Miscarriage support

abis21

Awwww no Big hugs xxx I hate it when its like that as then yr scared to go to the toilet

claire16c

Im really sorry Greener Grass.

I agree Abi, at the booking in appt they ask you about miscarriages then, so you can tell them then so they note it down.

But i hope you dont ever need to have a reason for having it noted of course.

My DH has been so supportive Im really lucky. The day it happened, though i felt really bad later on because when we left the hospital after finding out he went to hold my hand as we walked out and I pushed him away and said, No dont touch me now I need to get into the car or Im going to cry.

Then when we got home he was kind of ok, rang my mum who left work to come home to see us. In the mean time he rang his mum and told her, and it was only when she must have heard her voice, he then cried. Which is weird as hes not close to her but I think it was just hearing her.

And then I said to him thats weird you only cried speaking to her, and he said no I actually cried when you pushed me away too. God I felt so bad! But he knew I hadnt seen him as I was deliberately looking away and just trying to get into the car as soon as possible in order not to break down crying on the pavement.

He then said after Id had the erpc, that it was weird because when I was pregnant, he didnt really connect to a 'baby' as such and he said what had upset him was thinking about all the stuff we had planned wasnt going to happen in July anymore. And then he showed me some stuff on the ipad he had been planning like cots and toys and stuff which was really sad.

MSM - I really hope you dont have an eptopic, hopefully as you dont have any pain thats a really good sign. Although of course I wish you werent having a mc at all.

MoneySavingMamma

Oh GG no!!!

One of us was supposed to have good luck! I've got watery bleeding, spotting on pad, but alot on wipes :-( and bits :-(

Hoping its just baby, and not me!!!

Thinking back over yesterday, really annoyed that I asked Dr that it'll be fine to try again, it wont affect my fertility. He never mentioned the 3-6 month wait!! And thats bang out of order!

Back for bloods at 9.30 tomorrow.

Sorry about your mum being rubbish, I never told mine about any, didnt want the 'mum fuss' !!

Only told OH & 1 friend on other side of country about this. But saw 2 school mums at hospital in scan waiting room, so now they know but not seen them since. (They were having 12week & 20week scans!)

Greener_Grass

bleeding has stopped thankfully, hope it doesn't start up again

How is everyone else today?

Good luck today MSM, thinking of you xxx

Big hugs to you Abis, hope your feeling a little better today xxx

MoneySavingMamma

Hi GG, glad your bleeding has stopped!

Mine still going steady, not spotting, but not 'soaking pads'

So hospital again today! Bloods (from both arms as missed vein!)

Scan, no sign of ectopic! Yey! And thickened lining, and collection of 'something' which could be a very early pregnancy!

I'm very happy that its most likely not ectopic, but sad that this baby just cannot be viable because of the amount of blood & clots i've been losing!

Back this afternoon for blood results, but the only way i will have an answer today is if hgc is down and mc can be confirmed.

If its up there is still a risk of ectopic, just cant be seen yet, and tiny tiny chance this baby is growing, but i cant see it lasting.

Another few days of my head being completetly messed up then!!!

claire16c

Im sorry you dont have an answer yet MSM. But I am very happy that its looking less likely to be an eptopic and you didnt have the injection which would prevent you ttc.

MoneySavingMamma

I've got proper cramps now & heavy bleeding! It seems every time they examine me it speeds it up!

Greener_Grass

Sorry to hear that yes it does seen to have that affect on me too. I only had spotting before my scan last miscarraige then as soon as I had scan heavy bleeding

Kitten_Pie

MSM, I know this probably doesn't help and I don't want to give false hope but my first pregnancy I had cramps and lots of bleeding huge clots etc.

A&E told me that there was nothing they could do, it wasn't ectopic so it was to just wait for it to happen.

In the end they had no idea why I bled but my babies (yes two) were fine. I did go on to lose them at birth but that was completely unrelated.

MoneySavingMamma

I'm really annoyed now that whatever is in there today has grown since Monday, that they tried to make me abort it, and only after tummy prodding on Wed have I really started bleeding, and I think I just mc'd as lots of pain, and now a calm belly, like relief.

They probably caused all of this that was just a very early pg, with spotting! Still waiting for call, but going to go in when OH can take over with childcare! (Hopefully in next 1/2hr)

Going to ask for another scan to confirm mc, the kick off for referal. They will argue that although body was rejecting last pregnancy, i still had a successful pg. but i mc before, and mc now & they've messed me about this week. If they dont i'll threaten action for misdiagnoses then pressurising harmful drugs!!

(Do they call this anger in the 7stages of grief?!)