MSE Parents Club Part 11

Sami_Bee

cazscoob wrote: »

thanks Tia am here in tears as im just finding it all too much? his behaviour is getting worse and my house is wrecked because of him. i dont even want to be left alone with him as i cant turn my back for a second.
he doesnt say very much and when filling out a from yest i was asked to put my concerns about his speech down 0 being none 10 being very concerned, i put 7 and she put 9/10! i dont know what will happen until next week once he has been to see ST.

Big hugs honey, I can't help on behaviour but I wanted to say about the speech thing.
Thge baby sign classes we went to were run by a ST she told us how often parents don't notice their children has speech problems because they are so in tune with their kids. It shows you are a good mummy that you understand him and might not see any problems that may be there xxx

redmel1621

angelfairy wrote: »

hi everyone,

being MIA a bit lately but do have a lurk about at night.

sorry i missed weezl & GISI's birthdays and jasmine's birthay...happy belated birthday from me and LO.

things not so great for me at the minute. although thankfully LO appears to be over the sickness bug, but has taken to screaming on and off during early hours, even when she is in bed with me and the only thing that will comfort her (and that's not for long) is her bottle (with milk).

i am not sure if it's her teeth, it may be. we have six now with the 7th coming through. nothing seems to work though in that regard. tried calpol/teething powders/bonjella. i have bought some abesol today but i'm not holding my breath.

i think it's probably behavourial but i have no idea about how to tackle it. she wont stay in a room on her own either. if she is in the cot, she wont whitter away to her self or play with her toys if i leave the room, she goes into full on screams, getting hysterical if i dont come back. if i let her get to the hysterical stage, then she throws up.

it's really getting to me but i dont know what to do about it. no desire to go to the HV about it, as even though mine are lovely, i think they think we live in a perfect world where if you do A, B, C then said child will respond appropriately. nope, mine has a mind of her own and will do as she pleases (and she's only 1).

work is pants ... beyond pants which isn't helping.

i'm not sleeping much either. going to sleep early hours and then being up on and off with LO until up for work.

sorry for the long self indulgent post, just need to get it out really.

love and hugs to all xxx

OMG Kai is doing the EXACT same thing............I am also putting it down to tantrums...I can't offer any advice other than 'it is a phase' Honestly I remember with ds1 when he was about 14/15 mths old and I had just given up full-time work to go part time evenings and weekends (it was around the time I found I was pregnant with ds2).....I literally had to restrain him as he used to fling himself about and if I tried to comfort him he would be almost head butting me!!

Just try and stay firm and consistant and know that it is not anything that you have done.......

It is a phase.....It is a phase......It is a phase:)

cazscoob

thanks ladies i think its just one of those days, between having to deal with the monster, tiredness and having everything from yest playing on my mind its just all got to me. He has always been a handful but hearing so many negative things just hits you!
think an early night is in store but i am ordering a sky film tonight and thinking of doing popcorn - any tips???? i have the kernals here and tried it before with no luck lol!

jennynoo

chopsticks wrote: »

Just wanted to post a quick note to say I haven't disappeared again. I went out on Wed night with mummy friends and then finally got my eyes lasered yesterday, so wasn't allowed on the computer. Not sure if I'm supposed to be on it today until I've been for my check up this morning, so will be going offline again soon. Should be on tonight though for a proper catch-up.

What's it like gettting your eyes done? I've been thinking about it for a while but too scared - also do you know if there is any long term research on the effects?

kindofagilr wrote: »

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Also can someone run through with me everything we will need in changing bag? nappies, baby wipes, nappy sacks, cotton wool, changing mat, change of clothes, bottles of milk.

Just in case you dont have soap and water handy I always take an antibac gel - free ones in the sainsburys/huggies bundle I think. Also a muslin for wiping up sick. You don't need the cotton wool if you are using wipes already.

Someone wanted casing kits - you can get them at kiddicare: http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/categorydisplay10A_269_10751_14773_-1__14054_14054_10001_14054

My BIL is a dentist and managed to *acquire* some dental stuff for me to do a print of Erins foot which we then painted gold and framed

redmel1621

cazscoob wrote: »

thanks ladies i think its just one of those days, between having to deal with the monster, tiredness and having everything from yest playing on my mind its just all got to me. He has always been a handful but hearing so many negative things just hits you!
think an early night is in store but i am ordering a sky film tonight and thinking of doing popcorn - any tips???? i have the kernals here and tried it before with no luck lol!

Caz...I can't imagine exactly how you are feeling:( but I do have enough problems with ds2 to understand a little bit. I also know how you are feeling with Erin screaming and being clingy....((HUGS))

Popcorn...if you have the basic cook in a pan stuff you need to put a good amount of oil in the bottom and heat it till nearly smoking...then chuck a good portion of kernals in and cover with a lid, shaking gently....it will start popping just keep shaking a bit more bigorously and all the kernal should pop open within a minute or so...I usually do two batches one with salt on and one with sugar on:D:D

ladybirdintheuk

Fishcake_Random wrote: »

Lady bird its from the competition thread, trying to win the full alphabet of prizes for 2010. So if I win a t-shirt I can cross off T or if I win flowers I can cross of F etc. Kinda fun, I love my comps.
x x xx

Cool - I've lapsed on my comping. I used to enter loads of things, had a phase of winning lots and got really motivated, then didn't win anything again, so kind of stopped... which would prevent me from winning any more :rotfl:.

I'm going to try out this recipe with Izzy after tea - we've not done cooking yet, so I don't know if she will enjoy it, or wander off leaving a floury mess in her wake. :rotfl: I will let you know later!

3onitsway

cazscoob wrote: »

He has always been a handful but hearing so many negative things just hits you!

I know how you mean Caz. I know exactly what my J's behavoir is like but it's still horrible hearing other people being negative about him.

I've got the DLA forms to look forward to this week as i've just realised his award runs out in January 2011. I hate, hate, hate them because you have to write/see all the negative bits down in black and white - i'll just have to keep the good bits in my mind.

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

I'm going to try out this recipe with Izzy after tea - we've not done cooking yet, so I don't know if she will enjoy it, or wander off leaving a floury mess in her wake. :rotfl: I will let you know later!

Mmm, i love cheesey biscuits. I'll steal this to keep us occupied one afternoon in the school holidays.

Mazcabs

jennynoo wrote: »

Someone wanted casing kits - you can get them at kiddicare: http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/categorydisplay10A_269_10751_14773_-1__14054_14054_10001_14054

My BIL is a dentist and managed to *acquire* some dental stuff for me to do a print of Erins foot which we then painted gold and framed

Yep thats the ones I wanted, cheers Jennynoo

Ooo just seen Mothercare have them reduced at £12.80 and I think I have a mothercare voucher for William

ladybirdintheuk

I haven't told you the latest episode in our odd neighbour saga.

I'm not told you all of the saga either, so a brief version:

when we moved in there was a young couple next door with a little girl
after a while they split up - we still saw the dad out and about, and mum came to visit with the little girl every so often
gradually we saw dad less and less - only ever saw him when mum came to visit with the daughter - also had people knocking on our door asking if anyone lived next door.
One day mum came and moved a load of stuff out and another girl moved things in - assumed maybe flat had been in mum's name, and a council house swap was in progress?
but dad was still hanging about, so maybe it was new girlfriend?
Then all quiet and noone ever there again for months.
Yesterday we got home to see the locks had been removed and it looked like the door had been kicked in. Someone was there last night, but today it is still like that with the door blowing in the wind and no-one about. I'm not sure if i should call the police/council? I think I'm going to see what happens over the weekend and see if I can find the caretaker for a gossip . (He likes a good gossip!)

(when I say no-one there, we don't see anyone coming and going, hear anyone or see the hallway light on - it is possible there have been people in ine living room with the door shut if they are being careful about their electricity?)

It is all very strange. I kind of hope that it is thge council that have taken the locks away, and that we will get some nice normal people next door again! Much as I enjoy a good gossip I'm not keen on doors being kicked in a few feet from my door :eek:!

cazscoob

once again thank you i think once the assessment is over and we have everything in place that things will get easier as they can increase his days or get him a playworker for the local playgroup.

On a plus side im making £54 on ebay with 2 days to go so thats a day out to see Nanny McPhee paid for! just a few more bits to sell and a few days out to arrange over the holidays
thanks for the popcorn advice mel i will give it another go, if all fails ill nip to the shop