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Crab

angelicmary85 wrote: »

They are both doing well thank you, my youngest has Down's and wasn't really accepted into the family for a while so I guess I'd be a bit funny about anyone suddenly wanting to be be involved in his upbringing

I try to keep them in a routine and my Mother looked after DD (for 15mins before it was her bedtime) when I was in labour when DS. In that 15mins she managed to fill her to the eyeballs with 'e-numbers' and un-done 17months worth of work so on top of coping with the news of DS' Down's I had a hyper toddler on my hands that was all out of routine for at least 3 days afterwards because she didn't get to her bed in time just one night!

That's so harsh about the family being unaccepting. I am so sorry to hear that. I can understand you being protective. And I am sorry to hear your own mother fed your first child so badly - I'd be furious! I can understand totally why you have your reservations. I will just have to see how it goes - my mother is pretty good and was ahead of the time when all the news broke about e-numbers when we were little, and follows a healthy diet, so I don't think I need worry about that aspect, but we'll see! x

angelicmary85

Crab wrote: »

That's so harsh about the family being unaccepting. I am so sorry to hear that. I can understand you being protective. And I am sorry to hear your own mother fed your first child so badly - I'd be furious! I can understand totally why you have your reservations. I will just have to see how it goes - my mother is pretty good and was ahead of the time when all the news broke about e-numbers when we were little, and follows a healthy diet, so I don't think I need worry about that aspect, but we'll see! x

I think food is an 'act of love' where Grandparents are concerned *rolls eyes* My parents bought nappies and wipes for DS but were very awkward around around him, I made it perfectly clear to them that if both my kids weren't treated the same then they wouldn't be welcome in my house or around my family...sometimes a girl just has to make a stand!

Crab

angelicmary85 wrote: »

I think food is an 'act of love' where Grandparents are concerned *rolls eyes* My parents bought nappies and wipes for DS but were very awkward around around him, I made it perfectly clear to them that if both my kids weren't treated the same then they wouldn't be welcome in my house or around my family...sometimes a girl just has to make a stand!

I'll have to ensure the grandparents don't do that to our child/ren. And good on you for your stance. I hope the parents have come round (as in, mentally!).
Best wishes.

(and sorry for taking this thread a little off-topic!)

luxor4t

trickster wrote: »

Inlaws (who are lovely) want to buy the house opposite.....................

:eek: I'd move, quick.

trickster

Haha. Movings not an option. Only moved in ourselves 7 weeks ago. Not going through that again! Plus wife is in the 'No' camp

pinkfluffythings

I lived for 3 long years next door to my ex in-laws, I feel they did, esp MIL, contributed to our marriage ending. My new in-laws are lovely and 40 miles away

trickster

Thanks for all the votes. I see that in this (non-scientific poll) I am in the large majority. Although I have stated my feelings to the known parties, it is almost a done deal. So, time to move on, keep feelings to myself and keep smiling. As I said, inlaws are great. Lets hope my concerns are completely irrational.

Right, where's my glass?

Sunshine12

Good luck Trickster. I get on very well with my future in laws but the idea of them moving within 5 minutes drive let alone across the road doesnt bode well. Make the most of your weekends until moving day!! Hope it works out OK. (TBH, I wouldnt have my parents move in across the street either and I get on great with them too!!)

ailuro2

Set up some ground rules with the OH now, discuss how often is acceptable for them to 'pop in' of a week, and make her agree to have a word with them if they start inviting themselves over too regularly.

Yes, they might be lovely people, but if you're having a bit of an 'off' day you don't want the in laws there to poke their noses in do you, in a similar vein, if you're having a more romantic day you don't want them letting themselves in and making a cup of tea while they wait for you to get dressed.:eek:

trickster

I think after me putting my point across the other day, there will not be too much popping over. I have to say, that their main motivation was not to live so close to us, just that it is a nice house at a bargain prices (desperate seller). It just so happens to be about 30 feet from ours!