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victory

beanielou wrote: »

This might not be politically correct but I would give your oldest DS a slap fopr saying that victory.He really knows what buttons to push.

I agree but we have to refrain because say legally you are not allowed to do that if he knew the rights he has social services, the police etc could get involved, never suggested for one second they are going to be in any shape of form but if we slapped him it would be one more ammunition as it were towards us:D

victory

retiredlady wrote: »

Reporting a loss of 1.5 lbs this week.

Victory - aI honestly wouldn't contemplate cutting the electricity to his bedroom, that seems a little like spite rather than trying to teach him a lesson. Unless you are looking to punish him? Not sure what your aim is to be honest. I know you just want the whole situation to go away but that just isn't going to happen.


Please don't take offense, but you and your husband are the adults and your are going to have to be the ones to resolve it - without making the situation escalate any more!

Marion

No offence taken, we are not behaving like adults, this tit for tat is ludricous but we are at a loss, the electricity will not be cut because OH does not know how to do it and to call someone in to do it at our expense surely that defeats the object?:D

We are not looking to punish him more to teach him a lesson, what are aim is that he must know we are a family of four, we give and take, we do for each other, we look out for each other, with respect, love, care, kindness, support each other the way the eldest sees it it is him, him and him, all our money should be his, all the money should be spent on his needs, all his needs and desires should be met immediately whatever the cost, whether it is convenient or will leave us short or disrupt everyone else is not of interest to him, he wants he should get, he has no respect for me, his brother, a bit more for his dad because he knows he cannot go that far with his dad, he has no interest in the family,their day to day, never asks about anyone, always talks about himself and what he wants and constantly says we do nothing for him and he gets nothing, we wanted to show him that we have not the monetary capabilities but we love him, will help with the CV's, his worries, his concerns, that we are here for him, do things for him, think about him, want the best for him but we cannot give him our wages to make him happy.

Tit for tat is the pits and it is not working because so far he keeps saying let it go on for years, it does not bother me, do what you like how you like, I want my sesson ticket, my this and that and if you do not give it to me I will not talk to you, be horrible to the youngest and kick off at anything.

I have tried since the beginning to talk to him normally as if he was not refusing to speak to us, when he comes in from school I ask him how his day was, I say 'have a good day' when he leaves for school, I chat if I see him on the landing or in the kitchen, he carries on doing what he was doing and will not speak, I have sang around him to show him it is not getting to me or hum etc, I did go once into his room and he stood up said 'shut up you are boring me, get out of my room' like I said no respect, no sesson ticket no respect, when I suggested that if this was all about that chances were minimal to get it, he said 'I don't care, don't talk to me, go away' Every night I open his door and say 'goodnight, sleep well, Love you' he doesn't even look up.

Lois_Lane

vixarooni wrote: »

40's the best decade? Really?????? Arent you tied by children and husbands and work and the humdrum?

That's why I liked my 40's the most, as I had my babies when I was in my early 20's so they were already grown up and OH and I suddenly found a new lease of life and started enjoying the years we missed out on earlier because of the children.

So you'd better get on with the babymaking!

LL

Brighton_belle

vixarooni wrote: »

40's the best decade? Really?????? Arent you tied by children and husbands and work and the humdrum?

Well, sadly I never got to have children vix, but I think my friends and I( and we all have vey differnt circs) all feel we have a deeper sense of self and of what we want, maybe for our own fulfillment.
In my own case, my 20's and 30's were decimated by illness and to be honest I was also very lonely becasue of this. I was 39 when I met my lovely partner after believing I would never be loved, and I have also gone on to make some wonderful friends. So my own happiness is in direct contrast to the carpness of earlier decades. The wonder of small goodness in life don't seem humdrum then.
But I have a number of friends in their 40's who have spent time doing the sometimes necessary humdrum in theri 20's and 30's and then gave up jobs they realised didn't make them happy and retrained in other things, or and discovered new hobbies.
I have one dear friend who walked from lands end to John o' groats in her 50's,took a degree in her 60's; travels and lives life to the full.

I think there is pressure in your 20's and 30's to get on with proper jobs, to make enough money to have a home, have a family and then suddenly,come 40, you are free to make other choices again the other side of that. Or you have grown the confidence to take a risk and follow your heart and do what you dream of.

Beanie - you said what I felt much better! Though i understand you can't really do that Victory. I dunno what to suggest. It would be good if there was some sort of medition place/person. It sounds miserable for you all. but you do keep offering truces but he isn't ready for a way out. Is there anyone at his school you could have a word with - teacher/head of year?

victory

sts for me this week please :d

Eric_Pisch

victory wrote: »

sts for me this week please :d

its tuesday

or is it???

de1amo

i stayed the same last wednesday pm--can i count that lol-i feel like a looser this week though!
sounds like your doing simular eric with your belting requirement-well done--i am concluding that eating healthily and having good energy levels is just as important as loosing the weight--i must admit that if i lived in the uk i couldnt diet so easily. when we come home in the summer we spend most of our time searching for the decent non processed food we take for granted here. -ever tried buying for muslims in our pork bound meat departments in supermarkets-its a nightmare--its either 24-7 chicken or nothing!

victory

yes it is tuesday, I weighed in today ready for tomorrow:D

de1amo

ive lost 1,5kgs as of yesterday so can i now have fish and chips with mushy peas!!

Hezzawithkids

Like victory I do my WI on a Tuesday since I usually have a ridiculously early start on a Wednesday. Pleased to report a -1LB loss this week, mostly I suspect because I didn'y have any dinner last night..... still a loss is a loss and I'm going to bank it! Was feeling very hungry this morning so had a bacon, egg, mushroom and veggie sausage for brekkers which while being protein-packed should keep me going until lunchtime.

Talking of which this was on the news today:-
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/8688104.stm
basically everything the eric-meister has been saying about the need to avoid processed crap and only consume food as nature intended.