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My friend and my depression

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  • Indie_Kid
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    Proc wrote: »
    Seriously, get over yourself. The guy is married. You are nothing to him. If anything he would have seen you as an easy bit on the side, but now he's realised he's picked a prime weirdo.

    We're just friends.
    I asked yesterday, are you seeking treatment for your depression and self-harm?

    No
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  • sh1305 wrote: »
    No

    Why not?

    Although you may just be friends, it doesn't sound like a normal and healthy relationship, does it?
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • Indie_Kid
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    Why not?

    Because asking for help isn't that simple and:
    http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.html?p=29065449&postcount=2335
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  • sh1305 wrote: »

    It might not be easy, but it is simple.

    Do you want to get better?
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • screamer
    screamer Posts: 1,104 Forumite
    And I thought this was a money saving site!!

    Well said Takoda and Proc though!!

    Now little girl, go talk to your mum and dad and leave the much older married man to sort out his own problems. It's very selfish of you to expect him to be at your beck and call when his marriage is falling apart and his life is being turned upside down.

    Come back to us in a few years time if you're still depressed, when you've experienced a little bit more of life. You want to know why I'm so bitter? Because slashing up does not make you more important than a man's wife, and if I was her I'd be giving you a good slap (and she'd get away with it because she's GENUINELY depressed!!)

    Then again, looking at your other posts, it seems you can't help but stick your very inexperienced little nose in it!! Having 1 seizure in your life does not give you the right to comment on a person's major brain surgery. You offered nothing constructive to that thread so why did you bother?? Oh, and go see a doctor. You're silly for not seeing one!!!
    Yaaay, I finally conned a man into making a honest woman of me. Even more shocking is that I can put the words "Happily" and "Married" into the same sentence and not have life insurance on my mind when I say it ;-)
  • Proc wrote: »
    No. She wants attention. You're giving her plenty. Just ignore it. The sooner that idiots stop pandering to pathetic losers who feel the need to make themselves bleed, the sooner these social rejects will stop cutting themselves, and actually do something meaningful with their lives.

    I partly agree with you, I do think it is attention seeking behaviour, but I don't think ignoring it is the most helpful. I think gently helping someone see what they are doing is more productive. I've got personal experience of self-harm and attention seeking behaviour, and it isn't something you can just snap out of. The person has to recognise what they are doing isn't right/healthy, and make a choice to get better.
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • Indie_Kid
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    I partly agree with you, I do think it is attention seeking behaviour, but I don't think ignoring it is the most helpful. I think gently helping someone see what they are doing is more productive. I've got personal experience of self-harm and attention seeking behaviour, and it isn't something you can just snap out of. The person has to recognise what they are doing isn't right/healthy, and make a choice to get better.

    Making a choice to get better isn't possible. I have tried to give up self-harming in the past - it worked for about 7 months.

    If I was doing it for attention, my friend would've known about Thursday and he wouldn't have found out the way he did 3 years ago.
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  • sh1305 wrote: »
    Making a choice to get better isn't possible. I have tried to give up self-harming in the past - it worked for about 7 months.

    I'm not saying just chose to stop self-harming and that it is. Chose to get better, fight for help, keep going despite relapses. It might take a while, you might have lots of slip ups. You might have to shout and shout for help, but ultimately it is possible, if you decide you want to get better. At the moment, you don't want to get better, and you aren't willing to try.
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
  • Indie_Kid
    Indie_Kid Posts: 23,100 Forumite
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    and you aren't willing to try.

    Except I am. Getting better isn't that simple.
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  • sh1305 wrote: »
    Except I am. Getting better isn't that simple.

    If you are willing, why are you not seeking treatment?
    Stay-at-home, attached Mummy to a 23lb 10oz, 11 month old baby boy.
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