OS Daily Sun 31st January

bargainbird

Afternoon

Welcome Newbies

Diva - Hope your ok x
Bitsy - Hope you get some kip
csarina - Good luck tomorrow x
Hester - You are most welcome

Had a bottle of rose last night very nice it was too only 3.79 from Lidl i would highly reccomend it ...so sluggish start to the day..:o

Bedding starched :cool:, new duvet and pillows can't wait for bed now .

Brisket in SC for Tea with Roasties, carrots/swede mashed, brussels, and a huge yorkshire pud . Need to make a fruit cake and flappyjacks but CBA, so they'll have to wait .

Better keep moving xx

anguk

Afternoon all.

I don't often post and to be honest Old Style is out of the window at the moment but I just need something to keep my mind occupied so I don't think too much.

My OH is critically ill in intensive care. He started to feel poorly Monday before last and he spent Tuesday sleeping and being sick with a high temperature, we thought it was just a virus as it's that time of year. He was no better on Wednesday so the GP came out & admitted him to hospital (he has kidney failure & diabetes so didn't want to wait). The hospital didn't have a clue what was wrong with him even after scans & x-rays, his bloods were showing he had an infection but they didn't know the source.

He felt better over the weekend but started to have stomach pain on Monday which got worse over the next few days. He felt a bit better on Thursday and the doctors suspected it was something to do with his gallbladder so they sent him for a CT scan, an hour later the surgeon rang me. They'd finally found out, after he'd been ill for 10 days and in hospital for 8, that his appendix had burst!

They were going to operate that night but were worried because he's high risk so decided to wait until the next day when they'd have a full surgical team available. He had dialysis on Friday morning in preparation for the op then they spent the rest of the day trying to decide whether to operate there or transfer him to a different hospital that had better renal facilities. They transferred him about 8pm and he was in theatre within about an hour of arriving at the other hospital.

He's been on life support ever since and we have to face the fact it isn't looking good. My son has travelled up from London and I don't know what I'd do without him. I really don't know what to do with myself, I feel bad because I haven't been to see him but he was in a good, jokey mood when I went with him to theatre so I don't want to see him on life support but I don't know if that's wrong?

Sorry for the long post and sorry if it's in the wrong place but I feel better writing it down and telling someone who isn't involved if you know what I mean? In situations like this you feel you have to be strong for everyone else, especially my 16yr old DD who has always been a daddies girl.

Thanks for listening and sorry if I've put a downer on the thread.

jackieglasgow

Hugs to you anguk. This is NEVER the wrong thread to post on. You will always get hugs and support from us here. Lots of the regular, and some of the newer posters have been through some very hard times, and always get words of help and love from the rest of us. Those of us who pray, will do so for you, your OH and your family, and the rest of us who dont, will be thinking or you, and hope that things with your OH do get better, Fell free to post at anytime, one of us is always lurking, and you'll get whatever help or support you want. Take Care XX

ETA there is no right or wrong in this situation, but if the worst were to happen, and you lost him, how would you feel. One of "our girls" lost her husband last year unexpectedly, I'm sure she would give everything to have said her last goodbyes.

NoahsPennilessMummy

Anguk sorry to hear your news......hugs and thoughts to you all.
I know it is a horrible thing to face but do you think you should go and see him? It is going to be awfully emotional but the ITU staff will be very understanding and supportive. Of course that is your decision though hon. I would just hate anything to happen and you hadn`t had the chance to be there:o
My thoughts are with you and I hope he makes a full recovery. xx

taplady

anguk - (((Hugs))) dont worry about posting here, I've always found everyone to be most supportive in difficult times. I'm so sorry to read about your DH - I do hope that you get some good news soon. we're all behind you so just post as and when you feel the need. Please look after yourself x x x

Molly41

Oh Anguk Im so sorry that you are having such a difficult time. There is no right or wrong way to deal with this situation. Hugs and prayers xx

taplady

redruby wrote: »

OH is just making me a bacon and egg sandwich :T, we have a happy chook for dinner which I will do with roasties, cabbage, carrots and cauli, will do it for tea time as dd is off out with her dad, will do her a veggie pie to go with hers.

I dont think your chook is happy now:D:rotfl:

lisa26_2

Hugs from me too, what a terrible time you must be having.

I'm only an occasional poster but I'm feeling very OS today! I'm back to work on 12 hour shifts tomorrow so I've had a morning in the kitchen trying to get prepared!! I've done some pickled red cabbage which OH is disgusted he has to wait so long to eat!! I have a piece of gammon in the slow cooker which I will slice, freeze half for next week and use the other half for pack-ups for work. I'm going to use the stock to make pea and ham soup. I also have a batch of bread rolls rising and a batch of yogurt busy doing its thing in my easi-yo.

For breakfast today I had a homemade crumpet from the freezer, lunch was red lentil & veg soup and homemade bread, both from the freezer and for tea I am using some bolognese from the freezer to make a pasta bake that I will serve with salad and some of the rolls I am making. Yummy!!!

anguk

NoahsPennilessMummy wrote: »

Anguk sorry to hear your news......hugs and thoughts to you all.
I know it is a horrible thing to face but do you think you should go and see him? It is going to be awfully emotional but the ITU staff will be very understanding and supportive. Of course that is your decision though hon. I would just hate anything to happen and you hadn`t had the chance to be there:o
My thoughts are with you and I hope he makes a full recovery. xx

Thanks.

I feel so torn about going to ITU, I'm not worried about what I'll see but I am worried that if the worst does happen that will be my final memory of him. When I last saw him on Friday night he was smiling and joking with me just like he always does, I'd had to remove his undies when we put his theatre gown on and he made one of his usual smutty remarks. He'd had morphine so the pain had subsided and he was just like his normal self. I'm worried that if I see him now he won't be like my Martyn. Does that make any sense or is it really selfish of me? I really don't know what to do so I'm just sort of going with my gut feeling.

My son, sister-in-law, niece and friend are with him now so he isn't on his own.

jackieglasgow

Of course it makes sense. I don't know if I would want my OH's last memory of me to be in pain etc. either., Or mine of him. But really it doesn't have to make sense to anyone but you. I hope my previous post didn't suggest otherwise.