From Trash to Cash: the Dribble continues

evenstarcrafty

Thanks
I will look after them
DGD is just gorgeous and loves cuddles, she seems quite happy and loves being here especially with my 10 year old, DD says she was in bed when the attack happened

I just worry about DD I know she has feeling for him.....god knows why
and her friend came over last night but I dont 100 per cent trust her as she has lads number on her phone and my DD was texting on it
I took the girl home and had words about it but not sure she gets it

My OH was away on buisiness and will go beserk when he finds out and I know he will be mad at DD as this is just one of many dramas

jo70mo

I agree with talking to her about the bigger picture but also realising she will physically and emotionally be in shock and needs time to go through that stage before she will be able to take that in at the moment it might just feel like another onslaught and she may just withdraw from it. helping her to feel safe and supported will help her to find it easier to talk about.
That support organisation sounds great even and I would talk to them for some support for you and some advice on how to best help her.
Jo x

mambury

Evenstar - I missed your post but I guess your DD is not in a good place at the moment judging from others replys. One thing I would say to you is ask your DD to put herself in your place watching this happen to her DD. If DGD sees this behaviour on a regular basis then she will grow up thinking this is normal. I'm sure that your DD does not want the cycle to continue for her DD.

((((BIG HUGS)))

please keep posting.... feel free to PM me if you like!

Mambury

moneymabel

Evenstar-I missed your original post but putting 2 and 2 together please go to the police, too many violent men get away with stuff like this. I know it wont be easy at all but your DD and GD need protecting.

big hugs for you hun, and dont forget to take care of yourself as well in all of this

nixinixi

sheloveshimsomuch wrote: »

NIXI: my daughter is going to be 8 and is going to have a skating party!

Wow - sounds fab!! We are having our party at home - was hoping for in the garden but not sure the weather will be on our side!!

nikki2804 wrote: »

Nixinixi - I'm sure I do somewhere, will hunt through my emails and PM you.

Thank you hun!!

jo70mo

It is worrying and you want reassurance that she won't go back to him I know. But the more you provide a safe environment emotionally for her the easier she will find it to be open and to hear you.
You could have a chat with your counsellor too.
Jo x

dillidalli

Morning Morning All,
Hope you are well! I was meant to log in last night but after my bath I thought that I would take it easy and give my eyes a break from the internet.

MoneyM & NLID – The inhouse designer role overall was not enjoyable. The main reason being is that one of the girls in senior management had a !!!!!! husband who was a graphic designer so at every turn he would attempt to undermine me. (Because he had a divine right to all projects). And NLID will know what I mean when I describe those designers who wear funny t-shirts and take lots of drugs because it makes them ‘creative’. Sincerely, I have never met a greater !!!!!! in my life. He was a complete waste of skin and breath! We had a project which I designed and sourced all the images for – so all he did essentially was move the document out of one program and into another. I asked the simpleton for a proof of the document so I could show the Chief Exec what the project would look like. He had the cheek to refuse saying that he doesn’t provide work for free and he will not let me see the work until it is paid for. Yeah, that makes so much sense – you won’t send a proof a project that you didn’t design. And the !!!!!! had the bold face cheek to have is in his portfolio. If I ever catch up with him on a dark night…

NLID – I still do projects and I promise faithfully I will not do anything to any client of yours on a dark night. I can send you a link for two for a few sites that I have built so let me know. I do wordpress, HTML & CSS (although I need a wee bit to catch up with HTML 5), and some actionscript too.

YummyMummy – you're not a mug, you are just trying to be a decent human being. Unfortunately, it is always hard to say no with family. The good thing is that you will learn from it; I like you did way too many financial favours for others. And I have learnt the beauty of saying no! Anyone who really loves or cares for you will still care about you even if you say no. Also, for me it was a good way of learning who my true friends were because no one who genuinely wants your wellbeing would guilt you into making bad financial decisions. And most people always find some way of raising the money themselves. Don’t beat yourself up, somehow it will work out… in fact I am sure it will.

Cagne – I’m interested in the intranet thingymebob! It would be great to be on it.

Nixi – PM’ed you.

[FONT=&quot]Evenstar – hugs. I get the jist of what has happened. As always the other guys have given some great advice. I just hope that it all works out x[/FONT]

moneymabel

Oh my god Dilli what a prize !!!!!! that bloke sounds!! he'll get his one day though...I'm a firm believer in karma :-)

Cagne-I knew there was something else I had to reply to-your intranet thing, I would love to be on it thankyou, I'll PM you

jo70mo

I hope no-one thinks I am advocating not going to the police. I think it is important that that happens too.
But it won't necessarily stop her from going back to him or from not testifying or dropping charges. If she sees it as happening when she doesn't want it too it is more likely to alienate her further from her family and more towards him.
This sort of thing is a really difficult cycle to break and really good support can go a long way to helping people make the decisions they need to to break it.
All I am saying is try to get some good advice for yourself before acting in haste as they may offer really good suggestions.
Jo x

evenstarcrafty

I wasnt sure about the post as it was quite personal
Thanks for all great advice
I agree mabel that to many do get away with it, all I can say is I am pleased he had the sence to leave before I went back or I could not have been held responsible

This has been going on for years with him ,he is a real waste of space, I give people more chances than they usually deserve but he had his last a long time ago

I feel that i carnt trust DD ansd she is very secretive when he is there,I know he has painted me as an interfering mother,only to diminish my influence and make her feel I was trying to run her life...so I have to break that brainwashing as well...its really hard

OH just thinks its cut and dry ....get rid and stay rid but I know she feels a bond because he is babys dad,although he has not provided for her,in my book the lad maybe her biologigal father but hes along way from being a dad