From Trash to Cash: the Dribble continues

evenstarcrafty

sheloveshimsomuch wrote: »

Do you want me to delete that last post and I can PM it to you?
x

its ok
I just didnt know what to do to help her
thanks for advice

sheloveshimsomuch

Also, take a picture of her injuries even if she doesnt want to persue anything now because she may want to in the future x

evenstarcrafty

Bit of a delicate subject and thought maybe to much info

evenstarcrafty

I will do that
He seems to get away with everything he does
he is well known to police

sheloveshimsomuch

No, you need advice and help from your friends x

jo70mo

Firstly big hugs evenstar.
I would for now just concentrate on looking after her and granddaughter. you want to protect her and do unthinkable things to him I am sure - it is a mothers instinct. she probably wants to lick her wounds and recover.
May just be a bit too early to talk about police yet for her.
Maybe suggest just writing down what happened and if it doesn't feel intrusive get some photos of injuries etc. then she has the info if she decides to go to police later.
Her body has been violated and she probably feels angry and ashamed and foolish and wants to hide away and not face things.
I would try and provide a nest for her and DGD. duvets and movies on the sofa lots of hot drinks and stuff and just let her talk as she feels like doing.
Give yourselves a bit of time and then maybe find some resources that might help her. I am sure there is a lot of stuff out there if she does want support.
Sorry can't be more help off the top of my head as DD is climbing all over me as I type.
Just take care of each other for now. The rest can follow.
Jo x

nikki2804

Evenstar - you need to sit your daughter down and explain to her that she can only see a small piece of the puzzle i.e. he's her babies daddy and (i'm assuming) she loves him. Where as everyone else can see the full picture where he is a monster and will just continue to hurt her.

Also remind her that her child should be her top priority (hence your concern as she is your child - your daughter I mean). Ask her what she would do if he hurt the baby. Then state hes doing exactly the same to YOUR baby.

May or may not work. I would still contact the police. Men like that are scum!

Hope things work out.

sheloveshimsomuch

NIXI: my daughter is going to be 8 and is going to have a skating party!

nikki2804

Nixinixi - I'm sure I do somewhere, will hunt through my emails and PM you.

nixinixi

Even - I think the photos are a good idea. Even if she doesn't report him, which hopefully she will, they may help her realise how serious it is after when she starts to pretend it wasn't that bad! I think SheLoves suggestioon of you phoning that supprt company is a fantastic idea - I am sure they will be able to give you support and advice becausee you need it as much as she does.