Miscarriage support

sweaty_betty

Tea - I'm so sorry, that is rubbish . I'm guessing it's nhs? (They'd soon go out of business if a private hospital did that). I don't want to moan about the nhs because we're lucky to have it, but these situations are so frustrating.
It sounds like you're at the end of your tether - can you take any time off? Get some space?

tea_lover

It's actually private! Well, it does both and last cycle we were NHS but we're now private.... the service is no better though :mad:.

Am now looking for other options but the nearest looks to be best part of an hour away which just seems impractical as I work f/t. I know from last time just how many times you need to be over there.

I don't have any leave left for this year, but am seriously contemplating a few days off sick.

Just had a massive sausage roll though so that's cheered me up a bit .

Lara44

Aww Tea it's the little things that mean so much sometimes. It must feel like everyone is so casual about something that is so so important and precious to you. I'm so sorry that the hospital did that, it's really out if order. Are you waiting to hear from the hospital with a new date? I really hope so. If you had any contact details it might be worth writing a message to the co-ordinator letting them know you're gutted about the late cancellation and really keen to schedule a new appointment? Big huge hugs. If you've got any leave maybe you should take a day off and pamper yourself.

Betty I hope the Memorial Day and the sands meetings are helpful. I am sure it is bring all those emotions out. Huge hugs to you xxx

sweaty_betty

tea_lover wrote: »

It's actually private! Well, it does both and last cycle we were NHS but we're now private.... the service is no better though :mad:.

Am now looking for other options but the nearest looks to be best part of an hour away which just seems impractical as I work f/t. I know from last time just how many times you need to be over there.

I don't have any leave left for this year, but am seriously contemplating a few days off sick.

Just had a massive sausage roll though so that's cheered me up a bit .

That's shocking! It must be hard to make the decision on where to go for IVF. Someone was telling me that they went to the Czech Republic to a clinic which specialised in IVF for the over-40s and which had really good success rates - and the total cost, including airfares, was about the same as here. It worked the second time for them.

Really hope your hospital sort themselves out (or you find somewhere better) and in the meantime I'm sure a few days off would really help.

please-let-me-be-lucky

Betty, I hope the meeting tonight was helpful. Tea Lover hugs for a crappy day/cancelled appointments Xx

ttc39

Big hugs to all

Rosie hope you get some advice today xx glad you realise oh is controlling ... Are you wanting to get out of the relationship Hun? Xx

ttc39

Rosie I've felt bad while at work today, I really had no right to ask you that question :-( apologies , but it's just you do sound like you could do with someone better than him :-(

Think it may be user called tayforth who posts on these forums who has come out the other side from a controlling relationship... Might be worth a read. But whatever you do please know we are here for you, xx

Air_Cooled_75

Hello ladies, hope you're all bearing up.

So, we finally have an appointment at the hospital next week (only because I rang the bereavement mw again). I'm wondering, is it worth airing my 'grievances' here or is it purely to talk about what happened/will happen (if I get pregnant again)?

Thanks x

BadlyWrittenPoem

Air_Cooled_75 wrote: »

So, we finally have an appointment at the hospital next week (only because I rang the bereavement mw again). I'm wondering, is it worth airing my 'grievances' here or is it purely to talk about what happened/will happen (if I get pregnant again)?

It probably depends on whether you want to make your grievances a formal or informal complaint and how relevant they are to future treatment. So if something specific happened last time and you want it not to happen again, you could say something like, "I'm concerned about what will happen if x as last time y happened which I don't want to happen again." and then see what they say. When I had my postnatal followup appointment at the hospital, I saw a consultant with a senior MW and they were both very reassuring about what treatment I could get in a future pregnancy and how to access it and gave me the answers I needed without me needing to express my concerns in the form of "grievances".

Air_Cooled_75

Thanks bwp, good ideas there. It's been 3 months since I had the mc (at 21 weeks) so I've been a little 'angry' lately about the lack of contact from the hospital.

I don't want to make them formal, the back story is my waters broke at 18 weeks and it took 3 visits to the hospital (gastroenteritis apparently, then thrush, they didn't even take the bleeding seriously the third time I went in at first). I don't actually feel as though I want to get pregnant again as I can't go through that again.

My big concern is that they didn't even test the placenta, I know it could be that they wouldn't find anything but I'm wondering 'why the big delay' and waste our time.