Weight Loss the Old Style Way! Part 7. Please read posts 1 and 2 before posting.

gratefulforhelp_2

Hugs, poor frogga one of my colleagues flipped his car right over on the ice this week. easily done, glad lady and babe are well, and you.

I for one am very happy for you to join us, you never know, you may get to like it! Remember you have Sundays off.

nuttywoman

JoJoB wrote: »

I'm sure you have lost weight nuttywoman, you seem to have been sticking to it lately.

Feeling low today. Had a guest last night and made some dinner, just a simple dhal and pilau rice. I went back for seconds and it got commented on, as well as uncomplimentary things said about how I was going to be the biggest mother in the playground. I'm so annoyed that I let it affect me but I got really upset and went to bed. It's just brought up all my insecurities about not being good enough, about being judged for my weight or looks etc. Now feel too insecure to step foot outside my front door. It's made worse by the fact that I'm skint and can't afford nice clothes or to get my hair done for a while. Even if I could afford a top or something it feels like a waste of time since on me it will just look sh$t. So now I feel like an old fat scruffy tramp with carp hair. I've got to go to a birthday party and I'm dreading it cos everyone will be dressed up and looking lovely except me.

And my friend who's having the party was going on about how one of our mutual friends had put on loads of weight while in rehab and was now "really really big". I bumped into said friend the other day and she just looked healthy, if anything still a tad underweight just less gaunt. She looked a size 10-12. Which inevitably made me think I must be seen as a massively obese whale in comparison. I feel like a total freak now and naturally thoughts of starving are surfacing, along with thoughts of massive bingeing.

Sorry, had to rant to people who understand!

aw ! loads of hugs to you jojoB
Out of interest what diet are you doing?

xxxx

JoJoB

Thanks frogga and suzid - good advice. Will accessorize. The hair situation I could disguise if it was just in need of a cut, but it's the 2 inch long dark roots that are really mucking everything up. I just don't like looking slovenly or like I don't care. It's at times like this I feel a bit jealous of our Bhurka wearing sisters.

Poor frogga - what a horrid week for you. Must have really shaken you up and glad the pregnant lady is alright. It was very snowy/icy where we were too and the road was full of cars stuck on the pavement at odd angles.

JoJoB

nuttywoman wrote: »

aw ! loads of hugs to you jojoB
Out of interest what diet are you doing?

xxxx

I'm just trying to keep to between 1200 and 1500 calories a day, it's very haphazard at the moment though.

Alipot

JoJoB wrote: »

I'm sure you have lost weight nuttywoman, you seem to have been sticking to it lately.

Feeling low today. Had a guest last night and made some dinner, just a simple dhal and pilau rice. I went back for seconds and it got commented on, as well as uncomplimentary things said about how I was going to be the biggest mother in the playground. I'm so annoyed that I let it affect me but I got really upset and went to bed. It's just brought up all my insecurities about not being good enough, about being judged for my weight or looks etc. Now feel too insecure to step foot outside my front door. It's made worse by the fact that I'm skint and can't afford nice clothes or to get my hair done for a while. Even if I could afford a top or something it feels like a waste of time since on me it will just look sh$t. So now I feel like an old fat scruffy tramp with carp hair. I've got to go to a birthday party and I'm dreading it cos everyone will be dressed up and looking lovely except me.

And my friend who's having the party was going on about how one of our mutual friends had put on loads of weight while in rehab and was now "really really big". I bumped into said friend the other day and she just looked healthy, if anything still a tad underweight just less gaunt. She looked a size 10-12. Which inevitably made me think I must be seen as a massively obese whale in comparison. I feel like a total freak now and naturally thoughts of starving are surfacing, along with thoughts of massive bingeing.

Sorry, had to rant to people who understand!

Hi JoJoB
This is my first look at this thread (I'm a bit of a lurker on the forum) but I had to send you a response after reading your post. It probably won't make you feel any better - if only it was that simple! but I needed to say:

Firstly I know how you feel - I've been there many times with the 'fat scruffy tramp with carp hair' feelings, then on better days I can think no I'm not I'm ME and if I don't fall into the skinny model category SO WHAT (that doesn't help the down days much though) but it means you are not alone

Secondly your 'guest' for dinner is clearly not a friend at all so I wouldn't invite her again (I'm assuming it was a woman) she is simply RUDE (which is not acceptable) and I'm sure her life is not perfect. People who are cruel like that are either just naturally horrible people who quite frankly you don't need in your life or they are cruel because they are jealous / secretly insecure themselves

If you are able to cheer up, have a nice bath, pamper yourself a bit go to the party and don't worry about what other's think - if you are feeling really low and it isn't going to help you - don't go. Your life should be about what you want to do not what others expect!

I hope this helps in some way although I know it's not easy to cheer up when you are really down but please remember a lot of us have been there on many mnay times and you are not the only one

taplady

morning all!

(((hugs))) to frogga and JoJo

my eating hasn't been the best either - stress has that effect on me - I just crave carp. Have got various worries at home the moment and I really dont give a dam so to speak about dieting:D half a box of dairy box last night left me feeling sick(after a slice of cake). I'll try and get back on track tomorrow.

hope you all have a nice Sunday x

kraftykat

JoJoB, some people are just soooo rude :mad: Maybe you should have replied "At least I can change my weight, pity you can't do that with your face!"

frogga, I'm glad you and everyone else were ok . Cars can be replaced frogs can't. I'm sure you were very shaken up though.

taplady, at least you stopped at half a box of chocs and tomorrow is a new day.

Drank lots of wine last night, but I didn't have any crisps :j. Tonight we're having a chinese takeaway. DH has gone to get new tyres on his car.....he's bringing a swiss roll back with him which I intend to enjoy as I think I've been quite good all week

nicki_2

I'm trying to make the effort but I just can't be bothered ATM. I think its because Aunt Flo is due next week :mad: DD is also hormonal I'm sure of it (she's only 8 :eek: ) as everything is upsetting her and she wants to be "left alone *slammed door*" So I gave her a mug of hot chocolate, a slice of cake & her Nintendo DS and she calmed right down :rotfl: If she ends up with a similar cycle to me I'll have to post a warning in the window so no-one knocks otherwise they'll be lynched :eek::rotfl::rotfl:

Anyways, I've just made a mushroom soup from scratch and had it with a slice of "Extra Special Seeded Farmhouse" bread :drool: Very filling, and a huge pan of it still sitting on the cooker cooling ready to fridge (for tomorrows lunch) and freeze (for later) :j The whole pan only came to 164Kcals so I'm delighted as DD won't have it so its all mine ;)

Now I'm off to burn some calories cleaning house. Might even go on the wii later

miss_cupcake_2

Just popping by to give a wee hug to all those who are struggling at the moment And after this weekend's OTT indulgences, I'm including myself in that catagory. Sometimes, infact most of the time, life needs to become before dieting and the best we can do is just keep trying. Tomorrow is a new day, a new week infact, so I will climb back onto the wagon then. Happy Valentines Day everyone

JoJoB

Get well soon completelylost.

Thanks for all the kind words everyone - it was actually an older man who upset me, probably thought it was a jokey bit of banter! He totally didn't seem to realise he'd said anything wrong lol. And after I posted yesterday I found he had left me a box of after eight mints which just shows how mad he is. :cool:

I'm going to baby yoga this morning so that's something positive to start the day with. I've had one weetabix with skim milk and raisons for breakfast but not decided lunch or dinner yet.

Have a good day everyone!