The MSE Pregnancy Club

Becles

My tip: forget about weeing on sticks and checking mucus. Just have lots of good rumpy pumpy fun all month long and let mother nature do her work

You can get too hung up and stressed on working out when the right time to do it is. You end up tense and you don't enjoy it, or you feel obliged to do it as the time is right but really you don't feel like it because you've had a rubbish day at work or don't feel well or whatever.

You're more likely to concieve if you are relaxed and having fun, than if you're tensed up and doing it just for the sake of it.

I think I concieved the night Sunderland put 3 goals past Leeds at Elland Road, and my mind wasn't even on baby making that night. Sorry if that's TMI

Lu_T

babitee wrote:

Hi,
Does anyone have any experiences of giving birth at a midwife-led birth centre? I'm booked into one, because I love the idea of the intimacy of natural birth, but I'm not 100% determined to have natural birth either. I'm still weighing up all the pro's and con's, especially since it's my first baby (my friends and family think I'm mad!) and my sister had a horrendously difficult labour (more than 40 hours, with epidural, etc.) As I approach the 3rd Trimester I'm starting to worry that I won't be able to bear the pain and ordeal of the labour. Would love to hear what you all think about this, either way.

Babitee
x

Hi Babitee

I nearly gave birth at a midwife-led birth centre. Like you I was a first-timer. Imogen arrived on Boxing Day, so is just 3 weeks old.

I only spent a few hours at the birth centre in the end (see previous post for all gorey details!) but they were fabulous! It was 7am Boxing Day and just me and hubby in our own room, the only people there, half-watching crappy tv and getting through my contractions. I used a birthing ball and had gas and air at this point. I found it very intimate and will treasure the memory of those hours. I also used the birthing pool for a couple of hours but eventually had to be transferred to hospital as baby was back-to-back and her heartbeat was a bit fast. Plus there was a query about infection as my waters may have gone a few days previously (still don't know whether they did!)

In my humble opinion the things to think about are:
- what kind of birth do you want - assuming you get it!! I didn't want the assumption of people interfering the whole time, I just wanted to be able to get on with it, which is why I chose the birth centre.
- pain relief - what will you have access to and what is plan B if you need more? My birth centre isn't attached to a hospital so I got a ride in an ambulance. Others are just a case of push you down a corridor.
- plan B - what if you can't go/stay? There are millions of reasons why this could happen. I still went to the local labour ward to look round so things wouldn't be unfamiliar (good job!!)
- Be realistic - this is not your choice. Baby will come when he/she wants in the manner he/she wants. As a control freak I found this hard to come to terms with, good job I did though! You may want a water birth with candles, whale music and no pain relief, but end up with an epidural, c-section and baby delivered to cheesy Christmas carols! You just have to be prepared for it all to go a different way.

My friends and family all thought I was mad too - but don't let that put you off. You need to be comfortable with the choices you make, such as they are, in order that you can cope as best you can.

I always said that I wanted to do as much as possible myself and without pain relief, but that I wouldn't be slow to ask for it if I thought I wasn't coping. In the end I wasn't coping and was only able to gasp "Epidural, now" as they admitted me to hospital, in between sucking on gas and air! I'm not ashamed though, about that or about the fact I ended up with a c-section. I did as much as I could myself and in the end the consultant decided I wasn't going to be able to deliver naturally.

I say go for it if it's what you want. We still maintain it was the right choice for us and I'll definitely go there again if they'll let me (I may be high risk now and not get a choice )

moohound

I totally agree with Becles and the do it lots, relax and have fun comments, but with a smaller window of opporunity with OH being away for 2 weeks out of 4 more help may be needed.

Money_Maker_Shaker

"I've seen ads on the internet for cheap (37p each) ovulation test sticks, but I don't know if they are any good. "

I can recommend these as they worked well for me when we didn't have any success after a year of trying naturally. I got mine off e-bay from various stockists - pm me if you'd like to know which sellers I used.

Good luck to all who are TTC.

MMS

Money_Maker_Shaker

Just having a little tidy by moving those who may have given birth onto that list, feel free to move yourself back if I've got it wrong.

EDD

Madam Broke - 11th Jan 2007
Andrea - 13 Jan 2007
Lucyeff - 14 Jan 2007 (daughter number two, yippee!!!!!!!!)
Bev Lewis - 20 Jan 2007 (3rd baby, 1st for husband, it's a boy!)
Immoral_angeluk - 22nd Jan 2007 (2nd baby girl!)
samarnesen-23 jan 2007 girl (no7)
Jibbajabbas - 30 jan 2007
Erinath - 31 Jan 2007
Lucycat - 2 Feb 2007 - BOY! :O)
Hampshirebabe - 5th feb 2007
Leilasmum - 8th Feb 2007, later than ithought, doh...Another GIRL!!!
Teerah - 11 Feb 2007
sleepyclaire - 13 Feb 2007
Murphy The Cat - Valentines Day (aaaahhhhh)
Loopy Lobes - 15th February
logiebear - 15th February
Musey - 19th February 2007
Gingham Ribbon 20th february
moo842 - 24 Feb 2007 - 10 march 2007 (theres always one)!
Davina_M - 27th Feb 2007 (Snap Moohound! but will be earlier cos of medical complication)
Charlotte664 - 1st March 2007 - date changed at scan, I'm a week further on than originally thought!
Victoria1972 - 2 March 2007
Broomey - 2 March 2007
Mrs_Monkey_Boy - 7 March 2007
Halfangelhalftart - 8th March 2007
Cathys1 - 14/03/2007
Suey64 – 15 March 2007
mrsbez - 16 March 2007
mummyto4and1onway(sharon)- 19th March 2007(I have a 5,4,3,1 yr old already)
Rebekah - 22nd March - moved forward!
Mrs asandwhen - 28th March 07 - date changed to 28th march after dating scan.
worto03 - 3rd April 2007
Bargain Babe-a-Licious! - 3rd April 2007
austmanic - 7th April 2007
Persontypething- 11th April 2007
Money_Maker_Shaker - 16th April 2007 BOY!
LillieFlower - 20th April 2007
babitee - 20th April 2007
Anya - 21st April 2007
debtfreehopeful - 21st April 2007
moohound - 27th April 2007
SusanCarter - 27th April 2007
India - 29th April 2007
Flea72 - 30th April 2007
sampainter - 3 May 2007
Bronzesurfer - 08 May 2007
Snaggles - 12th May 2007
Bump – 13 May 2007
dm72 - 14th May 2007
tequilla_slammer2002 - 14th May 2007
Banana1975 - 14th May 2007 - BOY
abijanzo - 20th May 2007
mrsrsp - 28th May 2007
jocymru- 28th May
George's Mum - 29th May 2007 (according to the scan anyway!)
Becles - 31 May 2007
Cheapskate - 5 June 2007
Karma67 - 5th June 2007 - had amnio..everything ok and having a BOY!!
Sophiedb – 8 June 2007
Elliot's mum - 16th June 2007 (No 1 is now 3 and No 2 is now 1- are we mad??!)
Katyag - 17th June (2 days after my bday, and the day after our wedding anni!)
famood - 21 June 2007
Chubacheroo - 24th June 2007 (changed from the 23rd)
noodlebutty, (Tricia) - 27th June 2007
Raybells - 28 June 2007
Mrs Steveeeee - 28 June 2007
Lotta Littlies - 29 June 2007
Lisamiddle - 2nd July 2007
Sam0mule - 5th July 2007
Bargainbabe - 6th July 2007
Twirlypen - 7th July 2007
jo_b - 14th July 2007
*Louise* - 19th July
Valentine x - 20th July 2007
mercurystar999 - 24th July 2007
Welshlassie - 29 July 2007
Eels100 - 26th July 2007
Terminally Short Of Cash - 31st July 2007
Kimmy310 - 1 August 2007
Katym79 - August???
Simone2697 - 2 August 2007 (subject to change - scan 11/01/07)
LoopyLouLou - 8 August 2007
Punky - 11 August 2007 (2 days after DS 4th bday)
Caleo - 12 August
Libert23 - 16 August 2007
Claire Jones - 21 August 2007 (by my Mum's calculations, will check with doctor in next few days!)
catalepticdru - 17 August 2007 using Naegele's formula. Though it'll be guaranteed I'll give birth on any day but this one!!
Justie - 25th August (or 28th depending on which way you calculate it)
lou031205 - 8th September 2007
rachelja - 9th September 2007 (2 wks before dd 4th b'day)
skintio (kate) 16th september 2007
Almost-skint (sammie) - 16th september 2007 - same as you Kate!!


TTC LIST

Daisykate124
Agutka
Dougggie
Cookiesncream
suzukibabe
witchyroo
sjm
fac73
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum

BIRTH LIST

Winnie81 - Evie Grace - 28 July
Essexhoney - Rubie - 1 August
bella121984- 15/8/2006- BOY!
Andycarmi 30th August - Girl
sooz - 13th August - boy
oueyouey - 27th September Libby Rose
Sazere - 17th October 2006 Elise (plus DS5, DS4, DD3 all 4 by CS)
cha97michelle - 18th October - Boy
purplepatch - 30th October - Girl
brummiebabe - 3rd November - Grace
Jane - 6th November - Susannah
Dondo's Other Half- 7th November- Neive
rchddap1 - 14th November - Lily Marie
Downsizing - 14th Nov - Beth 8lb 12.5
Bailey - 17th November - Jack William 7lb 1 oz at 37+1
2Princess Mum - Boy 7lb 13oz at 39+2 1hr 49min labour, gave birth in bath at home (unplanned but Bliss!!)
Ziggy2004(Anne)-30th November Boy Ruben 9lbs 7 12:55
benmollymoo (Jane) - 1st December -Boy 7lbs 12 oz, Home VBAC at 39+6 (but only by 25 minutes!) Still no name!
Phatmouse - Baby Daisy, Born 09/12/06, 9.46am, 7lbs 10oz.
Modgit - Joel Benjamin, born 12/12/06 2.03 pm, 9lb 8oz 8 days late, but worth it!
maow425 - Boy! 13/12-06 0259, 8lbs 13 oz Name: Viking
allroundgoodguy 15th Dec -Boy 6lbs 8oz 10.09am. Not born Xmas Day in the end! Names, are a bit of a problem!
Hennypenny - 19th December Girl No 2, child no3 - Kira, born 19-12-06, 8lb 15.5oz, 9 days early. Middle name giving us a bit of a problem, but sure it will come to us eventually - really like Holly, but surname is Woods so would be a bit unfair!
J's_Other_Half - William Robert 7lb 5oz C Section (labour never started, never mind progressed!) 21st December.
Lu T - Imogen Beth, born after 5 days of contractions at 23.15 on 26 Dec 06 by c-section, 8lb 10oz
JULIE-mr boy 4 born 13 days late on 2nd jan at 20.12

PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST

Tazandtommy - 21 October 2006 - BOY!
bex06 - 6th November 2006
RozeePozee - 7th November 2006 - BOY
Beks - 10th November - Girl!
aimo - due 6 December 2006
Lyndsey - 22nd December
Jude123 - 27th December, boy or girl
funky- 01 January 2007 - ???
Loobyloose - 3rd january 2007 - boy!
Peanutpie05 - 5th Jan 2007 (which prob means dd will arrive 19th Jan)
Strontium - 5th Jan 2007 - our first daughter!

Gingham_Ribbon

EDD

Madam Broke - 11th Jan 2007
Andrea - 13 Jan 2007
Lucyeff - 14 Jan 2007 (daughter number two, yippee!!!!!!!!)
Bev Lewis - 20 Jan 2007 (3rd baby, 1st for husband, it's a boy!)
Immoral_angeluk - 22nd Jan 2007 (2nd baby girl!)
samarnesen-23 jan 2007 girl (no7)
Jibbajabbas - 30 jan 2007
Erinath - 31 Jan 2007
Lucycat - 2 Feb 2007 - BOY! :O)
Hampshirebabe - 5th feb 2007
Leilasmum - 8th Feb 2007, later than ithought, doh...Another GIRL!!!
Teerah - 11 Feb 2007
Gingham Ribbon 13th february (section booked)
sleepyclaire - 13 Feb 2007
Murphy The Cat - Valentines Day (aaaahhhhh)
Loopy Lobes - 15th February
logiebear - 15th February
Musey - 19th February 2007
moo842 - 24 Feb 2007 - 10 march 2007 (theres always one)!
Davina_M - 27th Feb 2007 (Snap Moohound! but will be earlier cos of medical complication)
Charlotte664 - 1st March 2007 - date changed at scan, I'm a week further on than originally thought!
Victoria1972 - 2 March 2007
Broomey - 2 March 2007
Mrs_Monkey_Boy - 7 March 2007
Halfangelhalftart - 8th March 2007
Cathys1 - 14/03/2007
Suey64 – 15 March 2007
mrsbez - 16 March 2007
mummyto4and1onway(sharon)- 19th March 2007(I have a 5,4,3,1 yr old already)
Rebekah - 22nd March - moved forward!
Mrs asandwhen - 28th March 07 - date changed to 28th march after dating scan.
worto03 - 3rd April 2007
Bargain Babe-a-Licious! - 3rd April 2007
austmanic - 7th April 2007
Persontypething- 11th April 2007
Money_Maker_Shaker - 16th April 2007 BOY!
LillieFlower - 20th April 2007
babitee - 20th April 2007
Anya - 21st April 2007
debtfreehopeful - 21st April 2007
moohound - 27th April 2007
SusanCarter - 27th April 2007
India - 29th April 2007
Flea72 - 30th April 2007
sampainter - 3 May 2007
Bronzesurfer - 08 May 2007
Snaggles - 12th May 2007
Bump – 13 May 2007
dm72 - 14th May 2007
tequilla_slammer2002 - 14th May 2007
Banana1975 - 14th May 2007 - BOY
abijanzo - 20th May 2007
mrsrsp - 28th May 2007
jocymru- 28th May
George's Mum - 29th May 2007 (according to the scan anyway!)
Becles - 31 May 2007
Cheapskate - 5 June 2007
Karma67 - 5th June 2007 - had amnio..everything ok and having a BOY!!
Sophiedb – 8 June 2007
Elliot's mum - 16th June 2007 (No 1 is now 3 and No 2 is now 1- are we mad??!)
Katyag - 17th June (2 days after my bday, and the day after our wedding anni!)
famood - 21 June 2007
Chubacheroo - 24th June 2007 (changed from the 23rd)
noodlebutty, (Tricia) - 27th June 2007
Raybells - 28 June 2007
Mrs Steveeeee - 28 June 2007
Lotta Littlies - 29 June 2007
Lisamiddle - 2nd July 2007
Sam0mule - 5th July 2007
Bargainbabe - 6th July 2007
Twirlypen - 7th July 2007
jo_b - 14th July 2007
*Louise* - 19th July
Valentine x - 20th July 2007
mercurystar999 - 24th July 2007
Welshlassie - 29 July 2007
Eels100 - 26th July 2007
Terminally Short Of Cash - 31st July 2007
Kimmy310 - 1 August 2007
Katym79 - August???
Simone2697 - 2 August 2007 (subject to change - scan 11/01/07)
LoopyLouLou - 8 August 2007
Punky - 11 August 2007 (2 days after DS 4th bday)
Caleo - 12 August
Libert23 - 16 August 2007
Claire Jones - 21 August 2007 (by my Mum's calculations, will check with doctor in next few days!)
catalepticdru - 17 August 2007 using Naegele's formula. Though it'll be guaranteed I'll give birth on any day but this one!!
Justie - 25th August (or 28th depending on which way you calculate it)
lou031205 - 8th September 2007
rachelja - 9th September 2007 (2 wks before dd 4th b'day)
skintio (kate) 16th september 2007
Almost-skint (sammie) - 16th september 2007 - same as you Kate!!


TTC LIST

Daisykate124
Agutka
Dougggie
Cookiesncream
suzukibabe
witchyroo
sjm
fac73
Fishcake_random
Lesleydejager
jo_jo
picklesmum

BIRTH LIST

Winnie81 - Evie Grace - 28 July
Essexhoney - Rubie - 1 August
bella121984- 15/8/2006- BOY!
Andycarmi 30th August - Girl
sooz - 13th August - boy
oueyouey - 27th September Libby Rose
Sazere - 17th October 2006 Elise (plus DS5, DS4, DD3 all 4 by CS)
cha97michelle - 18th October - Boy
purplepatch - 30th October - Girl
brummiebabe - 3rd November - Grace
Jane - 6th November - Susannah
Dondo's Other Half- 7th November- Neive
rchddap1 - 14th November - Lily Marie
Downsizing - 14th Nov - Beth 8lb 12.5
Bailey - 17th November - Jack William 7lb 1 oz at 37+1
2Princess Mum - Boy 7lb 13oz at 39+2 1hr 49min labour, gave birth in bath at home (unplanned but Bliss!!)
Ziggy2004(Anne)-30th November Boy Ruben 9lbs 7 12:55
benmollymoo (Jane) - 1st December -Boy 7lbs 12 oz, Home VBAC at 39+6 (but only by 25 minutes!) Still no name!
Phatmouse - Baby Daisy, Born 09/12/06, 9.46am, 7lbs 10oz.
Modgit - Joel Benjamin, born 12/12/06 2.03 pm, 9lb 8oz 8 days late, but worth it!
maow425 - Boy! 13/12-06 0259, 8lbs 13 oz Name: Viking
allroundgoodguy 15th Dec -Boy 6lbs 8oz 10.09am. Not born Xmas Day in the end! Names, are a bit of a problem!
Hennypenny - 19th December Girl No 2, child no3 - Kira, born 19-12-06, 8lb 15.5oz, 9 days early. Middle name giving us a bit of a problem, but sure it will come to us eventually - really like Holly, but surname is Woods so would be a bit unfair!
J's_Other_Half - William Robert 7lb 5oz C Section (labour never started, never mind progressed!) 21st December.
Lu T - Imogen Beth, born after 5 days of contractions at 23.15 on 26 Dec 06 by c-section, 8lb 10oz
JULIE-mr boy 4 born 13 days late on 2nd jan at 20.12

PROBABLY GIVEN BIRTH BUT TOO WORN OUT TO LOG ON LIST

Tazandtommy - 21 October 2006 - BOY!
bex06 - 6th November 2006
RozeePozee - 7th November 2006 - BOY
Beks - 10th November - Girl!
aimo - due 6 December 2006
Lyndsey - 22nd December
Jude123 - 27th December, boy or girl
funky- 01 January 2007 - ???
Loobyloose - 3rd january 2007 - boy!
Peanutpie05 - 5th Jan 2007 (which prob means dd will arrive 19th Jan)
Strontium - 5th Jan 2007 - our first daughter!

U've swapped myself up the list a little bit as my section is now booked for the 13th. I'll be surprised if he hangs on that long. He's 4/5ths engaged and I'm getting braxton hicks every evening now. Several hours of it last night!

System

I got my ov sticks off ebay from fertility friend. They were really cheap, worked and arrived really quickly.

On another note has anyone got any advice for morning sickness? I have been throwing up and diarrhoe for last 36 hours. Feel terrible.....

emma_b_4

good signs rachel, whens your next scan? dont they say ginger biscuits for sickness?


im really not hopeful for my scan and really struggling x

Justie

emma_b wrote:

good signs rachel, whens your next scan? dont they say ginger biscuits for sickness?


im really not hopeful for my scan and really struggling x

sorry you're still feeling down about it all Emma. I can't really say anything that won't end up sounding trite but hang in there and here's hoping for the best :grouphug:

Justie

rachelja wrote:

On another note has anyone got any advice for morning sickness? I have been throwing up and diarrhoe for last 36 hours. Feel terrible.....

I have friends who swear by ginger biscuits. Or ginger tea (stem ginger left to steep in boiling water as if you were making tea) but then others say it just burns on the way back up. I have to try and eat at exactly the right time or else I can't eat or I'm sick but it doesn't always work. Try to keep your fluids up even if you can't do anything else and if you're feeling at all dehydrated call your GP immediately.