My Daughter nearly set the house on Fire ..HELP ???

Philycheesesteak

Have naughty corners... or like mentioned a chair facing the wall.

Just needs to be a place where she can think about what she's done.

My daughter is 2 and can often be defiant, but losing something they care about is often the only way to convince them other wise. Putting it out of reach so they can see it but can't get to it, until they behave.

I think the idea of having a fireman teach her the dangers of fire is a good one. I find with my daughter talking to her as an adult does help. They understand more than you know.

Have you considered breaking a toy she likes? Again cruel but does teach them that you have to respect other people's property.

For more tips you can't go far wrong with Jo Frost. She has a good series on Ch4 at the moment tackling a number of issues

http://www.channel4.com/programmes/jo-frost-extreme-parental-guidance
http://www.channel4.com/programmes/supernanny

keys_2

Thankyou for your replies . I am definately going to look into investing into one of those high gates ..If anyone knows best place that stocks them please?

I also agree with the thought of only threating discipline that I am going to carry out thats why I was looking for ideas of what to say , as my mum when I was younger did not carry them out either , so I am more determined to only make promises I plan to carry out also

And I have done the counting thing in the past , however my fault again I slowly stopped doing this but I wil lnow start doing it again , even more so now because of the dangers that have occured recently .And I will carry it out on daily wrong doings aswell , so I know and hope she then doesnt do anything as dangerous in the future

Sunnygirl_2

keys wrote: »

Thankyou for your replies . I am definately going to look into investing into one of those high gates ..If anyone knows best place that stocks them please?

I think Argos, but for a cheaper option try ebay. x

PasturesNew

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I take it you are in a perfect relationship then?

No? Oh and there are reasons for that, don't bother posting them all. I'm not interested, I suspect the OP has reasons too.
Why don't you just guess what they are and post without knowing, but judging anyway.

Oh you already did.....

You were the one who judged, I was just making suggestions.
Then you went all bitter about it and twisted things round in a mean way.

the_cat

I would suggest from a safety point of view that you move the stairgate from the bottom of the stairs to her bedroom door TODAY. Set it up a little higher than you might normally so that it is still low enough to stop her squeezing underneath, but gains as much height as possible.

A further suggestion is to introduce a sticker chart for good behaviour with a small reward of something she really wants/likes. A gold (higher value than other tasks) sticker should be awarded every time she remains in her room in the morning and waits for you

Lotus-eater

PasturesNew wrote: »

You were the one who judged, I was just making suggestions.
Then you went all bitter about it and twisted things round in a mean way.

I suggest you revisit your post then pastures.

Anyone else can read it as well and make up their own mind.

I said I was suprised at you and I am.

gratefulforhelp_2

Ignore the inappropriate comments, keys. People who judge you without knowing the facts should be ignored.

keys_2

the_cat wrote: »

I would suggest from a safety point of view that you move the stairgate from the bottom of the stairs to her bedroom door TODAY. Set it up a little higher than you might normally so that it is still low enough to stop her squeezing underneath, but gains as much height as possible.

A further suggestion is to introduce a sticker chart for good behaviour with a small reward of something she really wants/likes. A gold (higher value than other tasks) sticker should be awarded every time she remains in her room in the morning and waits for you

Great I will be moving the gate today And I wil llet you know how I went on tommorrow - Worth a try .;) And I will buy a gate hopefully sometime next week when I have shoped about for one .
And we are setting up a reward chart tonight together , I have some good ideas I think . and it makes sense not to bar sweets etc for a week etcand only do it for 24 hours as previous posts have suggested because i have realised she does forget why they have been takien away from her .

"I try my best to involve her in everything I do because she loves helping . But the second I need to do something on my own she starts misbehaving ."
Bitter And Twisted This is the key to your punishments if she doesn't behave. You don't even need to turn your back on her, just completely ignore her for however long you think is reasonable and you tell her you're going to do it when you give her a warning. Similar to the naughty step when they're not given any attention there either.

Thanks Bitter : I will take this into account as I probably didnt explain enough aswell , as I also meant if she starts mis behaving I most often try and distract her when say im cleaning the house by asking her if she wants to help sweep the floor / vacuum with me [ she picks all the stuff up off the floor } polish etc . But maybe ive made a mistake doing that aswell ..lol .
I do find ignoring her is teh best thing that works thow ..thanks

Sunnygirl_2

keys wrote: »

Thanks Bitter : I will take this into account as I probably didnt explain enough aswell , as I also meant if she starts mis behaving I most often try and distract her when say im cleaning the house by asking her if she wants to help sweep the floor / vacuum with me [ she picks all the stuff up off the floor } polish etc . But maybe ive made a mistake doing that aswell ..lol .
I do find ignoring her is teh best thing that works thow ..thanks

I think distraction does work well sometimes, if it doesn't work then you can ignore, if that doesn't work, then you can do time out if it escalates.

se999

We got a very light little catch and put it on their bedroom doors, if they were desperate to get out, it would give way, but we'd have heard hopefully. We did this after one of ours decided to fill the bath in the middle of the night, they could have drowned, and they nearly flooded the house. Fortunately we woke up. We did have stairgates at the top of the stairs too, hadn't realised until then that the bathroom was as bad as anything downstairs.

3 year olds don't really understand all the consequences of their actions, they just live in the here & now.

Our two were perfectly capable of overcoming stairgates, we had one's that were permanantly fixed and openable (supposedly only by adults), they opened them for an elderly relative with arthritus who couldn't open them when they visited. They did realise that it was a 'stop' point, and it was the only time they opened them. Also toys etc can be used as steps to get over stairgates if you've got ingenious children.

This was years ago, as they're both adults now.