The Bad Mummies Thread

mumOf2wonderfulkids

hey everyone, quick question, did you all attempt to breastfeed before switching to formula?

in that case i must be really bad as both mine went straight to FF *blush*

Jo.G

Can I join please? I have two DS aged 6 & 10.

I BF DS 1 for about 10 weeks but I was absolutely rubbish and over the Christmas period when he wasnt weighed he only gained a couple of ounces. When the HV told me to go home and do nothing but eat myself and BF my son, I went home and gave him formula. Purely selfish, I couldnt be a***d to sit there like a cow.

I BF DS 2 for 3 days, then decided it was too much like hard work especially as I had a 4yr and once again didnt want to sit and feed on and off for hours at a time.

I never considerd using real nappies, disposables all the way for me.

DS1 was weaned completely on jars because I didnt think I had time to do my own.

Both boys went into their own rooms (and big cots) at 6 weeks.

Both had dummies. My choice, not necessarily theirs!

I used to give them their dummy if I though it was too soon for a feed.

DS1 was a terrible sleeper. He woke me up that many times one night that I got him up and dressed at 5.30am and took him downstairs. He was about 2 1/2yrs at the time and when he started to fall alseep when GMTV News Hours came on I kept prodding him to wake him up as he had kept me awake all night and I had to go to work.

DS2 went on the naughty step pretty much from when he could sit up unaided!

I went back to work full time when DS1 was 4 months and DS2 was 3 months.

If my kids ask for chocolate I make them have a piece of fruit first. At work I spend all day eating chocolate.

I alternate from being obssesed with making sure they eat made-from-scratch no additive food to letting them have Maccy D's and Dominoes.

DS2 talks non stop. I often tell him its quiet time or play 'Lets see who can stay quiet the longest' especially in the car. Sometimes he asks so many questions my brain hurts.

I'm sure theres more I have forgotten.....

MrsTinks

Well nothing other than we're always told (especially by the government) that disposables are bad, landfill etc... and thus re-usables are good.

Time consuming, expensive and often impractical unless you're a stay at home mum and you're real good at keeping on top of you hosuework (which I ain't! and if any of you's are then to you!) - so we're bad because we're not perfect... kinda... sorta... in a tongue in cheek kinda way

peachyprice

niklepic wrote: »

Last weekend we told ds he couldn't go swimming because the pool was iced over cos they'd left the doors open.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
That is hilarious, I never would have thought to tell mine that.

PrincessPlaty

mumOf2wonderfulkids wrote: »

hey everyone, quick question, did you all attempt to breastfeed before switching to formula?

in that case i must be really bad as both mine went straight to FF *blush*

With DD1 i went straight for formula :eek:
DD2 i BF for the first 18ish hours :eek:
With DS im still BF now 4 weeks on but he has on average 4 bottles of formula a week :eek: real waste of money actually i ended up throwing 3 quarters of a box of formula away the other day! :rotfl:

happyfili

mumOf2wonderfulkids wrote: »

hey everyone, quick question, did you all attempt to breastfeed before switching to formula?

in that case i must be really bad as both mine went straight to FF *blush*

I did, I managed 6 days...my daughter was OK at first but then she spent day 5 and 6 constantly hungry and permanently attached to one of my nipples :eek: . And crying her little eyes out when she wasn't...I caved in, I admit it, got a lift to Tesco, bought some formula and bottles and job done...she was settled and asleep 10 minutes afterwards :rotfl:

If and when I do have any more little ones, I will definitely try breast-feeding again, but will make sure I have some formula on stand-by too;)

WASHER

I FF from birth with both of my children.
Both children were put into own room from 6 weeks (they slept through the night from them onwards, or atleast I did:D)
DD had a dummy from day one until aged 4.
Both wore pampers and used baby wipes, it never entered my head to use towelling nappies.
DD wore nappies until aged 3 1/2, and kind of toilet trained herself.
DS was eating a 1/4 jar baby food at 8 weeks, in order to get some peace, he would just cry constantly as he was very hungry.
I didn't listen at all to the HV, and I didn't take my children for any child development assessments. (I used to pretend I was out if I saw her walking up the drive)
Both children can eat as much treats as they like from the treat tin, once its gone its gone.
I have never bathe my children daily.
I know for a fact that my DS (11 years) doesn't change his pants everyday unless I nag him, and Ive stopped doing that.
I let my children decide bedtimes - in my defence DD (12) will go to bed at 9.15 and DS will go upstairs without being asked at 10.00.
Both my children have flat screens TVs, a laptop each, and a PS each in there room.
I drank whilst pregnant.
I certainly don't make an real effort to get my children to eat 5 a day, fruit is always available should they wish to take it.
My DS used to bring snails into the house and race them, I can't remember him washing his hands very often after touching them.
If my children want to go outside looking scruffy - its up to them, they have clean and ironed clothes in there wardrobe.
My DS school trousers are a wee bit half mast just now, but I'm holding out until Easter and then he can use them for the next school year too.
My DS regularly goes to school with Ketchup on his white polo top, I shove his sweater on so you can't see it.
I buy chocolate cereals.

Lotus-eater

See if this was a dad's thread, we'd all be going on about all the good things about BFing.
No bottles, OH doing all the work, some things getting larger, y'know, that sort of stuff.
There are some bad things as well. Leaks.... you just get used to the size, then they get smaller again (mostly)

Becles

I'm a bad Mam and I know this because have been slagged off many times by the holier than thou Mam's on here.

Charges:

I use wipes instead of cotton wool.

I started giving Charlotte a bottle of formula last thing at night when she was about 2 months old to make her sleep longer at night, as I wasn't coping well due to lack of sleep as she was waking frequently in the night to breastfeed.

She has been in her own room since birth and I don't have a baby monitor.

She went through a phase of wanting to sleep on her tummy, so I just let her get on with it.

I weaned her at 5 months as she seemed ready and sometimes I used jars.

I let her play in her dinner and sometimes she prefered to squash it in her hair than eat it, or put it in her ears, or share it with the dog.

I didn't bother sterilising bowls and spoons.

I didn't keep the dogs away and sometimes she chewed manky rubber bones and stuff that the dogs gave her when I wasn't looking.

I let her pick up worms and insects when we are out walking the dogs, and she's allowed to jump in muddy puddles on the field.

She knows we get meat and produce from animals and horrified my Mam when the cow field was empty by matter of factly saying they must have gone to be made in to beef burgers, and shocked a man in the supermarket when I checked some eggs and one had a feather stuck on and she giggled and announced that it must have come off the hen's bum.

I take her to McDonalds occasionally for a cheese burger as she loves them.

She has a big bag full of sweets that she got for Christmas and she is allowed some chocolate or sweets after our evening meal if she's been a good girl.

She is still in disposable nappies, even though she is 2 and 9 months as she doesn't seem ready for toilet training and I'm just letting her get on with it in her own time.

jillie1974

did i mention that we had to bring K to A&E cos i cut the top of his thumb while using nail clippers and it wouldnt stop bleeding........


i tried and tried to get K to b/feed, i had a wonderful MW at the hospital who really helped me but he wouldnt so ~I expressed for 6 days. then had to go to formula because of a change in meds meant that i couldnt do that.