Problem with a work colleague!

Buddingblonde

What is the public transport situation like for her?
Have you thought about getting her some time tables?

DirectDebacle

kittiej wrote: »

Am I being mean or am I being used, that's my dilema.

I think you are being mean. The poor woman is short of money so it is wrong to expect any form of gratitude. What about when you go on holiday. Have you considered her plight then?

You should at least be giving her sufficient money to cover the petrol costs her husband will have to spend on taking her to work when you are not available. Better still why not just let them have the free use of your vehicle when you are away or take them on holday with you.

Whatever happened to the 'milk of human kindness'?:rotfl::D

(I am not being serious)

Craftyscholar

kittiej wrote: »

The person in question has also told a girl in another department that her son can drop her off at her house a couple of mornings to get a lift into work. The other girl said she was shocked and didn't have the chance to say no!
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:eek:
I have been offered a regular lift into work in the past from a colleague (actually senior to me) and was very grateful, but the point is she offered.
Your' person in question' isn't even asking for a lift just announcing you, and your other colleague, will provide her with one. That is just plain not acceptable.

Ladyhawk

Creditcruncher wrote: »

The worst thing you can do is offer someone a lift because they will expect it all the time and they will be offended if you don't offer.

Not always!!! I need to stand up for the people who occassionally ask for lifts. I live near several people who i work with (we work in the next town... 15 miles away) and though I drive there are occassions that I ask people for a lift to work, when it is not practical for me to drive. They know that they can always ask me as well, and have done so in the past. I do give them a little something if they have really gone out of their way. I only ask once ever two to three months though.

I sympathise with OP though, I certainly wouldn't be happy if it was every day, or even every week.

kittiej

BB, the transport network isn't too bad, I even asked her about the trains, but apparently you have to request the train to stop at the station close to work.

Again it all boils down to money, she's always saying stuff like "I've only got 50p in my purse", Funny how she seems to have a couple of quid for the Orange Wednesdays though, I'd forgotton about that.

DD, I am so selfish, maybe that's the answer. Give her my car and then she can pick me up on the way to work! Now why didn't I think of that before? :rotfl:

LadyH, if she just wanted a lift now and then that would be fine, (I could mentally prepare myself for the lack of alone time lol)

Greenlight77

A friend of mine found herself in a similar position once and despite hints the other person continued to expect lifts everyday without offering to contribute anything.

My friend started to regularly stop off at the petrol station on the way home and asked her colleague for a tenner or whatever to help out to share the costs. After a few weeks the colleague must have got tired of this and she stopped asking for lifts.

Ladyhawk

Greenlight77 wrote: »

My friend started to regularly stop off at the petrol station on the way home and asked her colleague for a tenner or whatever to help out to share the costs.

That is a great suggestion!

naijapower

Greenlight77 wrote: »

A friend of mine found herself in a similar position once and despite hints the other person continued to expect lifts everyday without offering to contribute anything.

My friend started to regularly stop off at the petrol station on the way home and asked her colleague for a tenner or whatever to help out to share the costs. After a few weeks the colleague must have got tired of this and she stopped asking for lifts.

Definitely a good option to explore...goodluck

SugarSpun

I know you feel put upon, but to make the work environment easier would you be comfortable compromising with her, so maybe you drop her off one or two evenings a week and are busy on the other days? You shouldn't have to feel obliged, and she's obviously taking advantage, but if you're concerned about how it looks to your co-workers then being seen to make the effort on the days you're not busy is a good thing.

I'd ask for a small contribution too.

kittiej

Actually, is this point true? Do some insurance policies actually say you can't give someone else a lift to or from work?

That's interesting if it is.