My friend and my depression

Lotus-eater

shell_girl wrote: »

I may be wrong but I think this is the second thread you've posted about this man? Sorry if I've got it wrong but I'm sure I read something very similar last week.

Different name, same poster.
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=2266209

In all honesty I don't know what the OP wants and I'm not sure she does either.
There are people here who want to help, but she doesn't seem to want it.

shell_girl

OP- if these two threads are both yours, then please think seriously about putting some distance between you.

The first thread refers to him having children, omitted in the second thread.

If his marriage has ended, under very difficult circumstances by the sound of things, then his emotional energy needs to be invested in himself and his child/ren.

I don't think it's fair for you to ask him for the level of support you apparently need from him.

Takoda

Why do you need a break from just a friend?

If I need a break from my mates I just don't phone them for a few days <shrugs>

Reckon there's more to it despite you saying there isn't. Here's what to do:

1) Kick the married bloke into touch.

2) Feel better or get medical help to do so.

3) Then get a proper relationship where you have someone of your own and don't have the highs (and lows) of a 'friendship' with a married man.

You'll get nowhere blackmailing him into seeing you because he thinks you'll top yourself if he doesn't.

Plus if he feels responsible for your condition - he probably is in part. Yes I know depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain but I think some situations make it worse!

Edinburghlass_2

A previous thread about the "friend", none of it makes any sense.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=2186949&highlight=

Zazen999

I am afraid that - if I remember correctly - he is married, with kids and considerably older than you and you didn't take any advice last time......so if I say in answer to your question 'what do I do now' would be to recommend that you find someone your own age who is available - then I suspect you will ignore it anyway.

bestpud

Oh well, makes a change from the laptop!

*max*

Having read the other threads from the OP, I have to say....it's beyond weird!!! lol

Guy in his 40's chats to teen girl online for 6 years (sorry, but pedo alert!!!)
Guy "agrees" to meet teen girl on a "misunderstanding". :think:
Guy assures teen girl that "nothing will happen"....(supposedly so that teen girl will now WANT something to happen.)
Guy is married with kids, wife knows about girl yet is totally ok about it (yeah right...)
Girl insists she's not into guy, yet blackmails him into seeing her.
Girl is "sad" at guy's marriage break up.

Nothing makes any sense! :eek:

feelinggood_2

*max* wrote: »

Having read the other threads from the OP, I have to say....it's beyond weird!!! lol

Guy in his 40's chats to teen girl online for 6 years (sorry, but pedo alert!!!)
Guy "agrees" to meet teen girl on a "misunderstanding". :think:
Guy assures teen girl that "nothing will happen"....(supposedly so that teen girl will now WANT something to happen.)
Guy is married with kids, wife knows about girl yet is totally ok about it (yeah right...)
Girl insists she's not into guy, yet blackmails him into seeing her.
Girl is "sad" at guy's marriage break up.

Nothing makes any sense! :eek:

Wife who agrees with it is also very mentally ill, and going into a care home.

lostinrates

*max* wrote: »

Having read the other threads from the OP, I have to say....it's beyond weird!!! lol

I find it sad. I worry for people like OP -weird situation-ally, naive or whatever and this sort of thread really saddens me.

I thought I had read (and been saddened by this)before, so thanks to thse who remembered where and when.

Toothfairy4

God this is a 'complex' situation... what age are you OP just out of interest? I don't really understand why a married guy in his 40s would be chatting to teen girls on the internet??