The MSE Pregnancy Club

jo_b_2

flis21 wrote: »

It still doesn't seem real tho. When does it start to sink in?

About 6 months after the birth! :eek: :rotfl:

Seriously - I think it starts to feel 'real' after your twelve week scan and most people start to feel more comfortable once they've passed that landmark as the risk of miscarriage reduces dramatically.

hippychick1

sarahmoon wrote: »

I'm going to talk to my midwife about a home birth although I'm not supposed to make my next appointment til I'm 30 weeks (thats 10 weeks between appointments by the way which I'm sure is too long, they haven't measured my bump or anything yet!!)

Hi there. I want a home birth this time round too. I have mentioned it to my midwife, but there will be loads of complications due to where I live. She is going to get me some more info for my next appt (16 weeks) on 31st May. I really don't fancy going into hospital at all.
10 weeks between appts is far too long!! I thought most places gave you checks every 4 weeks?

hippychick1

flis21 wrote: »

Oh, hadn't thought of that. Someone else will def have to do Christmas this year!!

It still doesn't seem real tho. When does it start to sink in?

My second son was due 23/12/05 but eventually arrived 2/1/06!! It was quite a relaxing Xmas though - I wasn't allowed to do anything!!

It didn't really sink in for me until I felt him kick. It didn't even hit home when I had my first scan. It was definitely very real for me when I felt him!

SeptemberBaby_2

flis21 wrote: »

...It still doesn't seem real tho. When does it start to sink in?

I know exactly what you mean! I'm 20 weeks tomorrow and each day I wake up and think 'Wow, I'm really pregnant'!!! Very best wishes to you and your partner.

xxx

Eels100

flis21 wrote: »

It still doesn't seem real tho. When does it start to sink in?

For me around 20 weeks (I felt my first kick on the same day as my 20wk scan!) - between seeing the scan and feeling the movement (mainly the movement, that's awesome!) because I had few symptoms. Until then I wouldn't have known I was preggers, and being a hefty lass I certainly didn't start to look the part until around 24 weeks. Now I'm 28 weeks and I look like I'm 40 weeks!

I do still have days when I can feel baby wriggling around and I look like something Richard Branson would inflate but I still think "Oh yeah, I'm going to have a baby ... now where did I put those glasses ...?" ... don't think it'll be real until it starts running my life for me! :rotfl:

Dormouse

I'm 24 weeks today :j - officially viable, according to the little Bounty book (even though there's obviously been loads of cases of even smaller babies surviving and doing well). Next milestone to aim for is 27 weeks, which is late pregnancy :eek: It suddenly seems like it's not too long to go now :eek: :j

the_devil_made_me_do_it

pregnancy symptoms: what are they? & do you need to be experiencing them all?

My friend isn't sure if she's pregnant, so before she pays for a test, I thought I'd seek advice on here

Agutka

You know how we're not supposed to refuse any help when the baby comes... As in if anyone offers to cook for you or clean your house or whatever - you're supposed to accept anything?
My dear Mum had been saying things like she's going to move in with us for a few weeks when baby is born. That she's told work she'll need three weeks holiday in October etc. And I am horrified by this fact. I love her and everything, but we do get on best when she's out of the country - otherwise she calls every day nagging and we can't spend too long together as we jump down each other's throats - my dad always has to step in. So having her here at a time when I'm not going to be feeling my best seems a little too much. Sure, it would be nice to have food cooked etc, but what help can she be with baby?
I'm just praying she's not serious. (like she wasn't about spending the long weekend with us - she even got as far as saying she was all packed and about to get in the car!)
Are you girls inviting your families over?

hippychick1

Agutka - your mum sounds exactly like mine!!!

She did the same thing when my first was born. She took two weeks off work, so that when DH went back to work I had some help. I was absolutely dreading it. I burst into tears at work when I told friends she was coming.

When the time actually came (and I can't believe I am saying this) she was a godsend. My baby wouldn't breastfeed, and I had a terrible time in labour so could barely walk. He also had colic and was up every night from 10pm till 4am screaming.

After 2 weeks however, I was ready for her to leave!!! I think if I had had a better time during labour and postnatally, she would really have got on my nerves. I did find her a great help. Maybe ask her if she would stay for a few days?

Dormouse

Agutka wrote: »

You know how we're not supposed to refuse any help when the baby comes... As in if anyone offers to cook for you or clean your house or whatever - you're supposed to accept anything?
My dear Mum had been saying things like she's going to move in with us for a few weeks when baby is born. That she's told work she'll need three weeks holiday in October etc. And I am horrified by this fact. I love her and everything, but we do get on best when she's out of the country - otherwise she calls every day nagging and we can't spend too long together as we jump down each other's throats - my dad always has to step in. So having her here at a time when I'm not going to be feeling my best seems a little too much. Sure, it would be nice to have food cooked etc, but what help can she be with baby?
I'm just praying she's not serious. (like she wasn't about spending the long weekend with us - she even got as far as saying she was all packed and about to get in the car!)
Are you girls inviting your families over?

I've got exactly the same dilemma. :rolleyes: My Mum lives abroad, and is willing to come over, but I'm not sure it's a good idea. I know what I'm like when I'm hormonal (and I will be very hormonal!!!), so add to that sleepless nights, bleeding, leaking, everything else, and I think I'll be a total nightmare to be around! :eek:

So I haven't made up my mind yet. I'm leaning towards a compromise where she can come over for a week maybe, when the baby's a few weeks old.