my boyfriend wants prenup and I'm pregnant

Strapped

I think some people need to turn up their troll detectors.

csh_2

Strapped wrote: »

I think some people need to turn up their troll detectors.

Thats what I thought! Altogether now 'I ain't saying shes a golddigga.....' LOL

Philycheesesteak

I don't think they're legally binding in this country anyway ...

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/8580313.stm

(Yet)
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My wife and I decided we don't want kids... so if anyone wants them you can pick them up on Friday.

LondonDiva

No such thing as an enforcable prenup in England.

However, the lawyers are pushing hard for it.

Would concentrate your energy on the reasons behind the request, especially as you are going to be in a really vulnerable position: Moved to be with him, career insecurity, a young child.

If you 'saving' by not paying him 'rent' is a good thing, does that mean he will be giving you 50% of childcare and child rearing costs?

Sounds more liek a room mate than a life partner to me.

satnav10

Bufger wrote: »

I'm quite sure you would still have a claim to part of his estate by paying the bills and that being recorded with a paper trail unless the prenup would mention such a thing (and even then im sure you would still be entitled!). From the legality side of things you would want to see a solicitor to go over the terms of this prenup, do it on your own so you wont hold back questions.

its been a couple of years since i studied 'Trusts' in Uni (and i wasnt particularly good at it), but i do remember reading about a case where a woman moved in with her partner in the house that he already owned. She paid half the bills/holidays etc, but when they split, the judge didnt give her 1/2 of the property as she wasnt with the man when he purchased it. From what i can remember, we discussed the end of the 'common-law' marriage and what this means for co-habitees.

IMO, well worth speaking to solicitor first.

pinkshoes

I think your boyfriend sounds like an ejit.

I'd walk away now!

Once you have a child together, pre-nups mean very little.

swiss69

He is being rather blunt with it but I can see where he is coming from.

If he has built up say £100k in both equity and savings I think it is unfair that if you do split up in say 10 years that you walk away with half of this.

I would say that you should walk away with half of anything you have built up together since you have been together (Not just married) including increase in house equity and savings and perhaps a small percentage of what he has built up...say 10%.

There are many men who I know who have been absolutely shafted financially following divorce.

I am not sure pre nups are legal in this country but a judge is likely to take it into account. Having a child would probably overide this though as judges tend to put the needs of the child first.

Men and woman tend to look at love and marriage differently.

threemuttleys

Run. Away. Now

*Louise*

...just wondering how you are going to be able to afford to pay half the bills and groceries AND save up for your own place when you will be either on maternity pay (bearing in mind HIS earnings will greatly reduce your ability to claim Working Tax Credits or indeed any benefits, so you will be on less than you could be after the child is born) What does he expect you to save - buttons?

I have to say though, any bloke who suggested to me that I save up my 'rent money' (good of him) so I can buy my own place if we divorce....well let's just say he wouldn't be putting a ring on my finger in the first place.:mad:


I'm not saying he isn't right to want to protcet what he has built up over the years.....it's just it could be done in a nicer way. Romantic he aint!

Bitsy_Beans

I wouldn't want to be with any man who had such a dim view of our relationship and it's longevity.
He might be rubbish at explaining himself but honestly he makes it sound like you're a lodger rather than his wife. How is he going to treat his offspring? In the same manner?