A journey of a 1000 miles must begin with single footstep....

Kepp

Make the decision based on what you want and do not be pushed into making one either way.

It's hard but try not to let fear of the future, money etc sway your decision.

I know it's because he is so upset but it is unfair of him to make references towards comitting suicide and placing that burden on you.

Coming out of a relationship of such a long time will be hard and will seem very strange etc but life can end up completely different in a good way.

If you were meant to be and this turns out to be the wrong decision there's nothing saying that in 6 months time you wouldn't end up back together and all the better for it.

Sorry I'm rambling all over the place! What I'm trying to say is be strong, don't feel pushed and we are all here if you need us, I will be thinking about you xxx

jtr2803

Woowoo wrote: »

I just seem to have arrived at this point all of a sudden, and I can't quite believe it's happening.

I think when I see him on Sunday, I will know whether I just feel sorry for him or regret my decision and want to stick with it.

It doesn't help that he is devestated, has tried to get an earlier flight home and keeps telling me he feel's like committing suicide (not great when he is out on the mountains!).

That is EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL and it makes me so mad, my ex pulled this out every time we argued and in the end I told him to f88king hurry up and do it so I wouldn't have to hear it anymore. You haven't just made this decision at a drop of a hat hun and..........well, you know my thoughts.

Woowoo

Morning hun

It makes me mad too!

Thanks for letting me moan at you for the past week lol! x

jtr2803

You are welcome and you haven't been moaning at all!

How far through the parcel are you?

Woowoo

I have only opened one box of choccies so far, I'm making it last!!

Kepp

Mmm, chocolate, the answer to everything!

Woowoo

Chocolate and a cuppa makes everything alright

LittleMoog

Hi Woo,
Sending you a dodgy hug :grouphug: Just wanted you to know i'm thinking of you. I'm sure you're right that when you see him on Sunday you'll know for definite how you feel about your decision. Remember that it is *your* decision, and as Jody said don't let him blackmail you into staying. Even if you hurt him now, it's better than staying if you don't really want to and ending up very resentful down the line. I'm about all weekend so PM if you want to chat or anything Jxx

Woowoo

All you guys are so lovely, thanks for all the support x

Lemon_Tree

sorry to hear the turn events have taken. Everyone has put things much better than i could have but you will know what's best for you when you see him on Sunday.

Just to put my fourpeneth in, i know you say you don't want anything from him but if you spent things on him/the house etc that are part of your debt then by the same token you have contributed and therefore shouldn't feel so bad if you do end up progressing the issue.
Obviously it's your choice and i don't know how your debts arose but it could be one less thing to feel guilty about.
I'm around all weekend as well if you need a shoulder.