December 2010 brides!! we dont have a thread going!

sazzyb

Yep and I'm still here! 11 weeks tomorow (is it bad I'm still counting the weeks and not the days???!!!) I've felt last few weeks things have really been starting to come together but think thats partly because I've been so busy with work that I don't feel I've had time to do the wedding things that need doing!! And then there's Christmas too! So many of our family have said cancel Christmas because of the wedding but I CAN'T, I LOVE IT TOO MUCH!

So yeah, I'm still here too. Not too long now ladies!

sazzyb

Well invites have finally gone out - phew! Next job: RINGS! On looking around, not sure we've budgeted enough for one 18ct plain white gold band & a 9ct satin/polished one- was hoping to keep within £200 but we're looking at that for one ring! Re-think needed. DJ sorted - spoke to family member who's doing it for us for £150 which is below all other quotes we had. Things are getting there I think!

binkyboo_2

I've been doing my table plan this afternoon, well I have prepared the mount board and frame and then nearer the time I can do the tables and stick them on! I will stick a piccie up when it's fully finished.
Sazzyb our dj is £200 so you've got a good price there. As for rings I have bought mine but it needs resizing as it is too small but the next size up was too big so hope my fingers haven't got bigger by the time I get it done or I might not be able to get it made large enough!

fly_dragon_fly

we are at the moment doing the "!!!! how we are gonna do £2500 by december!" well partner is, i'm not, i think it's easy enough done, £500 next friday, another £700 on the 30th, another £500 on the 13th of november another £700 on the 27th november and then £250 on the 11th December and the odd £100 in the middle of each month is another £300 makes it £2700! although o.h will go thats rubbish it can easily be done as long as we don't buy anything we don't need.

now how would you do this

f-i-l-2-b and m-i-l-2-b are divorced, we are friendly with her fiance and he is invited to the wedding ( they've been together 6 year !) but where do we sit him? some people feel he is the reason mil and fil split up which is rubbish but hey ho so who do we sit him with, he nearly didn't come because he didn't step on toes but we told him we'd be offended if he didn't come.

Jane81

fly_dragon_fly wrote: »

now how would you do this

f-i-l-2-b and m-i-l-2-b are divorced, we are friendly with her fiance and he is invited to the wedding ( they've been together 6 year !) but where do we sit him? some people feel he is the reason mil and fil split up which is rubbish but hey ho so who do we sit him with, he nearly didn't come because he didn't step on toes but we told him we'd be offended if he didn't come.

Hi, Sorry, I'm not a December 2010 bride, so sort of gatecrashing, but anything to put off doing college work...

I have seen other threads on the topic of top tables with step parents/estranged parents/just not wanting to sit with parents. Do a search for "top table" and you'll find a few. A couple of options would be to have a 'sweetheart table', with just you and hubby (a good way of making sure you actually get to spend time with him on your wedding day!), or to have a top table with you, hubby, BM, MoH, bridesmaids, ushers, siblings, close friends etc. Then you can sit MiL with her fiance and FiL with other family members, obviously taking into account family politics surrounding said fiance!

binkyboo_2

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now how would you do this

f-i-l-2-b and m-i-l-2-b are divorced, we are friendly with her fiance and he is invited to the wedding ( they've been together 6 year !) but where do we sit him? some people feel he is the reason mil and fil split up which is rubbish but hey ho so who do we sit him with, he nearly didn't come because he didn't step on toes but we told him we'd be offended if he didn't come.[/QUOTE]

our top table will be round and will consist of me, oh, daughter, best man, best mans partner, chief bridesmaid and her partner at the moment. my parents will be at another table with a couple of their friends and oh's mum and husband will be on another table then oh's dad will be on another table. I know it's only for a couple of hours but I didn't want that time to feel awkward because oh's mum and dad feel uncomfortable sitting together so this way seems to work well for us.

fly_dragon_fly

the thing is my parents are looking foward to sitting on the head table and i feel it unfair to disappoint them by sitting them on a table, they already feel my friends are more important than them , which will never be true family comes first, just because fil and mil have split up so any other ideas? x

binkyboo_2

fly_dragon_fly wrote: »

the thing is my parents are looking foward to sitting on the head table and i feel it unfair to disappoint them by sitting them on a table, they already feel my friends are more important than them , which will never be true family comes first, just because fil and mil have split up so any other ideas? x

In which case I would say to have the long table and seat them at opposite ends with the rest of the bridal party in between.

In our case oh's dad hasn't even said if he is coming yet so my table plan is still a draft and changing on a daily basis as the last of the rsvps come in 12 days past deadline so far and am still waiting on about 5 people and others i have only had responses through other people on their behalf by word of mouth! How hard can it be to say f you are coming or not, they have known about it for 8 months!

fly_dragon_fly

i still have to send out 6 invites haha! we had a problem with the envlopes only need to post one though the other are friends and are hand delivered and are of people i know are already coming although i have to get our evening invites reprinted as it doesn't have the date on it typical!

we dont have a best man at the moment and i don't have a maid of honour so do i sit the table mother of the groom, father of the bride, bride, groom, father of the groom, mother of the bride.

but then i can't imagine my mother being to happy sitting next to mr depressed.

i am already hating this seating plan and it hasn't even started!

binkyboo_2

It's terrible isn't it, I never knew this would be the most stressful part of wedding planning! I guess if thats the best way you can work around it then your mum may just have to bear it for those couple of hours. I think it's a bit easier for me because there is obvious people to seat everyone with and my parents understand why we don't want a traditional top table.