MSE Parents Club Part 11

SugarSpun

3, how unbelievable. But something you just said got me thinking - is it possible that he's getting motion sickness? I used to lie on the floor of the car to stop the sickie feelings.

Edit: Beenie, it might be worth asking your GP to write a note confirming that you've visited him/her concerned about your milk supply because of the stress caused by your neighbours. After you've visited him, of course...

Oh, and Tia, my paperwork overload might well be caused by the German influence - you know what else is German and happened just now? I was waiting at the lights and someone came and, not content with standing beside me and starting to cross the road at the same time, actually stood in the cycle path so he could be directly in front of me and hence get to cross the street first. It's a wonder he didn't lie his bl00dy towel down in the road.

jillie1974

thats awful 3. dont blame you at all for your little white lie.

tarajayne

3onitsway wrote: »

Tara Yey for not going back to work - its great!

But I'm gonna miss her! Just not the best thing for her, if the other one to one does things one way and me another, it would be awful for her. And even with the best will in the world we couldn't promise we wouldn't. I have volunteered to work with her a couple hours a week though, just playing games so that she sees that she can trust some people to no disappear from her life! (she's in foster care)

searching_me

tarajayne wrote: »

Right, forgive me but now I'm really confused. If you can't rely on them then it's not a true deep, full, trusting relationship. Will someone put me right as I thought that you relied on each other. And who else do you rely on, I don't claim anything? He relies on me for washing, cleaning and the kids, shopping, ooo, long list. He brings in the money, teamwork. When I worked we both did the housework, shared the night waking, shopping etc, so still teamwork. If he left tomorrow I would still be fine, then I would claim as I would need to, then I would have to work too, *shudders*. :rotfl:

no you didnt get my point .. my point was i know if i need he is there for me without question but i also know that if things broke down between us i could carry on without him ... never was good at wording things i know in my head what i want to say ..

ok emotionally i relie on him and helping with the kids (because even if we broke up hed still be a fantastic dad like always) but the reality stuff like money and things .. i always make sure i have enough to cover everything so say he got a job tomorrow his money is extra not i wouldnt get him to pay his half but if that money or he was too disappear my house wouldnt crumble .. was that better .. or am i still talking rubbish x

csh_2

tarajayne wrote: »

Right, forgive me but now I'm really confused. If you can't rely on them then it's not a true deep, full, trusting relationship. Will someone put me right as I thought that you relied on each other. And who else do you rely on, I don't claim anything? He relies on me for washing, cleaning and the kids, shopping, ooo, long list. He brings in the money, teamwork. When I worked we both did the housework, shared the night waking, shopping etc, so still teamwork. If he left tomorrow I would still be fine, then I would claim as I would need to, then I would have to work too, *shudders*. :rotfl:

I agree Tara. My OH and I are a team. He does some things, I do others. I rely on him he relys on me. Without sounded too gay we complete each other.
I wouldn't be fine if he left, hes my life and an integral part of my life/our family life.
If I lived my life thinking 'Oh, I'll be fine if he wasn't here, I don't need him' I'd be very sad indeed and wondering what the hecky-peck I'm doing with him.

searching_me

csh the funny thing is philip agrees with the way i think .. his dad left and his mother did it all and he says thats why hes attracted to me because im strong willed and independant x

elle_gee

tarajayne wrote: »

Right, forgive me but now I'm really confused. If you can't rely on them then it's not a true deep, full, trusting relationship. Will someone put me right as I thought that you relied on each other. And who else do you rely on, I don't claim anything? He relies on me for washing, cleaning and the kids, shopping, ooo, long list. He brings in the money, teamwork. When I worked we both did the housework, shared the night waking, shopping etc, so still teamwork. If he left tomorrow I would still be fine, then I would claim as I would need to, then I would have to work too, *shudders*. :rotfl:

Totally agree. Isn't that what benefits are for - to help you out when you're in (temporary) need? I rely on OH to get rid of spiders, sort my tyre pressures, change lightbulbs, cook me something more nutritious than beans on toast every night... He relies on me for clean pants and food being in the cupoard for him to cook for me with! Yes, we could both do it all ourselves if we want to, but where's the fun in that?! :cool:

tarajayne wrote: »

... I have volunteered to work with her a couple hours a week though, just playing games so that she sees that she can trust some people to no disappear from her life!

Awww that's lovely!

SugarSpun

csh wrote: »

I agree Tara. My OH and I are a team. He does some things, I do others. I rely on him he relys on me. Without sounded too gay we complete each other.
I wouldn't be fine if he left, hes my life and an integral part of my life/our family life.
If I lived my life thinking 'Oh, I'll be fine if he wasn't here, I don't need him' I'd be very sad indeed and wondering what the hecky-peck I'm doing with him.

The way I see it is that I could put my life back together if OH wasn't here - but it would fall apart if he did.

searching_me

ok starting to think im strange now x

3onitsway

I don't think it is SS. Because he's always ok in the car, and he's ok on the bus on the way to school, its just the home journey.
Maybe he just doesn't want to come home because L & V are too noisy!