My friend and my depression

Oldernotwiser

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Different name, same poster.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=2266209

So many names - so many problems!

savingmummy

sh1305 wrote: »

Really could do with some advice / hugs please:

A friend of mine has known that I have depression and that I self harm for the past 3 years. When he found out, he blamed himself and believed I blamed him. He kept saying that he also believed I would kill myself - I have never said anything like this to him. (I haven't exactly denied it either)

Why would he think this????

For a while, I was very clingy and he would refuse to talk to me. I discovered that I could get him to talk to me if I told him I needed him to help me - this soon stopped. (I believed he worked this out..)

After this, I had the odd slip up; but nothing major.

His married and has chidren - bad situation too so obviously couldnt cope with you being clingy. what did you want from him?


We got talking and he said that him & his wife are splitting up because of her depression. (it's more she can't cope; not him, I think) He said to me "I hope you don't end up like her". I really didn't know what to say to that; so said nothing.

After coming home, I realised what he meant and became rather upset.

He is right though. He obviously thinks you need help and is advising you politely to get yourself sorted out. He has seen his wife become bad and is only advising you.

I attempted to email him earlier and tell him that we need a break from each other. All I did when writing that email was cry.:(

why??

My problem now is that bwing around him is just making everything harder for the both of us - we're just arguing now. I do think we need a break from each other - but when this has happened in the past, it hasn't lasted long. He gives in and starts talking to me again.

What do I do?

Sorry for the length of the post.

Leave well alone!!!!
All very confusing and this bloke has a marriage and a family to be looking after. You are too much right now (at a guess).

I feel it is more then friendship your after despite you saying otherwise.

savingmummy

you met when you was 14? his 44?

What site online did you meet?

I find that awful :eek:

Lotus-eater

Edinburghlass wrote: »

A previous thread about the "friend", none of it makes any sense.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=2186949&highlight=

Oh no, how really sad

Please OP, if you are really real, take advice and try to break free of this horrible situation you find yourself in. Life is worth living, you just have to find the right person to spend it with.

Any

One of these scenes that you wouldn't even believe if you seen it in a soap on a daytime TV.

Takoda

OP is happily posting on other threads dispensing advice right left and centre and not sounding depressed at all. Not been back to this one probably because like the married bloke we've all seen throu gh her attention seeking "poor me" act.

Give me strength. <rolleyes>

Indie_Kid

Takoda wrote: »

OP is happily posting on other threads dispensing advice right left and centre and not sounding depressed at all. Not been back to this one probably because like the married bloke we've all seen throu gh her attention seeking "poor me" act.

Give me strength. <rolleyes>

So explain why the !!!! I have fresh self harm scars then? And no, they're just for fun. Or why I was in tears on Monday? And why I have such a messed up sleeping pattern? That ONLY happens when I'm depressed. And why my uni work & attedance is suffering? And no, it's not because I'm some lazy so-and-so.

What a lovely lot you are.

iamana1ias

sh1305 wrote: »

So explain why the !!!! I have fresh self harm scars then? And no, they're just for fun. Or why I was in tears on Monday? And why I have such a messed up sleeping pattern? That ONLY happens when I'm depressed. And why my uni work & attedance is suffering? And no, it's not because I'm some lazy so-and-so.

What a lovely lot you are.

You clearly need way more help than anyone here can give you. You never take the advice you are given anyway.

I'd suggest you turn the laptop off and build yourself a real life.

laura.1984

This sounds like another take on Single White Female. Sorry o/p you make these mens life hell. I should know my h2b had a stalker type friend for a while she had been a friend for a while and nothing had ever happend then she started to get too close. Please stay away from this man he is married he is off limits even as your friend has you and him have really blurred the lines and really what kind of man at the age of 44 prays on a 14 year old.

feelinggood_2

sh1305 wrote: »

So explain why the !!!! I have fresh self harm scars then? And no, they're just for fun. Or why I was in tears on Monday? And why I have such a messed up sleeping pattern? That ONLY happens when I'm depressed. And why my uni work & attedance is suffering? And no, it's not because I'm some lazy so-and-so.

What a lovely lot you are.

I asked yesterday, are you seeking treatment for your depression and self-harm?