OS Daily Sun 31st January

smokybabe

anguk - when my Eric was on life support the staff told me that he may still have been able to hear me as 'the hearing is the last thing to go'. I found this tremendously comforting at the time. It also helped me to be there and see first hand how good his carers were and afterwards I knew that they had done everything they possibly could for him. The memories I have now are the happy times we had and they far override the other memories. It was a rough ride at the time but I am glad that I was there with him.

You must however do what is right for you - I just wanted to pass on my experience to you.

I hope this helps and I am wishing with all my heart that his condition improves. xxxx

NoahsPennilessMummy

It makes total sense.
you have to go with your gut feeling and do what you want for your own reasons.....only you know what you can deal with and how you are feeling.
I am a palliative care nurse and many relatives I have known have not wanted to be with their loved ones when they were really ill as they didnt want that to be their lasting memory.
I felt exactly the same when my gran died.....I saw her when she was very ill in hosp and that wasnt my gran, when I think about her now that is not how I picture her as it didnt even look like her.
You do things the way you want to, no one is judging you on here and we are all there for you xx

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Anguk You must do what you think is best for you both.When my lovely husband Alan lost his fight he had been in hospital for just over a day, and I stayed with him along with our two DDs. He was surrounded by the ones who loved him the most, and we sat and 'talked 'to him all the time even though he too was on life support.My youngest DD had to go home for a short while to see her small children, and the nurse kindly said to my eldest 'I'll find you a bed so you can have an hour's rest, then after she had her hour I too had an hour to build up our strength for wht we knew was going to happen .
Although he was in a coma, they nurses were wonderful, and also said that his hearing was o.k. and that he could hear what we were saying. Sadly after 26 hours his poor heart which was as big as Texas gave up the struggle and he slipped away from us and left a huge hole in our lives that we have been trying to fill for nearly 7 years .I wouldn't have missed being there for him as I know if it was the other way around he would have been there for me as well. But its such a personal thing and is dependant on the individual.
I held his hand, and told him how much we all loved him and would never forget him. Please don't think you are alone, as there are so many folk on here that will always listen if things go bad and will also be sending you hugs and prayers for things to turn out well. I shall remember you and your family when I have my nightly chat to the big guy upstairs tonight.
God bless you dear, and I hope things turn out well, pm me if you ever need any support. I will always answer, as its at times such as these that the 'virual friends' that you have will always be ther to hold your hand and help if they can
JackieO xx

Bitsy_Beans

Ang - Hugs to you and your family. Please don't feel bad about posting on here - we're all here to support you as much as we can. Please keep us updated xx

NPM - thanks for copying the CD's for me - you're a star xx Like you say I am going with the path of least resistance with DS (bit like lava flow LOL). Its not worth the hysteria and noise TBH. It's bad enough that he's affecting me and H but don't was DD to be affected more than she needs to be.

remmie

Hi everyone

Just popped in for a quick read of todays posts.

Anguk, couldn't read and run without saying that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, I really hope that everything works out OK for all of you.

mrsmortenharket

(((anguk))) I am useless with words. Lots of love to you & your family at this time

xxx

VickyA_2

Just popped on to see what you're all up to and to say massive (((hugs))) to anguk. You and your OH are in my thoughts.

x

MancMillyMolly

Anguk I'm sure I cannot even begin to comprehend what you and your family must be going through right now, but I just wanted to offer my support and say that nobody could possibly judge you in a situation such as this. And as some of the others have said, only you will know what ultimately feels right to do.

((((((((Big hugs))))))))

MMM

lil_me

Hellooooo not popped in for a while as been incredibly busy, to the point of driving me dotty instead of keeping me going (I like busy but chaotic isn't good) Hope you are all well x

anguk what an awful situation, I think I can guess which hospital he is in as I've been in myself, I will say that I found them to be amazing and I really hope he pulls through. You have to do what feels right for you. You know he's not alone, I am sure he will understand your reasons for not going too. Follow your heart and never let your head tell you it was right or wrong and you will be fine. There is no right or wrong in these situations, there never will be. Thinking of you all x

Been working on getting the house pulled together better today, have blasted through cleaning, unpacking, we moved in Sept/Oct but still unpacking some boxes moved with us twice now so not as bad as it seems....for a change instead of looking & thinking what have I got done I am pleased with it....so it must be a lot better. DP is away, I've bundled his stuff into a large pile and he might be a little shocked when he gets back.

Tea will be the last left over meats from Christmas, we have beef and cola ham left. I nearly bought ready made puds & roasties but DS1 stopped me said 'I want yours' it's nice that they prefer my cooking I must be improving as there was a time he wouldn't have them. Going to make some packed lunch snacks, maybe some brownies with raisins in as I've been buying most of the contents recently. Oh I will have to clean the kitchen while I am in there, told the flyladies I was going to do it then came in here.....ooops

Right, best go, hope you all have a nice evening x

floss2

Anguk - Huge hugs to you.

Bitsy - I second Taplady & Redruby, I've had a Mirena for almost 2 years and my visits from the decorators have all but ceased . It was uncomfortable having it "fitted", like bad cramps, but then again, I'd had Depo jabs for years and had forgotten what period pains felt like!