MSE Parents Club Part 11

tarajayne

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Interesting Tara - I couldn't agree more. So following that on does that mean that you (meaning anyone finding themselves in that situation) shouldn't stay with somebody who doesn't tick all those boxes? If they are not Mr Forever, is there any point them hanging around? I am thinking of a RL friend who appears to be seeing 'Mr Right Now' with no intention of settling with him long term...

No, it's down to each person I suppose as we are all looking for different things. I just need extra stability I suppose, maybe it's something to do with my upbringing. Although he is extremely far from Mr Perfect. :rotfl: Just for me the basics of life is that he goes to work and takes care of his family, if he can't (thinking of MM here) then he does everything at home and you go to work. I can only earn a quarter of what OH earns and he loves his job anyway (weirdo ) so he goes. I feel that his taking care of us is another way of him showing us he loves us. I don't get the pressies and loads of attention some get, but I feel very safe and secure and that's a very nice feeling.

tarajayne

SugarSpun wrote: »

Tell them your ex came back and overdosed in your house and you've cut off all contact but are afraid he'll come back and do it again because he brought a week's worth of drugs into your house where you keep your kids and endangered them.

Send them a copy of the police report. I favour inundation with paperwork.

Ditto, :T, and make a real fuss of the impact of this happening in front of your children. If you got an injunction against him it would really strengthen your case.

aless02

yes, i vote for ss's suggestion! The drugs angle is good...

Sj, i'm still waiting for it to go away!!

Fitzio

Glamazon wrote: »

Hehe - WELL, the goodnight one is the only one I make fresh! I'm not sure why I tend to sterilise 8 bottles in one go around 5pm, then I make the Goodnight milk at 6.30pm along with 3 bottles for the next day. The following day at 6.30pm I do the same with the bottles I sterilised the night before. IYSWIM.

Glam - not sure if I am reading your post right. Do you sterlise 8 bottles and use 4 one night and 4 the next? If so, you do know that the second lot of 4 won't be classed as sterile as the unit has been opened don't you? Not saying it matters or there is anything wrong with it, just checking that you know, if that is what you are doing.
Yay for Jack jumping on the Jumperoo!

elle_gee

tarajayne wrote: »

No, it's down to each person I suppose as we are all looking for different things. I just need extra stability I suppose, maybe it's something to do with my upbringing. Although he is extremely far from Mr Perfect. :rotfl: Just for me the basics of life is that he goes to work and takes care of his family, if he can't (thinking of MM here) then he does everything at home and you go to work. I can only earn a quarter of what OH earns and he loves his job anyway (weirdo ) so he goes. I feel that his taking care of us is another way of him showing us he loves us. I don't get the pressies and loads of attention some get, but I feel very safe and secure and that's a very nice feeling.

Tara, maybe I get it from my upbringing (from a different angle) because that's what my dad was/is like. He wasn't around much when we were little because he used to go to work before we got up and he'd be back after we'd gone to bed. He worked so hard so mum didn't have to work and we could live in a nice house and have everything we needed (and quite a bit of what we wanted too, without being silly spoilt). I want Rhys to have the kind of family, home and lifestyle I had growing up only with his Daddy around a bit more - thankfully OH has a much more local job than my Dad had, he used to travel 90mins each way to get to work.

My_Fathers_Daughter

Sarah_Joanne wrote: »

Can someone please tell me that the feeling that you really have no idea whatsoever what you are doing with your baby goes away??

The moment that somebody does something for your baby that is 'wrong' or says something like 'he is hungry' when you know it is wind or tiredness or they hold him wrong and he cries and then he comes back to you and is instantly soothed


When Benjamin was tiny my mum couldn't get her head around the fact that he was my baby, I was his mum, and I gave him more comfort than she did. She is an expert with kids and all of a sudden she was faced with one that preferred her daughter!

tarajayne

tiamai_d wrote: »

I think the problems start when you think you know what your doing

Yep, then you realise that each one is different and you really haven't a clue!!! :rotfl:

tiamai_d

I just make up bottles of water and add powder as needed. And sometimes I don't use them all within 24 hours. And sometimes I run out and just wash a bottle without sterilising it cos I'm a bad mum

And today Amber dropped her dummy on the road and I picked it up, gave it a wipe on me sleeve and gave it back to her.

jillie1974

Glamazon wrote: »

think it's meet at TC, walk to play centre here but just looking on the website they do food at the play centre so me thinks it might just be sensible to stay at the play centre for lunch rather than go back to the TC.

For those of us driving we could just drive straight there?
I'm obviously thinking of Mel who is pregnant having to walk there (honest)

i was thinking that before...

so shall we say meet at the playcentre for 11ish?? we will be going to tc anyway as thats where the bus stops.

i'm happy to have food at the playcentre.


(must remember to write down the directions for the 3 of us to walk from the bus station.)

sm- are you booked on a specific train back??

tarajayne

elle_gee wrote: »

Tara, maybe I get it from my upbringing because that's what my dad was/is like. He wasn't around much when we were little because he used to go to work before we got up and he'd be back after we'd gone to bed. He worked so hard so mum didn't have to work and we could live in a nice house and have everything we needed (and quite a bit of what we wanted too, without being silly spoilt). I want Rhys to have the kind of family, home and lifestyle I had growing up only with his Daddy around a bit more - thankfully OH has a much more local job than my Dad had, he used to travel 90mins each way to get to work.

OH is very lucky in that he can alter his hours to suit, so like yesterday he went in at 7am to be home by 5pm. When DD went into labour he just took a few days off. If I rang him now he would come home then sit down later to catch up. So there's a great deal of trust there. He does private jobs too late evening when the house is quiet, now I couldn't earn £25 hr. :eek: