Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

Anglea

Hi

ZZ - good luck on your NSD
Flickering Ember hi

I can empathise on first class living side of things, that used to be me. Did you do it to feel better about yourself and create an impression?

That's why I did it. After I married and moved to Little Britain territory I felt invisible and whatever I tried to do never seemed to get any attention so used to talk about what I was buying and doing. Usually paying for other people too.

ThinkingOfLinking

Anglea, no, I just like nice things. I like big comfy beds, big posh baths with toiletries, smart room facilities in general and I love special food like scallops, fillet steak, etc and I still do. I haven't even cut back...I go the same amount as before but I use cashback sites, codes, lastminute sites etc and vouchercloud etc.

velocity.girl_2

hello ladies and welcome eatandspendaholic & Flickering ember...!

Today SHOULD of been a NSD but i picked my youngest up from Toddlers today(i don't usually in laws do) and we ended up going via the shops... We WERE going to go to the library but i forgot:mad: that it's shut on Weds... So i went in the charity shop and brought myself 2 books and a shirt and the kids some shorts,skirt, book and a toy..£8.

Then into the newsagents and 2 magazine, 2 comics and a pack of sweets...another £8.

then bus home which was £1.20 (short hop) IF i stayed in i wouldn't of spent ANYTHING! i'm listing my life on various listing sites...Bloke is going to go on ebay for me tonight-on my account and list tons of stuff, he won't let me near it:A he's a superstar.

ANYWAY, the rest of the week will be NSD as i've got my credit card payment coming out on the 18th and i pay all of it off each month...£119 this month, so not too bad...used for birthdays etc...

then next weds i'm clearing off the rest of my next account...i won't close it though...just use it more sensibly, as i don't buy stuff for me...but for the kids and you never know when they might need something.:eek:

I'm tired today with a cough and a sore throat and a headache...not been drinking tho, only one glass of wine last night...i feel rough...

Hope you are all ok? x

verynewmoneysaver

Sometimes I feel I'm taking one step forward and two steps back but I think reading other people's experience really helps. My birthday M&S dress came and I like it, even though I'll have to wear the old magic pants with it to pull my tummy in. Don't like the bag so will be taking that back.

ZarZar1990

Right guys, I've come up with a plan of attack!
I'm going to walk down to work today, to save diesel, I'm going to nip into sainsburys on the way home, to pick up stuff for packed lunches, so that I can make sure I don't buy dinner at the weekend.
Cupasoups, tuna, and some cheapy crisps.
The walking will also give me exercise which I desperately need, because I'm feeling podged at the moment!
The only downside to this plan, is that I'll have to wait until tomorrow to get any boxes to start my packing/stock check etc, but all in all I think it's a decent plan, I may regret it later when I've finished work, but ah well.

CompletelyLost

Afternoon,

I've just got in. I think I did ok. I have...

• posted all my ebay parcels and bw swaps
• paid in cheques
• went into the charity shop and saw a gorgeous purple dress... it was £7 though and it had a rip at the neck, so put it back. I pointed it out to the lady in the hope she'd maybe reduce it, but she didn't. I know that sounds bad when it's for charity, but I'm not going to pay £7 for a second hand ripped dress. Do you think I was stingy? :S
• came back to find I'd sold another item
• sewed up the sleeve on one of my jumpers so it looks good as new.
  
• spent £1 on a conditioner that I needed.
  

I don't know why I felt the need to mess with the font colours... *weirdo*

I'm going to list a couple more items on flea'bay (hah - glad you approve of its new nickname, velocity.girl... it's true though!) tonight and package up the item I sold this afternoon.

Also started using my new bag today instead of leaving it festering in a carrier bag, and got two comments on it I really like it, I bought it the other day when I was out with my mum for £10.80 - one of the more useful/necessary things that I bought.

eatandspendaholic

Hiya All, I am realy enjoyinG, reading through all of this thread. Well done you all. I have been so engrossed in this site today (just found it) I have had a NSD without trying :rotfl:how funny is that.

Thankyou

ladygea2001

Glad i read this post. On Monday this week I decided no more wasting money on clothes I never wear. Come Tuesday and today Ive bought four pairs of shoes and a top - huh? Was feeling really low and upset and know I dont need them

I understand how you feel - Ive got tons of clothes with tags on and impulse buys.

When i am in control, i leave my card at home and draw out cash only with a bit extra in case of emergency (e.g car breaks down and need taxi/bus home).

I also keep spreadsheet - after realising what I spend I return most of it back to the shops before the return date is up. You get the thrill of shopping then but returning it feels even better seeing the money come back.

Anglea

Hi all

I've had a 'feeling desperate' day due to an email which has put me into a very bad mood so I went up the shops, couldn't find anything my size or colour to buy so ended up buying a large cake. I just ate it and it was stale!

I can'tremember if I mentioned his or not, but about a month ago a girl got in touch with me I hadn't seen or heard from since we were kids and lives overseas and told me she was going to visit me. She implied it was a 'once in a lifetime' sort of thing and I was still in shock when she phoned and said it was ok. Well since then, I've had non stop emails all about her family and her life and I've realised I'm completely uninterested in any of it, nor do I want to reconnect after so long so in the end I stopped replying as it was too much. Now she's sent travel details and asking if she can visit. I don't want to see her but have all this guilt about telling her.

I was so wound up today that I nearly stepped in front of a car! I've realised that even if I was to go ahead with the visit, she will believe that I 'm interested and keep emailing and I really don't want that so I know that being truthful is the only thing to do. Hard though.

Completelylost, I don't know how charity shops have the nerve to sell torn or dirty clothes - yet they do.

CompletelyLost

Anglea I would just be honest about it, rather than making up excuses or anything like that. Though I can imagine it will be a little awkward for you - I know I'd feel exactly the same as you if someone was doing the same to me.

I agree about chairty shops. I wouldn't mind if it was £3 max, as it could easily be sewn. It just makes me angry that they're charging £7 for it in the state that it's in. It's really lovely but I didn't buy it out of principle. And now I feel guilty as I know the money is for charity:S