The Bad Mummies Thread

Triggles

Off to freecycle the steriliser. LOL

JBD

Triggles wrote: »

Well, I make the bottles up in the morning, but with water I've just boiled. Maybe I'm being a bit blonde, but I don't see what method used for making up the bottles has to do with whether or not I sterilise the bottles themselves.... ?

It's just the fact of if the milk itself is standing all day long. It probably doesn't make any difference if you are putting boiled water in them. I'm just going back to my own experience, if I was carrying a bottle of milk around with me I would probably have sterilised the bottle 1st just to be on the safe side [or just used a carton which I don't remember being available]. It's up to you to assess what you think is the safest thing to do.

SarahNeedle1872

mumOf2wonderfulkids wrote: »

DD had a dummie until her third birthday, we asked her what toy she wanted the most and told her the dodo fairy would come and take all the dummies in exchange for this toy

Brilliant!! I shall be using this for DS who is three next month... now back to where I got up to

Sx

pigpen

I am such a terrible mother.. when my oldest was 7 days old I got my first visit from my HV.. and threw her out.. silly cow that she was.. first question.. How did you find giving birth.. 'Oh it was fabulous thank you... I have more stitches in my fanny than in the bayeaux tapestry!!! Fancy a look?'

Anyway.. I have refused to see them ever since.. they kept sending letters for tiddles to be seen for various rubbish and I cancelled them all.. last one we had about a year ago wanting me to drag her out of school to take her to an eye test the other side of town.. I rang up to cancel the apointment.. see I do have my good points.. 'Why are you cancelling?'.. 'Because it is pointless'.. 'Why do you say it is pointless?'.. 'Because if I thought she might need an eye test I would take her to a PROPER optician who is qualified in assessing vision and not rely on some twit of a HV to say hmm.. I think she may need to see an optician.. and waste MY time'.. Cue hanging up of phone at my end..

She was weighed once by the MW when we came out of hospital and she was weighed next at 18 months old when she had a hospital appointment.

I hold the majority of health workers (I refuse to call them professional because they aren't) in very low regard.

SarahNeedle1872

This thread is absolutely brilliant, and I have to say, a real relief from the 'holier than thou' attitude I have seen a lot of on this board!

So, my name is Sarah, I have a son who is three in 11 days, and I am a bad mother because:

* I got pregnant by accident, so drank (rather a lot some times) until I was 18 wks pg
* The only thing I stopped eating was shellfish... still ate pate, runny eggs, cream cheese etc etc etc
* I am a full time working Mum, and he's passed around between nursery (3 days 8-6), Nanny and Grandad, and Daddy during the week - but he loves going to different places
* DS slept in his own room from 5 weeks because he kept me awake with his snoring!
* He was BF from birth, but supplimented by ate least one bottle a day because my boobs couldn't keep up!
* He slept on his front when he wanted to
* I stopped sterlising bottles when he was 3 months old
* Charlie (my 9yr old Black Lab) is his best friend and they have been known to share a bed/food/water bowl on many occasions
* Charlie and DS swapped toys as DS was teething.... rawhide chews are a Mum's best friend
* I left his on the sofa on his own.... until he did a back flip onto the dog
* DS learned not to cry for no reason, by being left to cry when I knew he was fine
* TV is allowed whenever he wants - we're both learning to sign with Mr Tumble! And he knows the songs to Dora, Wonder Pets, Super Why etc etc etc
* He eats as much or as little as he wants, of pretty much whatever he wants.... although I did draw the line at ice cream for breakfast - he had it after his cereal :rotfl:
* The dummy always gets sucked clean
* Disposables and wipes all the way - still in nappies now, he's not ready for the potty/toilet yet
* Yes there have been slapped legs/bottom
* He doesn't have a bath every day
* Germs are not banned from this house - we have a dog!
* Sometimes he goes to bed in the t-shirt he's been wearing all day
* Sundays is usually PJ day
* He plays mountaineering on the ironing pile.... well I say ironing pile, I don't actually iron!
* He knows how to load the washing machine, and use the hoover - chores at 3 is baaaad!
* He plays outside with his water table, even when its frozen
* He's left in the car at the garage while I pay
* He's been left in the car to sleep so he wasn't disturbed
* If he falls down, he gets an 'up you jump' instead of a fuss, unless he's really hurt
* Last week, much to the horror of MiL, I washed his face with the dishcloth

Can't think of any more, a lot have been covered by all youy terrible parents

Sx

SarahNeedle1872

Triggles wrote: »

OK.. I have a question for the general populace of the thread....

Who still sterilises their baby's bottles at 6 months?? (looking around for those who glance up and say "sterilise??" LOL)

I am fast becoming tired of sterilising DS3's bottles. I personally think a good wash with hot soapy water and a rinse with hot water is sufficient. He puts his toys on the floor and in his mouth and all sorts - is sterilising the bottles REALLY going to make a big difference at this point? His little immune system should be up to the challenge now, right??

I stopped at 3 months, because it was such a faff! As someone else said, once they're crawling and stuffing things in their mouth, there's no point really!

Sx

jackieb

Triggles wrote: »

Well, to be perfectly honest, I normally wouldn't. I didn't with my oldest, as we were in the states, and it just wasn't done. You sterilised the bottles before the first use, then just washed them in hot soapy water after using. But I was told in no uncertain terms here that I was risking their life by not sterilising (aren't HVs great? *sigh*). I personally feel it's no longer necessary, but I was wondering what the general consensus here was.

I took my son who was a couple of weeks old at the time to the baby clinic for the first time. The health visitor gave him a thorough check over and was very interested in a dimple he had at the bottom of his spine. She peered at it and prodded it and finally told me 'it's okay, it's not a tumour'. :eek:

!!!!!!! She freaked me out. He'd been checked over in the hospital and never for one minute had I thought it was a tumour! Why didn't she just stay quiet if it wasn't a tumour? Why say it's not a tumour when I never even mentioned it either. Have a lump, go to see a health visitor - no need to bother waiting weeks or months for a diagnosis - get an instant one from your health visitor! :mad:

mumOf2wonderfulkids

jackieb wrote: »

!!!!!!! She freaked me out. He'd been checked over in the hospital and never for one minute had I thought it was a tumour! Why didn't she just stay quiet if it wasn't a tumour? Why say it's not a tumour when I never even mentioned it either. Have a lump, go to see a health visitor - no need to bother waiting weeks or months for a diagnosis - get an instant one from your health visitor! :mad:

oh health professionals are good at scarring people, i once took dd to the dr's for something (i forget the reason) the doc then listened to her heart and said

'' oh, she has a heart murmor'' never said anything else about it, by the time i got home i had completely freaked myself out about it. ended up going back up to see our regular dr (the bestest dr in the whole wide world, how dare she leave to have children!) who completely put me at ease and ordered lots of tests for her, she is absolutely fine and there is no sign of anything wrong, its just one of those things where she has an extra ''noise'' but i was sooo panicky until she got the all clear!

Sarahneedle - that dodo fairy thing worked really well (well for us anyway) dd used to have a dummy all the time it hought it was going to be really hard, the first couple of days she kept asking for it but there were never any tears as we kept reminding her of her 'present' ds on the other hand, we just kept loosing them and never replaced them so we havent told him about the fairy lol

Dazi

This thread has made me :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

One thing I will say that is a lot of things that seem 'bad' now were just the norm 20 odd years ago

Always made up the days feed in the morning and stored in the fridge, everyone did it.

Disposable nappies were just coming in then, only to be used when you went out, then when you realised how easy they were yipeeeeeeeeee same with wipes. The disposable nappies were certainly more friendly to me, dunno about the environment, used to get terrible ezcema from dipping my hands in the napisan and also knackered my washing machine using a boil wash once a day.

Babies always slept on their fronts - we were told the most dangerous thing you could do was let a baby sleep on its back :rotfl:

Cot bumpers and duvets - well Mothercare sold them so they must have been ok!

Both mine had a bottle at night time forever. Think DS stopped his just before going to school, I didn't stop him as learnt my mistake with DD, when she was about 3 we were down to just the 1 bottle for her, in a fit of temper one morning I threw it out the bedroom window ( she had come in and asked for it to be filled) cue one stupid mummy in the garden with a torch at 10 at night looking for said bottle as DD had been screaming all evening and wouldn't go to sleep without it.

DD once drank aftershave, how I cursed 'Billy and his barrels' that taught her how to unscrew things.

DS had so many accidents that he was known by name at A & E. Once when he was about 10, ex OH and him were doing cricket practice and he kept his eye on the ball a little to literally, convo between me and exOH was, ambulance or are we taking him...decided we take him, Brighton or Eastbourne...decided on Eastbourne. DD's mate was there at the time and said, god, your mum and dad are hard, no says DD, they're just used to it :rotfl:

elmccw

mumOf2wonderfulkids wrote: »

oh health professionals are good at scarring people, i once took dd to the dr's for something (i forget the reason) the doc then listened to her heart and said

'' oh, she has a heart murmor'' never said anything else about it, by the time i got home i had completely freaked myself out about it. ended up going back up to see our regular dr (the bestest dr in the whole wide world, how dare she leave to have children!) who completely put me at ease and ordered lots of tests for her, she is absolutely fine and there is no sign of anything wrong, its just one of those things where she has an extra ''noise'' but i was sooo panicky until she got the all clear!

They are very good at scaring people at 2 weeks my DS2 was weighed and I was told she weighed less than her birth weight. She was BF and I nearly gave up. Went back the next day to be told their scales must have been wrong.

Bad Mummy because- I BF both my daughters for a very long time (don't ask) because I couldn't be a**ed to do a bottle. Used to co sleep because surprisingly a very young baby can find your breast if you sleep topless. Never have to wake up. However the shoulder pain you get from sleeping with a baby and instinctivly not moving is very painful. Also waking up and the baby's head smells of BO because she has been nestled in your armpit.

I am soooo bad. However they are 13 & 10, and now very healthy