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Got pregnant by a married bloke
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This is a windup people.
It is to get the pot stirring of ''Why should a man have to pay for a child that he wanted aborted. If the woman brought it into this world against the wishes of the 'father' then she should raise it on her own''
It's a feeble attempt of trolling in order to cause yet another stir.
Ignore.
If it is then no one seems to be biting!
This is an all too common situation, I see no reason why people should not offer advice. Even if it does not benefit the OP, it may benefit someone who is too scared to post themselves.Gone ... or have I?0 -
Moral and legal issues differ.
Legally he is financially responsible and it is doubtful that the agreed lump sum could ever be considered in an application to the CSA.
Morally you refer to "we both brought this child into the world " yet you also state "he was dead against me proceeding with the pregnancy". Your opinions differ where he considers himself the biological father yet you want him to be a parent. You also say he is married and in a well paid job. Would you have made an application if his situation was different?
You are "entitled" to more but it is up to you if you morally pursue it given the circumstances.
Morally?! What are you on about.
If he really didn't want a child, he should have kept his trousers zipped. This guy obviously has no respect for his wife's emotional, physical or financial health let alone anyone else's. His is not the moral high ground!Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants - Michael Pollan
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Morally?! What are you on about.
If he really didn't want a child, he should have kept his trousers zipped. This guy obviously has no respect for his wife's emotional, physical or financial health let alone anyone else's. His is not the moral high ground!
I was not referring to the moral issues of an affair but child support. Due to the nature of this forum my comments were only about the latter.0 -
hey peeps just got in from work - thank you all for your advice and opinion i am much clearer in my what what to do, I can sleep better tonight0
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Welcome to MSE tabetha,
Does the father have any other children?
I don't know enough about child support to give you an answer, but I'm sure someone will be about in the daytime who knows more.
Try not to worry about what other people think - we've all messed up at some point. What matters is how you deal with it once it has happened, and you clearly want the best for your child. Good luck.0 -
Moral and legal issues differ.
Legally he is financially responsible and it is doubtful that the agreed lump sum could ever be considered in an application to the CSA.
Morally you refer to "we both brought this child into the world " yet you also state "he was dead against me proceeding with the pregnancy". Your opinions differ where he considers himself the biological father yet you want him to be a parent. You also say he is married and in a well paid job. Would you have made an application if his situation was different?
You are "entitled" to more but it is up to you if you morally pursue it given the circumstances.0 -
Thanks for that piece of advice0
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He gave you 10K 2 years ago, what on earth have you spent that on?????Tank fly boss walk jam nitty gritty...0
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I was not referring to the moral issues of an affair but child support. Due to the nature of this forum my comments were only about the latter.
So was I. He's earning a large enough income that we can assume he's intelligent enough to know how babies are made and he took the risk knowingly. He now has a moral as well as a legal responsibility to support the child that resulted from taking that risk.
OP, please ignore anyone who tries to imply that you're not morally entitled to support from the absent parent. Maintenance is for the benefit of the child not you and the behaviour that led to your child being conceived is irrelevant.Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants - Michael Pollan
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Low carb, low oxalate Primal + dairy
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