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mazza111

you guys for all ure reassurances. Well I haven't reached the milestone, but I had my kids young too. And am having more fun now that I ever had, Am I started to early? Is that allowed?

I missed out on all the dating n clubbing when I was younger, due to being with my x husband since I was 16?!?!?! So am making up for it now :T

victory

My diabetic dietitian has just emailed me saying I eat too many carbs, eaten the same carbs day in and day out since I started this weight loss back in 07 so how come now it is too many?:D My numbers are all over the place so she has to pin it on something, if I have shreddies, weetabix or porridge for breakfast that is considered good carbs, lunch is soup and a snack a jack, dinner is carbs pasta, pots, meat, veg, the usual and snack before bed may be some crackers (carbs) or a bit of salad or sugar free jelly with fromage frais, I am supposed to eat carbs with diabetes, baffling, not gained, not lost either diet the same for years, let them work it out for me:D if I was to have a carb free diet they would soon create:rotfl:

Brighton_belle

mazza111 wrote: »

you guys for all ure reassurances. Well I haven't reached the milestone, but I had my kids young too. And am having more fun now that I ever had, Am I started to early? Is that allowed?

No mazza - you have to stop all fun right now. This is discraceful behaviour. You can look forward to starting again on your 40th:D
If you are very good, we will let you out the night before...

All Iwant - forgot tho say thanks for trying to find the gallery. I think it is quite hard to find: the whole marina isn't very well designed.

alliwantistosave

Brighton_belle wrote: »

All Iwant - forgot tho say thanks for trying to find the gallery. I think it is quite hard to find: the whole marina isn't very well designed.

That's OK as I said I was nosey and in the area, also anything to support fellow weight losers. It has expanded since I was last there....... Have you sold anything ?

victory wrote: »

My diabetic dietitian has just emailed me saying I eat too many carbs, eaten the same carbs day in and day out since I started this weight loss back in 07 so how come now it is too many?:D My numbers are all over the place so she has to pin it on something, if I have shreddies, weetabix or porridge for breakfast that is considered good carbs, lunch is soup and a snack a jack, dinner is carbs pasta, pots, meat, veg, the usual and snack before bed may be some crackers (carbs) or a bit of salad or sugar free jelly with fromage frais, I am supposed to eat carbs with diabetes, baffling, not gained, not lost either diet the same for years, let them work it out for me:D if I was to have a carb free diet they would soon create:rotfl:

So is that there excuse for your horrible time when you couldn't get any help? It has taken them this long to get back to you. That is a little poor, I hope they decide to kick themselves up the bum for being so slack :mad:

jimbms wrote: »

Just a little couple of facts to help you along, once your body fat percentage gets above 32% usually BMI 48+ then the chance of a portable defibrulator working if you have a heart attack is very low and CPR even lower, this is then reduced by 50% if you have been at this level for more than 2 years. SO please stick to your diets and remember it is not just the diet you have to change yours and the familys eating habits as well. Good luck and hope you never have to prove these facts.

Now I feel depressed too And after feeling happy after having to buy a new pair of jeans another size smaller at the weekend I might have to consider selling some of my old clothes on ebay. Has anyone else done this? what sort of return do you get and is it worth it ?

Well done on the losses already coming in everyone :T

vixarooni

victory wrote: »

No offence taken, we are not behaving like adults, this tit for tat is ludricous but we are at a loss, the electricity will not be cut because OH does not know how to do it and to call someone in to do it at our expense surely that defeats the object?:D

We are not looking to punish him more to teach him a lesson, what are aim is that he must know we are a family of four, we give and take, we do for each other, we look out for each other, with respect, love, care, kindness, support each other the way the eldest sees it it is him, him and him, all our money should be his, all the money should be spent on his needs, all his needs and desires should be met immediately whatever the cost, whether it is convenient or will leave us short or disrupt everyone else is not of interest to him, he wants he should get, he has no respect for me, his brother, a bit more for his dad because he knows he cannot go that far with his dad, he has no interest in the family,their day to day, never asks about anyone, always talks about himself and what he wants and constantly says we do nothing for him and he gets nothing, we wanted to show him that we have not the monetary capabilities but we love him, will help with the CV's, his worries, his concerns, that we are here for him, do things for him, think about him, want the best for him but we cannot give him our wages to make him happy.

Tit for tat is the pits and it is not working because so far he keeps saying let it go on for years, it does not bother me, do what you like how you like, I want my sesson ticket, my this and that and if you do not give it to me I will not talk to you, be horrible to the youngest and kick off at anything.

I have tried since the beginning to talk to him normally as if he was not refusing to speak to us, when he comes in from school I ask him how his day was, I say 'have a good day' when he leaves for school, I chat if I see him on the landing or in the kitchen, he carries on doing what he was doing and will not speak, I have sang around him to show him it is not getting to me or hum etc, I did go once into his room and he stood up said 'shut up you are boring me, get out of my room' like I said no respect, no sesson ticket no respect, when I suggested that if this was all about that chances were minimal to get it, he said 'I don't care, don't talk to me, go away' Every night I open his door and say 'goodnight, sleep well, Love you' he doesn't even look up.

Can i be really really mean victory? But you sound maybe wayby a little ickle bit soft. I feel horrible for saying it, but if i had said that to my mother she would have come into my room and hit me or had the biggest go at me ever. I wouldnt have said that to my mother though because i know what the consequences would be. Im afraid he knows he can walk all over you, and i think at that age when you spot a weakness in someone you take advantage of it.

I hope you don't take offence also, im not a mother and i havent a clue what it feels like to love a child and have to punish them at the same time so i can only really relate to your sons feelings.

Lois_Lane wrote: »

That's why I liked my 40's the most, as I had my babies when I was in my early 20's so they were already grown up and OH and I suddenly found a new lease of life and started enjoying the years we missed out on earlier because of the children.

So you'd better get on with the babymaking!

LL

But then the way i look at it is, im 23 now, these years i will never get back. Its like Mazza who said about how she didnt do the clubbing thing, those days are gone and missed. When i was 18 i could go out in my short skirt in the hail and snow no problem, i could drink till kingdom come have a fantastic night and go to work the next morning no problem. Those days are now gone! I have to have a coat, i cant work the next day, the nights out just arent the same.

I think because im heading for this saving for a deposit thing its kinda scarying me at the same time because suddenly im 23 and i dont want to settle down yet, i still want to go clubbing and get drunk and dance, i wanna go to town and buy clothes and go out for meals. It feels like when i have a house i wont relate to any of my friends who are all younger than i am, and i'll just feel old I think half the reason i feel this way is because my friends are all younger, not one of them is my age, one of my friends has just turned 21 so were at completely differenct stages, if only a few years apart. Its amazing the influence of your friends, even at this age when you think youre your own person.

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Well, sadly I never got to have children vix, but I think my friends and I( and we all have vey differnt circs) all feel we have a deeper sense of self and of what we want, maybe for our own fulfillment.
In my own case, my 20's and 30's were decimated by illness and to be honest I was also very lonely becasue of this. I was 39 when I met my lovely partner after believing I would never be loved, and I have also gone on to make some wonderful friends. So my own happiness is in direct contrast to the carpness of earlier decades. The wonder of small goodness in life don't seem humdrum then.
But I have a number of friends in their 40's who have spent time doing the sometimes necessary humdrum in theri 20's and 30's and then gave up jobs they realised didn't make them happy and retrained in other things, or and discovered new hobbies.
I have one dear friend who walked from lands end to John o' groats in her 50's,took a degree in her 60's; travels and lives life to the full.

I think there is pressure in your 20's and 30's to get on with proper jobs, to make enough money to have a home, have a family and then suddenly,come 40, you are free to make other choices again the other side of that. Or you have grown the confidence to take a risk and follow your heart and do what you dream of.

So true on your last paragraph. In my head my life is actually going to stop at 40! Its blank. One thing im also worried of (well not worried thats a bit extreme but i cant find a lesser word) is that once ive got engaged, got married, had babies, what else is there to look forward to life achievement wise? Like all the good bits are done and then theres just waiting for death. Obviously im talking to extremes but it just seems like there is just getting old to look forward to...

Oh and on the other side of what i was talking about at the start of my post regarding not wanting a house, my biggest dream is to get this lovely house where i can keep chickens and my guinea pigs can roam in a large space and my children can grow up in this lovely environment with animals and me and matt will be all happy with our little babies, however we have them.

fredsnail

Brighton_belle wrote: »

No mazza - you have to stop all fun right now. This is discraceful behaviour. You can look forward to starting again on your 40th:D
If you are very good, we will let you out the night before...

Fun??? Next mazza will be telling us she has a life - I don't have one so no one else is allowed one

Vix - I never did the club thing - I hated it, have never been totally drunk or done many things in life. I've always been a square peg in a round hole - but I'm now getting to the stage where I like myself and who I am - flaws and all. But the other thing with getting older is that you realise that quality counts - make the most of things and do what you want.

You find other targets to set yourself, not necessarily material - but things you want to do (a friend has a list of 100 things to do before she gets to 40) it doesn't matter if you don't achieve everything - but it does give you an aim and also it's good not to drift along in life and this makes you think about what you want out of life.

Brighton_belle

Vix - I'm not suprised there is a blank for you after 40. I am sure I felt the same. At 23, 30 seemed ancient as far as I remember and sensible and dull. And I definitely remember swearing blind with a friend at 22 that we would never ever do anything so staid as getting a mtg.
Like you not being able to imagine 40+,I tend to wonder a little about my 60's and 70's and 80's. So what i have been casually doing over the past few years is spotting role models in women of those ages who's lives inspire and excite me. And I mean ordinary women that I meet in my life, not celebrities.
And as fred says, you (can) continue to find new goals and dreams for yourself as you get older. Sometimes that needs to be a conscious effort when you suddenly realisedyou are in a dull rut. I tend to re-evaluate my life every 6 months or so, to check I am still using my spare time and energy in the most effective way for my happiness that I can. That way I tend to drop things that have become habit and are no longer exciting me and scout round for new ideas. It helps that I live in such an interesting town, but that wasn't luck - I moved here because I was so bored and isolated where I was living.
Also, you don't consciously feel older, you still feel the same you inside.

Fred - I never did the whole nightclub thing either - square peg/round hole. That's what i love about getting older, you gradually meet more and more people you connect with (of all ages), if you didn't quite feel you fitted with your peer group when younger

de1amo

my life was a complete disaster at 40-i was holed up in Brasil doing nothing and going no where in life-the weather was nice for the time of year(january)--i eventually came home and havent looked back since--i was over weight from lazying about on the beach and my first step to happiness was to get fit and down to my optimum weight--not much has changed in life!!---since then i have got married and i wouldnt recognise my life from back then-i have purpose, İ look forward to my future and building a bright future for my step daughter. i have worked hard and become financially secure--its just consolidation now and looking forward to a bright future.
i cant wait to weigh myself today to see if i have got into the normal bmi range but i will wait til the proper time to be completely accurate!!

Eric_Pisch

6.4 lb loss this week :j

de1amo

wow well done eric---sotw for sure!