Relationship advice

wobbly

louise his mate is no better and one of the messages from him were suggesting some woman wanted to go out for a drink with him. He is married as well.

*Louise*

Can I ask...has all this stuff regarding other women just started recently or has it always been part of their 'banter'?

(Not saying it's right, but some guys are always all talk iyswim)

wobbly

since before xmas as far as i know.

Zazen999

wobbly wrote: »

Well i will eventually have to face him and get his side. He needs to make up his mind what he wants. To be honest i dont think i trust him! I have 2 boys to think of but one consulation is that at 14 and 16 they are older and are good lads. I have thought about going away to see how i feel about him! All so confusing at the mo. I feel pretty crap about myself!

Wobbly; this isn't spelling out your options; this is one option.

And what if he lies, or doesn't want to discuss it with you.

By options - I mean stay/leave/time out etc. Do you want out? Do you have any savings/a job/somewhere to go etc. Or are you not really wanting out and prepared to stay even with this going on?

mrcow

wobbly wrote: »

thanks candygirl this was what i was struggling with i needed other peoples opinions. wrong i know but i have been through his messages and the conversations he is having with his mate and his wife are so wrong. no respect for me! his mate said he was going to get his wife to sort him out (sex). and to leave such and such alone shes mine (young gal) then 20 viagra for £40 its never ending!

Sometimes we see/read things but are too close to the situation to be able to be truely objective. You're not wrong to go through the messages. You'd have been naive not to considering what you suspected.

The situation can't continue. It's clearly upsetting. Do you have any friends that you can talk things though with? Or explain your fears to?

What do you want to happen out of the situation? Do you think he'll stop this if you asked him to sincerely? If he did, would that make you happy? Or do you think there is more to it now?

wobbly

Right i have decided tomorrow when i finish work (at work tonight) I am having it out with him. Will hear what he has to say. I am 100% sure he is selling viagra. He has to decide what he wants and be honest. If not its over. He will have to find somewhere else to live as the boys will stay with me (it will be their choice) If he lies, i will know after all these years he can go!!
Do i sound brave!!
Wish me luck. Thank you everyone i do appreciate it

wobbly

mrcow - i had a bad feeling before xmas all was not right, actually thought he had been with someone and his mate knew about it. His mates wife asked me what was going on between them and at the time i could not tell her anything as i was just ging on my instinct. even if he did stop i don't think i can trust him anymore.

pelirocco

jamespir wrote: »

is it me or are you maiking this up as you go along?


he called you a silly cow omg file for divorce we can't be having that now can we

why are you mortified hes selling viagra ?
whats wrong with him adding girls on facebook?

and if they want to go to a party they can as long as he's not cheating

I think its just you tbh

candygirl

wobbly wrote: »

Right i have decided tomorrow when i finish work (at work tonight) I am having it out with him. Will hear what he has to say. I am 100% sure he is selling viagra. He has to decide what he wants and be honest. If not its over. He will have to find somewhere else to live as the boys will stay with me (it will be their choice) If he lies, i will know after all these years he can go!!
Do i sound brave!!
Wish me luck. Thank you everyone i do appreciate it

It sounds like a plan, except the bit about him deciding what he wants, as it's obvious he wants to have his cake and eat it;):DGood luck hun x:A

jewelly

wobbly wrote: »

Not sure how i feel anymore Pee. I have been with him so long.

Too long by the sound of it.