question:- I'm mortgage free. should my girlfriend pay me rent ?

amus

free wrote: »

Hi Just wondering,

I am disappointed in your response

Seeing as you dont believe in God

I hope you dont plan to marry in the House of God in future if you believe in marriage

Marriage comes from religion remember....

You seem to have wealth without peace of mind

Correction Man is destroying himself and the whole world not religion

Religion makes people good

Since people threw it in the dustbin things have fallen apart since

Find God.....

Yeah makes people really good, how many wars have been waged and how many thousands have died in the name of religion? Idiotic statement.

Anyway what on Earth has this post got to do with this thread? Go and spout your nonsense in the discussion forum.

Cleany

epm-84 wrote: »

So you're suggesting if she's a gold digger then it's an equal relationship? :eek: The proposal made by the boyfriend was that they move in together and she pays a below commerical rate which she gains from by paying less than she pays currently so how is she not gaining from that. I would never expect anything for free unless someone had told me it would be free.

no you've got it the wrong way round,

im saying that if it's an equal relationship she's not a gold digger. in fact gold, or any other bartering medium, would be a secondary consideration, and subject to, and shared by, their loving union.

PoorPennilessMe

Cleany wrote: »

but but but ...



make up your mind

Sorry, but I feel that religious dogma being thrust at us is not appropriate for a discussion on money. I have no problem with people having whatever spiritual/religious views they want - I'm even happy to read people's experiences... Just not being rammed down our throats...

I see a difference... To me it's a big one.

xxSaffronxx

Whilst i believe everyone has their right to their religion & beliefs, I dont think its appropriate on this subject

I am a spiritual person - perhaps I should advise pennyless to go find his guardian angel to pay off his debts??? ROFL :A :shocked:

nancyjms

I have a live-in boyfriend who owned his own house (with mortgage) when we got together. He came to live with me, but as his mortgage was much bigger than mine, we decided he wouldn't pay anything towards rent or any bills, and thus our outgoing were about equal (if not a little in his favour). He then sold his house (with a £75k profit) and decided he would pay me £50 a week towards the bills (which was a 50/50 split), but that he would not pay anything towards my mortgage, as he hadn't in the past. He then quit his job and started living off his money. 6 years later he is still paying £50 a week towards bills and refuses to raise the amount as he doesn't see why he should just because gas/food bills have increased (his reason is: if they dropped again I wouldn't reduce the rent). His proportion of bill payments is now about 35/65. He's got about £30k left, and plans to sit on my sofa for the next 5 years until it runs out, and then think about getting a job (or just living off the state).

Because we didn't sort the finances out properly in the beginning, now (12 years on) there is ill-feeling on both sides.

BTW he also refuses to marry me as "he doesn't believe in marriage", and I am stuck, as I do love him, but I hate the way he treats me financially.

PoorPennilessMe

xxSaffronxx wrote: »

Whilst i believe everyone has their right to their religion & beliefs, I dont think its appropriate on this subject

I am a spiritual person - perhaps I should advise pennyless to go find his guardian angel to pay off his debts??? ROFL :A :shocked:

Actually I had a little prayer at Oestre...

justwondering25

free wrote: »

Hi Just wondering,

I am disappointed in your response

Seeing as you dont believe in God

I hope you dont plan to marry in the House of God in future if you believe in marriage

Marriage comes from religion remember....

You seem to have wealth without peace of mind

Correction Man is destroying himself and the whole world not religion

Religion makes people good

Since people threw it in the dustbin things have fallen apart since

Find God.....

Religion is a Business Franchise , just depends which one you decide to buy into .

PoorPennilessMe

justwondering25 wrote: »

Religion is a Business Franchise , just depends which one you decide to buy into .

Actually, it's shocking how much organised religion and pyramid selling have in common...

johncolescarr

I cannot believe that you are even considering asking your girlfriend to pay rent on a house you own outright!!!

I wouldn't even ask a friend to do this. This could be your future wife!

By all means if you earn similar amounts split the household bills! But come on, do you get her to pay half when you go for meals?! I am a great believer in equality but it will not even cost you anything. Where is the sharing, where is the kindness?
I know a couple who keep a track of each £1 they lend each other and will actually have the audacity to ask for such a small sum back. I would never dream of doing this!

You are obviously not a normally tight person and I think that this is a very tight thing to do so don't do it!!

spursliz

You are charging your girlfriend to live with you?

Why?

Did she charge you rent when you stayed overnight at her place?

I am mystified. Split the food and utility bills by all means but charging her to live with you?

No, no, no.

Liz