk no probs ;-)

When a couple of my friends got married they couldnt decide which name to keep hers was Coffee his was Chocolate :-)

bexta

Xmas - they should've changed them both to Mocha!

xmaslolly76

lmao Bexta :-D x

sir_monster

Re names, when we got married I chose to double-barrell as DH's name is quite unusual (family from Hong Kong) and wanted to keep my family name. I am also close to getting this double-barrell for bubs, again I don't care what people think!! Also as DH has an unusual surname was thinking would stand out anyway!! This though makes things difficult as intials will be BH at the end so can't really call them anything beginning with G or A (they will be fighters!!). Also DH has insisted that his mum choses a chinese middle name (although I WILL have finally say) so have to fit in with that. Why is this so hard???

Won't tell anyone the name until bubs is here as can't be bothered with judgements.

Btw I love both names CAFC, wouldn't do for us as I read to avoid same number of syllabuls for first name and surname.

KitKat I like it warm not too hot as just get feeling dizzy and won't sleep (please, please no record hot summers)

CAFCGirl

bexta wrote: »

Xmas - they should've changed them both to Mocha!

That actually made me laugh out loud....

And yeah marrying someone with the same surname defo makes things easier, and is kinda nice because our family name lives on, despite my dad having two girls, my uncle only having a girl and my aunt having a son whose gay :rotfl:

Am slightly disappointed in myself that i didnt make more dinner.... i actually didnt even really fancy it that much before i started eating, and then i was like woman possessed and could eat the whole thing over again :T Shall have to eat the other cornetto i have instead LOL

ethelsmum

We have (well I have) got a girls name sorted but struggling with a boys. Not going to tell anyone what we choose as everyone has an opinion. When we told family what we had chosen for ds no-one liked it but they got use to it
We have so many friends/family pg at the moment - just hope nobody uses our names.

billybobberyl

we are in a similar position ethelsmum we have a definite girls name but noo chance for boys! My ds is called luis and so we cant have anything too traditional as his is not, but i dont like anything, not for us. Am loving all the names here though esp landon.
ok, bite the bullet, the pink name is . . . fern (prepares for the lynch mob!) what you all think?

tigtag02

billybobberyl wrote: »

we are in a similar position ethelsmum we have a definite girls name but noo chance for boys! My ds is called luis and so we cant have anything too traditional as his is not, but i dont like anything, not for us. Am loving all the names here though esp landon.
ok, bite the bullet, the pink name is . . . fern (prepares for the lynch mob!) what you all think?

I like it

Glamazon

redmel1621 wrote: »

Ooooh great, I like them both.

IF this baby does turn out to be a boy we like LOGAN but already have ds1 with a L name and I am funny about having the same letter at beginning of the name.....we do also have ISAAC 'just in case'

Just catching up with you guys cos there's no-one on the parent thread feel free to ignore me

My sister is calling her LO Logan

I have a friend with a LO called Theo which I love

Fern is lovely :cool:

I prefer Leon to Landon

We decided on Jack after the 20 week scan, everytime I tried to think of another name Jack came up. He definitely looked like a Jack so I decided to give him a middle name so that he had a cool nickname when he got older. It either going to be Jack Tyler but I now have JD tattooed on my wrist for Jack Dylan

MIL tried to make out we were naming him after FIL's grandad but they were told in no uncertain terms that he was not being named after anyone - we chose the name because we liked it