Problem with a work colleague!

pulliptears

pinkshoes wrote: »

Obviously, as girls don't fart, we have to save it up and wait until we get into our cars for our commute home!! :rotfl:

You could always start letting rip infront of her, and marking yourself out of 10 for it? Or pretend to pick your nose and wipe a bogey on the dashboard?

Pink, my close friend and I do this on our way home (we lift share) and very often forget as we are barting and furping our male friend is in the back

mrcow

Or buy three blow up dolls and put them in the front and rear passenger seats. Dress them up in suits etc. When she asks for a lift, tell her sorry but you can't - car's full.

sfry

kittiej wrote: »

She did have a car in better times, but she sold it when her DH became disabled since he now has a mobility car. I did ask why she couldn't use this but she said he might have unexpected hospital appointments.

Most hospital appointments are not "unexpected". The NHS will book them weeks in advance. OP she is playing you. Take everyones good advice and put an end to it now.

mistrihelen

How frustrating! I hate people who do this kind of thing (assume that you'll do them a favour every single day), because although they're asking, you're the one who feels bad if you say no. They're not even really asking, because the only answer they're expecting is yes.

What I don't get is anyone assuming that they will get from A to B via someone else's good will. What is the plan when you're on holiday or sick or working late? Obviously you both already work there, but I'd never dream of going for a job I couldn't get to via public transport (as I don't drive currently). If she really can't get home herself, she needs to come up with some sort of pay arrangement (whether public transport, taxi or a colleague), not expect a permanent freebie from you - maybe she should consider a job nearer home if transport is really that impossible.

Even if she is in difficult circumstances, you are not her best mate and don't owe her anything unless you actually like the lift-giving! I totally understand the me time and don't think I could bear it either.

You best bet is to be busy, going somewhere (even just the shops, or a friend/relative), or just try and leave work one day without talking to her about it.

People have just started car-sharing a lot at my work (car park getting too full) and it is already causing problems when some people want to get in or leave late.

Grrrr! I feel angry just thinking about being in your position

kittiej

Well according to her, the hospital just sometimes phones him up out of the blue to go for blood tests.

I thought it a bit funny, but there we are *shrugs*

elfen

Doubtful, they usually give you an appointment as you may need to fast. I've never and have never know anyone get an appt on the off-chance (happened to my mum once, but there was still a week's notice) And I've never heard of request stops on trains, although I can understand it may happen.

Bogof_Babe

elfen wrote: »

Doubtful, they usually give you an appointment as you may need to fast. I've never and have never know anyone get an appt on the off-chance (happened to my mum once, but there was still a week's notice) And I've never heard of request stops on trains, although I can understand it may happen.

I can confirm about the request stops - there are several of them on the Cardiff to Hollyhead route. You have to ask the ticket inspector if you want to get off at them.

kittiej

Yes this is a stop at an industrial estate so I suppose she could be right with that one.

I know she does over exagerate the truth, and she's one of those people that is always caught up in some kind of drama, I just need to be a bit careful about how to get through to her.

Maybe if I leave 5 mins early and drive off without her? :rotfl:

thorsoak

kittiej wrote: »

The problem
She did have a car in better times, but she sold it when her DH became disabled since he now has a mobility car. I did ask why she couldn't use this but she said he might have unexpected hospital appointments.

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Actually, if her DH has been awarded the mobility car, then it can only be used by the husband or used on his behalf. The wife would not be able to use the car for work.

butterfly72

I don't think you are being mean. I bet you don't mind giving her a lift occaisionally. I would hate to give someone a lift home every night. I unwind during my drive home.

Get this book from the library.. http://www.amazon.co.uk/Difficult-Conversations-Situations-without-Relationship/dp/0749926759/ref=sr_1_3/279-1619278-4400431?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1266175160&sr=8-3

Its got the car lift senario and how to deal with it!! If I remember correctly the basic premise is that you tell her the problem (you are not happy that she is relying on you for a lift every day) and how it makes you feel (stressed that you have to wait for her, don't have quiet reflection time, unable to do things for yourself on the spear of the moment like go to MrT visit friends, the solution. (you#lll give her a lift occaisionally if it suits you but you don't want to make a habit of it and she should make her own arrangements from next monday) Only it tells you how to do it without offending!!

It goes through the conversation bit by bit.. first how not to do it and then how to improve it! Actually its a really empowering book for anyone that has problems communicating issues. Its especially good for those that don't like speaking to people they percieve as 'higher rank' or with more power ( be it by virtue of being younger, better looking, job, richer, more intelligent... etc) or more senior colleagues and bosses. It allows you to see everyone on a even pegging and communicate accordingly!

Good luck!