Do you check on your children at night??

CG77

Hi all,

Just a question that's kept coming to me recently. We have a beautiful little man who we adopted at the age of one and who is now not far off 4 .

Every night when we go to bed, we go into his room to check on him. We go in as quietly as we can, cover him up gently if he's kicked his covers off and then leave. Usually he doesn't stir but from time to time we actually wake him up by doing this . He doesn't stay awake long, will just sit up, usually have a quick drink, say a quick, 'Are you going to bed now Mummy? I love you' and go straight back to sleep.

But are we daft to disturb him like this, even if it doesn't actually disturb him very often? I'm torn because I know we're doing it for us really, to check he's ok (in all honesty I think I'd struggle to sleep if I didn't know my precious boy was ok :o), but he'd probably start to ask too if we didn't go in any more? I know we can't go in his room forever each night (that would be odd when he's 16 or something!) but I just wondered what others do??

I know it's not a huge issue, but it keeps coming to me each night when we go in so I thought I'd ask you all if we're daft to do it or if it's something you all do?

Haha I feel a bit daft writing this now, but it's written so I may as well press submit...! :rotfl:

CG. x

DeeDee74

no ur not daft. i still go in to mine and there 12 and 13 i just have to check there ok, asleep or not playing xbox.
he goes straight bk to sleep so i dont think it's a problem x

pigpen

Yes I am often found 'doing the rounds' in the middle of the night.. I check on my daughter who is 15 and if my son was still at home I'd check on him too.. He was 17 when he left home and still checked on every night.

I check mine are breathing, covered up, not suffocated in pillows or teddies or cats and they are in their own beds!!

Bitsy_Beans

We check both our kids (20 months and 4 years). Most of the time they don't wake - I always prefer to check TBH.

Abbafan1972

No you're not daft. We get them up for the toilet before we go to bed, if they haven't already gone themselves.

So they get checked on then, or if they've already been to the toilet then I usually look in on them before going to bed myself.

peachyprice

Seems perfectly normal to me. I still check my 8yo DD every night and my almost 15yo boys most nights, except weekends because they usually go to sleep after me.

Money_maker

Yes. Check on the 14 yo, 13 yo and 2 yo even though we have a video monitor for her! Its reassurance for you and for them (if they hear you).

Felicity

Yes I check everytime I go upstairs, just before going to bed and if I get up to use the loo in the night. Our son is 28 months.

I check he is the right way up, breathing nicely, has his comforter nearby and is warm enough, and I guess I just like to peek at him sleeping. I very, very rarely have disturbed him though.

I couldnt sleep soundly without having checked on him I dont think!!!

Keeping_Positive

I do check but not everynight. I believe my OH checks occasionally as well before he comes to bed. Not much just a quick look it although DD1 is now round a corner so cant be ssen from the door so it means going through the bedroom floor assault course to get to her lol! She is 12 though so not a babe. DS will often not have a cover where he seems to just pass out so Ill sort that out.

I think its natural and as your son gets older you may relax a tad.

chris_n_tj

You are far from daft, you are just 2 lovely parents checking their son is ok.
My Daughter is 27 and until the day she left home I checked she was ok when I went to bed. Now i check with a phone call lol.
CHris n TJ xxx

jopsey

I could have wrote OP's post myself often wonder if I will still be doing it when DS is 18 !