Got pregnant by a married bloke

Welshwoofs

shell_542 wrote: »

It is very clear. The law is set that it doesn't matter how the woman falls pregnant, the biological father has to pay. End of. (The topic could be debated about whether he should have to pay, but that's one for the Discussion forum and of no help at all to the OP)

The advice I give the Op is to drop it as a subject if her lover used contraception because the problem is of her own making. She could have aborted.

If she persists in hammering him via the CSA for a child he didn't want (IF contraception was used, but failed) then I'm quite sure things will get nasty and she'll be ensuring more innocents are hurt.

Giving help does not always equal telling the poster exactly what they want to hear.

gordikin

Welshwoofs wrote: »

The advice I give the Op is to drop it as a subject if her lover used contraception because the problem is of her own making. She could have aborted.

If she persists in hammering him via the CSA for a child he didn't want (IF contraception was used, but failed) then I'm quite sure things will get nasty and she'll be ensuring more innocents are hurt.

Giving help does not always equal telling the poster exactly what they want to hear.

And if contraception failed..as it does as we all know and accept...what then...who pays the piper...the taxpayer perhaps?

worried09

Legally you can obviously go to he CSA, if I was in your situation, I wouldnt as it would have been my choice to bring a child into the world knowing full well the situation I was bringing them into and the opinions of the childs father. I wouldnt of been able to abort the child but would not of wanted any involvement from the father.

As others have said if this pregnancy was down to a failed condom then the father did all they could to prevent this pregnancy.

But in answer to your question of course you can regardless of what hes already given you.

shell_542

The OP wasn't asking whether she SHOULD pursue the father for child support though. She was asking if she DID, would they take into account the £10,000 he has already paid her.

SPANIEL36

£300 per week?? wow thats an expensive child lol


can i just ask, if he had a job that paid pittance ie minimum wage and had 2 or 3 kids with his wife or was even unemployed ...would you be still quick enough to want to go to the CSA???

shell_542

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DreamerV

I'm surprised at the number of people who think because he didn't want the baby, he doesn't have an obligation to pay. Did it ever cross your mind that maybe she didn't plan on having a baby by a married man either, but had to make the best of a bad situation. Maybe she couldn't bear abortion/adoption, and kept the baby knowing it was the right thing to do for the baby. How does that mean that the father should not pay? They are both equally responsible for creating the baby...the only reason she's more responsible for the baby existing now is because she didn't have an abortion. To be honest, although such a situuation could never happen to me, if it had of, I wouldn't have been able to abort either...but I would still expect contributions from the father. And if I was the father of the baby...I would have to do the right thing and be there for the child...as whether or not I wanted the child, the child is innocent and still needs its parents.

jamespir

DreamerV wrote: »

I'm surprised at the number of people who think because he didn't want the baby, he doesn't have an obligation to pay. Did it ever cross your mind that maybe she didn't plan on having a baby by a married man either, but had to make the best of a bad situation. Maybe she couldn't bear abortion/adoption, and kept the baby knowing it was the right thing to do for the baby. How does that mean that the father should not pay? They are both equally responsible for creating the baby...the only reason she's more responsible for the baby existing now is because she didn't have an abortion. To be honest, although such a situuation could never happen to me, if it had of, I wouldn't have been able to abort either...but I would still expect contributions from the father. And if I was the father of the baby...I would have to do the right thing and be there for the child...as whether or not I wanted the child, the child is innocent and still needs its parents.

i dont think he should becasue she had the baby through her volition he also gave her 10 grand so she had more than enough as i see if she wants more she should get a job that pays more

alwaysonthego_2

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