Miscarriage support

ttc39

Hugs to betty, rosie and anyone else that needs them xx

Afm, Af is here properly now.. was a weird temporary bleed sunday that stopped as quick as it started.. and negative tests.. but now af is here. Glad really as I want a proper cycle to have a go on , iykwim.

rosie - how are you feeling towards oh now? has his crying made you think differently? xx

claire16c

Hugs Betty sounds like a carp day xx

claire16c

s0237276 wrote: »

Hi,
Bit of background....came off the pill at the end of August and fell pregnant on my first cycle. Tuesday I had a mc at about 6 weeks. All feels like a lot to take in at the moment...had only just got over the idea of ttc then getting pregnant then this.... Did you all try again straight away or did you wait a bit? The midwife said that often after a mc ppl are more fertile.
Any advice on how to stay positive?

I personally think the more fertile thing is a load of rubbish as it doesn't really make much sense, I think all it is it that you don't know when you'll next ovulate so people perhaps get pregnant by accident & then would be claiming oh goodness I'm already pregnant type thing.

We started trying ASAP. My aim was to get pregnant by the due date. Which we kind of managed as I conceived 1 day after so I was technically 2 weeks pregnant then just didn't know of course it had worked. Those months waiting were really hard. It's still hard now although I'm extremely grateful to be pregnant again.

samtoby

s0237275 - I tried straight away after my missed miscarriage at 9 weeks (found out at my 12 week scan). I never thought for a moment I would fall straight away and whilst I was told I could try as soon as I wanted falling quickly has not taken away the pain of my loss.

I did not take any time off work apart from my op day and I shouldn't have done that. I know that now as I have just gone back after two weeks off work. I was physically tired and falling straight away after my mmc has really taken it out of my body. And if that wasn't enough I am absolutly petrified that I am going to experience the same thing whilst trying to remain positive.

I think I wish I had taken the two weeks they offered me off work after the mmc and taken that time to work though my emotions. With that in mind though the only way I got through everything was chucking myself back into work and just getting on with it. I would have crumbled but would that have been better? I just don't know but maybe I would not have been so poorly.

You know in your heart when you are ready I believe. All I wanted when I walked from the scan room was to be back and it all be ok. But the mere thought of having to re-visit that room turns my stomach and I literally want to break down. I don't think a loss of a baby (and it is a baby whether its 4 weeks or 40 weeks) will ever leave you and each of us deal with the emotions very differently but ultimatly its something you would not wish on your worst enemy.

Sweaty betty - What a tough time. I do hope you have a nice weekend with your family

samtoby

Rosie_78 - do hope things improve for you. What a journey you are on.

xx

BadlyWrittenPoem

claire16c wrote: »

I personally think the more fertile thing is a load of rubbish as it doesn't really make much sense, I think all it is it that you don't know when you'll next ovulate so people perhaps get pregnant by accident & then would be claiming oh goodness I'm already pregnant type thing.

I agree - I ovulated much sooner after the first than everything I read said that you do so whilst we were TTC anyway I probably would have ended up pregnant accidentally if we hadn't been.

Lara44

s0237276 - so sorry that you've gone through this horrible experience. How are you feeling? I found the chat here so helpful, before I joined this thread I felt so lonely. If you feel like sharing, do! Huge hugs, I'm sure you feel shell shocked with the speed of everything that's happened.

I felt bad so took things slowly, and took time off as Sam suggested. We just started ttcing this cycle after mc in July. (Actually I posted some news about that in the other thread ). There's no right or wrong answer as others have said, just whatever you feel yourselves.

Tealover ((((Huge hugs))))

Betty I'm so sorry that must have been a really difficult conversation with your friends. I hope you have a fab time holidaying.

Rosie, sorry to hear you're having a rough time. Maybe it's good your OH knows that some of his behaviour is not okay? I am glad you are getting support from the Samaritans. Hope your AF goes back to normal.

TTC glad you can get on with trying this cycle xxx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Big hugs to everyone, it seems like we all need one!!

Claire I'm so pleased you got to hear the heartbeat.

Samtoby good luck for tomorrow.

Hi s0237276. Sorry you are here with us. It's still very early days for you and you will go through lots of different emotions yet I'm afraid. The decision on when you ttc again has to be a personal one I think. My second mc dragged on physically for 3 months and in the meantime other things happened which meant DH and I decided not to try again for a while. For that reason I wasn't pregnant when the due date came around, and I found that very hard to deal with on the day.

tealover I'm so sorry to hear you feel that way. I hope you get some kind of miracle Xx

Rosie I hope things work out in your relationship however you wish them to. Re AF, I'm a couple of weeks ahead of you in terms of mc date and I still haven't had AF yet either.

Betty I understand completely. I've never seen so many sets of twins since I lost mine. We were out shopping the other day and saw 3 sets! I thought they were rare yet they seem to be everywhere I look now. It's devastating. I hope you have a lovely weekend away Xx

ttc glad you are ok about AF. Hope you have a lovely weekend too.

msb just wanted to say hi, and thanks for posting Xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Yay Lara, so pleased for you Xx

samtoby

Thanks PLMBL xx