Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

Souk08

Hi Zar Zar, this thread is fab isn't it. I USED to be a shopaholic and buy tons of expensive clothes on credit. I don't now as money is tight and I'd rather have a social life but I like reading this to live vicariously!

Re not taking lunch to work: it's your call but at £3 a day that's £15 every working week or £60 a month or £720 a year. Just think what you could buy with that... X

NGlady

ZarZar yes I live around 30 minutes in a car from Nottingham, an hour on the bus lol. The North of Notts

Little_Chicken

Morning all...today I am 'unsubscribing' from all of the fashion websites that I buy from...farewell Mywardrobe, net-a-porter, koodos, origins, hobbs, amazon, brandalley, cocosa, et al....see you in the next lifetime.

I've been putting it off, but my jobless status has inspired me.

CompletelyLost

Welcome to the thread, zarzar You sound motivated, so good luck to you. What kind of cr*p do you buy? For a lot of us it seems to be clothes/toiletries/books.

I've decided I'm not going to post so much when I veer off course. I just feel stupid when I read it back... Maybe it's best just to concentrate on successes - I don't want people to think that I'm not trying.

Today is going to be dedicated to doing all the things I've been putting off for weeks. Which means hoovering/dusting, changing beds, posting parcels, paying in cheques, returning things, etc.

CompletelyLost

debtdesperado wrote: »

Hi Zar!:j

I used to do this too... waste a bit here and there, always thinking, I can't afford a pair of shoes, so instead I'll treat myself to a lipstick etc. My debt at LBM was £42k... basically spent on clothes, makeup, magazines, wine, food etc.

Or as I like to think about it now, a 25% deposit for my flat, or two brand new cars, or 4 Chanel couture evening dresses, or 4 weeks including first class flights on Richard Branson's Necker Island or have as much plastic surgery as Jordan (not quite so appealing :rotfl:) or 84 pairs of Christian Louboutin shoes...:eek:

I always thought I couldn't afford any of them, but I managed to spend the same amount £10 here or £5 there....so really, I could have had any of the above.:(

I read this last night and it really does put all those little spends into perspective when you think of it like that

verynewmoneysaver

I think I'll be having another non-spend day as I'm still not feeling very well. Used to dropping my son off at college in the mornings then going for a coffee and look around the shops, about once or twice a week. I'm going to do this just once a week at the most now. Makes you think this thread doesn't it. Any of us could lose our jobs at any time and then where would we be. Hope you are okay salesaddict. You haven't posted for a while. Suppose you have more important things to think about than shopping at the moment.

Anglea

CompletelyLost wrote: »

I've decided I'm not going to post so much when I veer off course. I just feel stupid when I read it back... Maybe it's best just to concentrate on successes - I don't want people to think that I'm not trying.

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I think that you should continue writing whatever happens because giving in to our cravings is part of the whole experience of shopping impulsively - the whole point of this thread.

Otherwise if we only listed our successes, I imagine a lot of people wouldn't be posting at all!

ZarZar1990

Yeah SOUK8, when you put it like '£60 per month' it sounds really bad, and wasteful, especially since I'm moving out soon and will be buying groceries, and coping on a part time wage, I definitely can't afford that £60 per month on top of my bills, rent, groceries and diesel!

Well, I got a next subscription, so I bought loads of clothes from there, if me and my friend were going on a night out we'd just 'buy it from next' meaning we'd get it on next credit.

I also buy DVDs, books, make-up, magazines, gum, accessory jewelry (which I then don't look after properly because I just wear it on a night out), food as well is a big one, like, little snacks, bottles of pop etc, I've tamed myself a lot since I joined MSE, but I think this thread could be the extra push I need, because although I got out of my next debt, and I was accepted for a littlewoods account, I managed to stop myself getting in debt with littlewoods too, because I would have been in a right pickle then hahaha.

debtdesperado

Hi CompletelyLost ...I agree with not posting up all the times you veer off course. You certainly don't sound stupid, but I have found what helps is changes my internal dialogue from being really hard on myself ("you're so stupid, why did you do that when yesterday you decided that you would never eat any chocolate/wine/spend money etc again" etc) to being much kinder - talking to myself in the way I would talk to a friend if she was having the same problem. It really makes a difference and I have found the way I behave becomes less impulsive and less all or nothing too. So be nice to yourself - you're not a bad person (and you sound really lovely from your posts!)!

eatandspendaholic

ZarZar1990 wrote: »

Yeah SOUK8, when you put it like '£60 per month' it sounds really bad, and wasteful, especially since I'm moving out soon and will be buying groceries, and coping on a part time wage, I definitely can't afford that £60 per month on top of my bills, rent, groceries and diesel!

Well, I got a next subscription, so I bought loads of clothes from there, if me and my friend were going on a night out we'd just 'buy it from next' meaning we'd get it on next credit.

I also buy DVDs, books, make-up, magazines, gum, accessory jewelry (which I then don't look after properly because I just wear it on a night out), food as well is a big one, like, little snacks, bottles of pop etc, I've tamed myself a lot since I joined MSE, but I think this thread could be the extra push I need, because although I got out of my next debt, and I was accepted for a littlewoods account, I managed to stop myself getting in debt with littlewoods too, because I would have been in a right pickle then hahaha.

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